Chr15 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 If I was interested in a guy I wouldn't want to wait a month to see him again. Why can't she meet for even an hour for a coffee within the next month? Doesn't sound like she is interested.
Versacehottie Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Yeah doesn't sound like dating is a priority for her now. Whether it's in general or with you specifically. She took a month to finally meet up with you so that realistically makes me think she is not over someone or just dating around. And then won't see you essentially for another month. Whatever you do, don't send an email or text or message asking her to critique the date and see where you stand. Even if I liked a guy, that would put me off. Be confident. Her actions speak for themselves. Which doesn't have to be a negative or jaded perspective as you might get here. If you are ok with keeping up texting, messages only for another 3-4 weeks then do it. But date others obviously. From the tone of your post though, it feels like you want an answer right now. I don't think it will be good if you push for it right now and you might push her away from something she will be ready for in a month. Either way don't put too much hope into this one. But don't get down on yourself, I know lots of people whose relationships didn't start perfectly smoothly. Don't get jaded is what I'm saying. Take a realistic and factual approach. Good luck.
Els Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 A month is a very long time to wait, planning sister's wedding or not. I mean, it doesn't have to be an all-day date, surely she can fit in a couple hours for lunch or dinner if she wants to. So I'm guessing she's not that interested, perhaps she's hoping you will forget about her come October. I agree with joseb, don't send her that text, date others.
LilaMarie Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Congrats on a good first date Sorry, now I have to burst your bubble. It sounds like maybe she's not THAT into you. Don't worry, plenty of fish in the sea
Maggie4 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I agree with the others. And you'll know she's not interested if she stops talking to you online after today.
Author Teknoe Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 I agree with the others. And you'll know she's not interested if she stops talking to you online after today. We texted back and forth for a little bit earlier tonight. So not all is lost. I won't get my hopes up but I'm oddly very calm and optimistic about this. Time will tell.
Author Teknoe Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Hey everyone, I've had some clunkers lately, but I met a girl today who I've been talking online with for almost a month. We just met up today. I treated her to lunch and felt we connected pretty well. I'm early 30s M and she's mid 20s F. I texted her after our first date/meeting that I'd like to grab dinner next time. She said it sounds good, but that it will likely come after early October (she is planning her sister's wedding and it's a pretty crazy time for her right now). So I understand and am totally cool with that, but one of my friends is more skeptical wondering "Hey Tek, that's almost a month from now." I mentioned my date did mention she wants to take things slowly, and I can respect that. My friend said "OK but as long as you know what you're getting yourself into." Latest: I emailed her and offered to meet up sometime before the wedding for drinks/coffee. Something light, quick and simple. We'll see how she responds. We did text back and forth a little bit earlier tonight.
Cupid's Puppet Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I don't like that response OP. I really want things to work out for you. But if a guy I like said our next date will be a month from now, I would move on. You're just asking to have dinner with her. I understand she has a busy schedule, but she has to eat anyway so why not take one day to eat with you?
ExpatInItaly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Definitely do not ask her how the first meeting went or how she feels about you. That is so awkward. I would say she's not overly interested if she's put you off until October. I'm a busy woman too but still managed to find time to see my boyfriend when we first started dating. Having said that, if she's still texting you that's not a terrible sign. But I would keep dating around and be open to other possibilities.
LookAtThisPOst Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 it's a pretty crazy time for her right now Sorry, man, but when a someone starts a sentence about "how crazy my life is", it's usually a blow-off. 2
oldshirt Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Sorry, man, but when a someone starts a sentence about "how crazy my life is", it's usually a blow-off. It's at bare minimum a disclaimer to not get your hopes up. Everyone is busy. Everyone is planning a wedding. Everyone has a crazy work schedule. But people still do what they want to do. If she wanted to meet you for breakfast at Denny's this morning, she would. Saying she's not available for a month was a tactic in hopes you would forget about her and move on by then. If you want to ask her out again at some point, that's fine, you can try. But don't get your hopes up and don't take yourself off the market waiting for her. Keep looking and keep taking out other women. This one is probably not a match.
TouchedByViolet Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 This isn't mutual attraction. She would want to see you at least weekly if she liked you.
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