aboucher21 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 So I am a sophomore in college and there is this other sophomore that I have talked to a few times before. The thing is she is gorgeous and she gets hit on all day, everyday. I consider myself a pretty attractive and genuine guy but how do I separate myself from everybody else? I am looking to date her, not hook up with her by the way. I'm not that kinda guy! Any advice will help
Gary S Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 The first thing would be to change your attitude. There are plenty of beautiful women with beauty-challenged guys. If you are worried about your looks, workout. God does not respect any one person above another. 1
Author aboucher21 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 The first thing would be to change your attitude. There are plenty of beautiful women with beauty-challenged guys. If you are worried about your looks, workout. God does not respect any one person above another. No I am not worried about my looks. I just want to know how to separate myself and not be just someone else that is talking to her lol
Vercetti Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 She is a flawed human just like you, that hasn't even started life yet. You find her amazing yet there are many that see her as average and just not thier type. 2
Gary S Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 The second thing to learn is that for men, unless they look like Brad Pit, love is a number's game....the woman has to like you, or nothing is going to ever start. And their feelings are separate from yours. As long as you are not mean to them, how much you like them does not count. Are there other women in school you would kiss, if given the chance? Start looking for the girls who like you first............be sociable, talk to the beauty challenged ones.......maybe her hot girlfriend will get jealous and want in on the action! Plus, you have a lot less rejection. If you'll only pursue women who like you quickly and more, your love life will be a whole lot easier and more rewarding. 2
Author aboucher21 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 So basically just go with the flow? do what comes natural
d0nnivain Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Stop with the leagues. She is just another sophomore. You are in the same league, to the extent they exist at all. Talk to her. Listen when she speaks. Be interested in her. Don't let this go on so long that you get friendzoned but be friendly before you get flirtatious.
Gary S Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 (edited) Yes, be sociable, crack jokes, be noticed, sit in front of the class, always look your best. But the main thing is, watch and try to read the girls around you......try to read their body language, eyes, and facial expressions like a poker player, to see which ones like you........talk is cheap but actions scream when it comes to deciphering interest. Women flirt and give off signals, but the vast majority of men don't see it.......so if you can learn to do this, you'll be way ahead of the game compared to the other guys! See which ones do weird stuff around you, get shy around you, get loud around you (they are trying to get your attention). And again, if they like you first, they are more likely to say "yes" when you ask them for their number - that means no rejection (you'll always get some rejection but we want to minimize it). You could go into one of your classes and ask every girl in the room for her number, and you might get one or two numbers......but it's not likely to be the girl you think is the prettiest girl in the room (Sometimes it happens but it's rare). You can lead a horse to water to but you can't make them drink. It has to be her own idea. The woman has to feel something for you early on or it's never going to go anywhere. Edited September 7, 2015 by Gary S
Gus Grimly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 ...the woman has to like you, or nothing is going to ever start. When I was in my early 20's this really pretty, kinda shallow girl would always insult me in front of friends at get-togethers and parties. She'd put me down or find a way to make me feel 2 inches tall. I thought she was a evil B. Years later I found out she was madly in love with me. Uh, what? I guess she thought I was out of her league, that I was unobtainable so she wanted to hate me to stop loving me ... or something. Who knows really? I would have gone out with her too as I had a crush on her when we first met. So, get the league thing out of your head, it's dumb. It's all in people's minds. Someone either likes you or they don't. 1
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Stop with the leagues. She is just another sophomore. You are in the same league, to the extent they exist at all. Talk to her. Listen when she speaks. Be interested in her. Don't let this go on so long that you get friendzoned but be friendly before you get flirtatious. Yip - get the idea that she is out of your league out of your head. That's step one. Once you have done that (for real) then you can go and talk to her. If she is really hot, and gets hit on, then commenting on her looks is not a good idea. Look for things about her personality you like. Go in with the mentality that you want to find out more about her, not that you oh so want to be with her. And yes, you will need to be a bit flirty. And playful. And funny. Don't make it out to be something bigger than it is in your head.
Ami1uwant Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 My advice...talk to her...don't hit on her. If you see sll these guys hitting on her...see what they do and avoid doing that. 1
preraph Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 The fact you find her out of your league tells me you probably do not have the confidence to reel her in. And by the way, you have little to no control over whether a woman likes you back. She may like a guy who is charitable like Pres. Carter or a man who looks like an underwear model or only like blondes or only like athletes or musicians or loud gregarious guys or laid back guys. She is who she is and you can't change that. The very most you can hope for is to be up front about who you are and not try to fool or manipulate her and just see if she has any interest in you. Since she's got a lot of guys around, being one more guy lurking around hounding her certainly isn't going to do it. To be interesting to another person, you have to also be interesting in general, to lots of people, and have something going for yourself or have something in common at least. The best way to get her attention is for her to see that you are a well liked guy with lots of friends who isn't ready to be her chihuahua nipping at her heels just because she's pretty or whatever. So work on making yourself more interesting, more multifaceted, following your passions, reading, traveling, whatever broadens your scope. My advice is don't put all your eggs in one basket. Date around. 1
joseb Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 The best way to get her attention is for her to see that you are a well liked guy with lots of friends who isn't ready to be her chihuahua nipping at her heels just because she's pretty or whatever. So work on making yourself more interesting, more multifaceted, following your passions, reading, traveling, whatever broadens your scope. My advice is don't put all your eggs in one basket. Date around. All of the above, especially in bold. LOL at the chihuahua imagery 1
lino Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Start selling drugs and you can have any woman you want.
kassy Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Go talk to her get to know her a bit, don't put her on a pedestal, and if you decide you still like her after getting to know her then just ask her out on a date. She will either say yes or no. Don't overthink this, it's a simple three step process 1) talk to her 2) decide if you still like her 3) ask her out if you do. Many men forget step 3 which means they never know if she liked them or not. Don't take too long in the process, you are asking her on a date not to get married, you don't need to be her BFF before asking her out. There will be many other girls you will like in your life so just go take your chances. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Leagues are rubbish, other men hitting on her are irrelevant. Just do your own thing. Have fun and good luck
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