katiegrl Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 (edited) When I was dating a girl for 4 months I went to Greece for a holiday with my best friend. I took my phone over on holiday but quickly found out I couldnt get a signal when I arrived and couldnt text her. I think it drive her insane she didnt hear from me. I d say try not to worry as he is on holiday and depending where he is his phone might not connect to the network. That happened to my boyfriend too.... I didn't become insecure though....just worried about him! And I could not get a hold of him either. However, when he returned, as soon as his plane landed, he texted me IMMEDIATELY -- I remember it was like 4:00 AM in the morning, and he texted me to tell me he was back and apologized for not contacting me but there was NO cell phone signal. He was actually quite upset....because he thought I might be upset! THAT is how people behave in relationships when they CARE. If they can't get in touch while they're gone....then they get in touch as soon as they return - if only to say, "hey I'm back, I'm beat, but will talk to you later! Missed you." I just can't believe how many posters are saying "oh, it's fine, he's tired, give him a few days to unwind, blah blah." That is BS! How long does it take to send a 10 second text message letting her know he's back for cryin out loud. These are the sort of red flags many women IGNORE....and end up ultimately getting their hearts ripped to shreds. Pay attention to his behavior... don't ignore, justify, etc. That's just asking for heartbreak IMO. Edited September 9, 2015 by katiegrl 1
katiegrl Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I wouldn't worry about it--time can get away from you when you're en vacances. You might want to install whatsapp on your phone (You use wi-fi instead of data to send messages) and use that to communicate--he might have gotten his phone bill and roaming kicked in some how while away... or the wi-fi wasn't working where he was. Give him a day to get over the jet lag before jumping on his head with "where were you!!!!!!!!!" LOL....well yeah I would not recommend that, for sure! But if you don't hear from him for a few days....don't just dismiss it....he is sending you a clear message IMO. Adjust your behavior accordingly....and continue to pay attention to HIS actions. If he begins acting cold and distant, then yeah address it. NOT in an accusatory way....but in a concerned way.... like "hey, I have noticed you're acting a little distant lately, since you've returned. Everything okay? Anything you want to discuss?" Something like that.
strawberryshortstack Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 You're not seriously comparing parents and friends to a husband? Maybe I have very high standards, but I wouldn't expect to be ignored by my SO for a week. Not even a text? Sorry not buying it. He's not her husband. He's someone she's been dating for 2 months. 2
brokengirl85 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I think he may be Lodi g interest. I have my phone always, even on vacation I have time to send a quick text to the people I care. Plus he said he was tired??
joseb Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 You're not seriously comparing parents and friends to a husband? Maybe I have very high standards, but I wouldn't expect to be ignored by my SO for a week. Not even a text? Sorry not buying it. They have been dating for a few weeks, and are not even intimate yet. Who said anything about a husband? Anyway, there are a multitude of reasons he might not contact for a few days while traveling. But if he still hasn't contact the OP at this stage, and is back more than a day, then I'm inclined to agree with you guys that something is off.
Gaeta Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I think he may be Lodi g interest. I have my phone always, even on vacation I have time to send a quick text to the people I care. Plus he said he was tired?? Heard from him? You know maybe while he was gone he realized he was investing too much of himself too fast. You said he invited you to go to France with him after only dating 2 months. That seemed a bit rushed to me to travel across the ocean to meet his family after such a short time dating. I mean meeting them casually because they live 2 streets away is one thing and paying a trip to Europe to meet them is another.
Zippy2000 Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 That happened to my boyfriend too.... I didn't become insecure though....just worried about him! And I could not get a hold of him either. However, when he returned, as soon as his plane landed, he texted me IMMEDIATELY -- I remember it was like 4:00 AM in the morning, and he texted me to tell me he was back and apologized for not contacting me but there was NO cell phone signal. He was actually quite upset....because he thought I might be upset! THAT is how people behave in relationships when they CARE. If they can't get in touch while they're gone....then they get in touch as soon as they return - if only to say, "hey I'm back, I'm beat, but will talk to you later! Missed you." I just can't believe how many posters are saying "oh, it's fine, he's tired, give him a few days to unwind, blah blah." That is BS! How long does it take to send a 10 second text message letting her know he's back for cryin out loud. These are the sort of red flags many women IGNORE....and end up ultimately getting their hearts ripped to shreds. Pay attention to his behavior... don't ignore, justify, etc. That's just asking for heartbreak IMO. Couldnt agree with you more. If someone cares its in their actions. Im not making any excuses for anyone not contacting them whilst on holiday. In my case I was on a Greek island called Kos in the Mediterranean sea. There was definitely no signal. Im sure when he`s back from France and if he cared. As Katie said above. He`d be in touch.
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