disbelief Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 hey all. so my gf dumped me 1.5 months ago with the usual i need to work on myself line. said we should see other people and all that. we were together for 3.5 yrs and have a 2.5 yr old son so this isn't easy. so anyway last night she texts me and basically says " the reason i cant be with you is because i feel like you never really loved me you just loved the family - i want someone who loves me for me and whats to marry me" and a few other things along thoes lines... i can admit to not fully loving her the way i should have at times but i do really love her and i told her how much i love her last night and even seen her today and had hugs and all that but now she is saying " i want you in my life just not right now" so what is the message here? i know no woman will truly tell you how it REALLY is but im thinking what she is saying is basically this:" i miss you but not enough and hopefully i find someone better but if i dont i want you to wait for me" thats kinda what i see, how would you guys proceed?
CarrieT Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 i can admit to not fully loving her the way i should have Then you aren't fully, 100% compatible and should probably learn to co-parent as best you can. but now she is saying " i want you in my life just not right now" She wants you in her life because she knows you two will be sharing custody of your child. But she is going to date and put you on a back-burner as a potential in case anyone else doesn't work out. but im thinking what she is saying is basically this:" i miss you but not enough and hopefully i find someone better but if i dont i want you to wait for me" Yep. That's what she is saying. thats kinda what i see, how would you guys proceed? Research and implement The 180. Learn to live without her and move on.
d0nnivain Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 After 3.5 years together coupled with the fact that you are parents she convinced herself that if you truly loved her you would have at least proposed by now. Because you aren't married she decided it was time to move on from a relationship that she felt was going no where. 1
Author disbelief Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 yes but i want it to go somewhere. i think this is more of a attraction problem on her part
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