sanne Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 I find that when I spend real time away from my ex, it is the only time I ever gain real clarity about my situation. I'm proud of myself because I finally had the courage to go and tell my ex that our relationship wasn't in either of our best interests anymore and that I no longer could see myself loving her like I used to after what she had done to me. NC has made me realize a lot of things about my relationship with my ex and what I want from life. I realize now that if someone really loves you, the way I loved my ex, the furthest thing from their mind would be to do something that would inflict serious emotional harm. I see my ex for who she really is, the most manipulative lying person I've ever met in my life. I feel sad because nobody knows who she really is but me, and I also feel sad that she lies so much that I think she actually believes her own lies. Sometimes when you know what you need to do, it's just so hard because you don't want to accept the truth. I just didn't want to accept the fact that my ex isn't a good person at all, in fact she is the most horrible person I know. Beneath her sweet exterior lies a scheming manipulative liar, who only seeks her own best interests. The good news, I'm actually going on a date tonight. I met this girl who was the daughter of a friend of my mom's and we really hit it off a few weeks ago. I gave her my name and number but she didn't call until this week. Anyways I'll admit I am sad to let my ex go, but I'm also excited about my future. Thank god i don't remember her phone#, i deleted it off my phone and deleted her from my buddy lists. Hopefully i can stick with this, actually I know I will stick with this. The line has been drawn and i'm not going back anymore.
ConfusedInOC Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 AMEN bro. Stick with it. Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing you miss them. With no contact will come her curiosity and she will eventually try and contact you. Resist that urge. Wish I had with my ex and I paid the price. Now I move on and no matter what she says or does, I am NOT contacting her.
Jadey Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Way to go! That is brilliant. I wish i could say the same.. Keep it up. Confused, do you really think that if you have NC with an ex they all are curious and wonder why? Just asking..
ConfusedInOC Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Jadey Confused, do you really think that if you have NC with an ex they all are curious and wonder why? Just asking.. Depends completely on the person. If they broke up with little or no feelings for you and are in love with their new person, chances are they aren't going to break NC. They might wonder whatever happened to you, but it's more out of satisfying a curiosity than genuine interest.
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