EO422 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 (edited) So, me and my ex just recently split. It's been a few weeks, around a month and a few days I have been healing for. I still miss her..but things have gotten easier. I am diving into my thoughts and feelings to try and speed up this process instead of ignore them....anyways...I just started classes and I met this really nice/cool/funny/sweet girl...I actually would want to progress with her into a relationship...BUT as I said..just got out of a relationship which was GREAT...we were compaitable but she just grew away and didn't want to be tied down at college since she was going to be a freshman. Things ended bad because of this, I had a lot of emotion and anger and just everything...I WANT to get over my ex NOW because that's how into dating this other girl I am. I just don't know what to do. I would like to wait and get over my ex..but if I do that then this girl is not going to wait around for me and I loose a chance at someone who could possibly be great for me. I do not want to lose out, but I do not want to go into a "rebound" and not have it work out..I'm hoping that I can go into the relationship and it works out...I just hate that it would be labeled a "rebound" Also, I am starting let go of my ex in my thoughts..she isn't coming into my future/fantasies anymore really...actually this new girl is coming up more often...anyways yeah! I am stuck yall...what do I do...how can I let go of hope for my ex coming back? I have a feeling she will text me and miss me because I know her and I know the lifestyle she is changing into isn't her...but what if I am wrong and she never contacts me again and I let this beautiful wonderful girl in my class go? I also get excited to go to class so I can see this girl. Edited September 8, 2015 by EO422
h0000 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I do not want to lose out, but I do not want to go into a "rebound" and not have it work out..I'm hoping that I can go into the relationship and it works out... Well most relationships dont work out otherwise most people would be married at 17 when they have their first relationship. I have a feeling she will text me and miss me because I know her and I know the lifestyle she is changing into isn't her...but what if I am wrong and she never contacts me again and I let this beautiful wonderful girl in my class go? . well you can only have one girl so you will have to choose. If you cant choose it means you dont really like any of them
Author EO422 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Well most relationships dont work out otherwise most people would be married at 17 when they have their first relationship. well you can only have one girl so you will have to choose. If you cant choose it means you dont really like any of them All I am wondering is if it's safe for me to go out with this girl and date her...that's really what I made this post for!!! It hasn't been long..but I do not want to pass up something great that could change my life forever
yellowhibiscus Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 There's no harm in dating someone after getting out of a relationship. You should, however, let this new girl know that you are just newly single. I would probably also take things slow to begin with so that you can take time to sort out feelings. Just have fun and keep things light to begin with. 2
casey.lives Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 if you go to the same school just keep saying hi for as long as you can and later on talk about the weather... keep it at that for awhile ... and then take about school keep at that for awhile... just keep talking but don't date/hang out until you are sure you and your ex and reconciliation wishes and the memories don't pull you in because you are without a doubt about why you broke up in a manner that hits you so sharply ...you know you're good. then you ask for her number and set up a short but fun date. Plus.. teehee.. time builds desire 1
Author EO422 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 You didn't have your dating profile back up within 5 minutes of your break up? Wow, you don't see that much these days. Is being alone really that bad? You'd rather use someone else than take the time to heal and get over the Ex before jumping the dating pool again? No it's not that, I do love myself a lot. I am confident in myself and know I can really accomplish anything I put my mind too... This girl sat next to me in class and we just started to hit it off..I was distant a bit at first because of me "healing" but then she got to me somehow and we got to talking and laughing and I could tell she was attracted to me! Saw signs of it...anyways yeah!
Jules Dash Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Seeking anorher relationship or comfort from another potential relationship candidate is all apart of life and dating. It is a way of life and there is nothing wrong with it. It is only natural. It is notoriously called rebound but it should also be called "trying to move on." How someone tries to move on does not work for everyone but if you wind up having a relationship of many years with this new woman of interest, no one will fault you for this. 2
h0000 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 All I am wondering is if it's safe for me to go out with this girl and date her... What do you mean by "safe"? As if it might sabotage something if you date her? 1
Author EO422 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 What do you mean by "safe"? As if it might sabotage something if you date her? Safe as in "am I in the clear, at this point in time on an emotional level" ...not being totally over my ex etc...
h0000 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Safe as in "am I in the clear, at this point in time on an emotional level" ...not being totally over my ex etc... well only you know if you are in the clear..you cant ask us if you are ready. However it doesnt sound like you are totally over your ex. You are just afraid of missing out (on this new girl). You know there are so many girls in the world, you are not missing out on anything just because you choose/ not choose to date one girl
xcupid Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 You're not clear of the emotions of the other relationship. But this new girl might be what you need if you don't see going back to your ex. Go for it.
smackie9 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 It doesn't always mean "rebound". Rebound is out of desperation to replace what they had. To me you just want to move on.
Jules Dash Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 LOL! Natural my ass. It's for the weak and people who are unhealthy. They are emotional vampires that suck the life out of you. Due to their need to always quinch their "thirst" when they have sucked almost all the essence from you they can get, they start the process of lining up their next victum (there is always overlap / cheating). If you meet someone and they have dated / been in relationships with any sort of breaks since they were 16 years old, chances are you are good that you are dating an emotionial vampire. Another good indication that a person person is an emotional vampire, they are still creating threads on break up forums and posting about their Ex like the OP is. Too bad you feel this way. 1
Author EO422 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 LOL! Natural my ass. It's for the weak and people who are unhealthy. They are emotional vampires that suck the life out of you. Due to their need to always quinch their "thirst" when they have sucked almost all the essence from you they can get, they start the process of lining up their next victum (there is always overlap / cheating). If you meet someone and they have dated / been in relationships with any sort of breaks since they were 16 years old, chances are you are good that you are dating an emotionial vampire. Another good indication that a person person is an emotional vampire, they are still creating threads on break up forums and posting about their Ex like the OP is. So wait? What's you objective coming onto this website? I hope it's not too just belittle those on here to make yourself feel better. You are basically an emotional vampire trying to make everyone feel bad until you feel better about yourself. 2
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