singlelife Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I have female friends who are always saying they give guys hints they want to start something up but guys don't take the bait. Us guys don't always get it because you're so secretive about it. 4
Frank2thepoint Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I agree. Flirting is like riding a bicycle or swimming. It has to be learned and practiced. 1
Author singlelife Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 I agree. Flirting is like riding a bicycle or swimming. It has to be learned and practiced. SO I guess ladys don't understand they aren't letting folks know they like them like they want to. So how are people supposed to get together?
Vercetti Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 If don't pick up on the flirting, then wasn't ment to be. Everytime I've been hit on its the same, talking to me for no reason about nothing, being a bit flustered and babbling, heavy eye contact, bashful smiles, standing bit close, being touched randomly. I'm sure I've overlooked girls flirting, just usually cause not my type. 4
Imported Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Have you ever felt like a girl was into you, but you weren't sure? Did you do anything about it? I mean, it's not like you gotta go up to them and say....'hey, I think you're giving me signals that you want to see my penis.' Just smile at 'em, say something.....simple and non-presumptuous and reassess. 1
WonderKid Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I can be oblivious myself at times. But there have been a few cases where I was told a lady was into me and I never knew. With me, you have to lay it on pretty thick.
Author singlelife Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Have you ever felt like a girl was into you, but you weren't sure? Did you do anything about it? I mean, it's not like you gotta go up to them and say....'hey, I think you're giving me signals that you want to see my penis.' Just smile at 'em, say something.....simple and non-presumptuous and reassess. Wow!! Lol. Sometimes it's hard to tell if a girl likes you.
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 There are a lot of women that are afraid to put themselves out there and expect the guy to step up even if there is no obvious signals.....which is dumb. It's that kind of attitude that has them not getting many dates. I do feel for you guys. Women who sit on their tuffet waiting for prince charming to come along and notice them, need a hard kick in the tuffet lol. 3
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I mean, it's not like you gotta go up to them and say....'hey, I think you're giving me signals that you want to see my penis.' LOL! That would make me laugh! omg so funny. 1
carhill Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I have female friends who are always saying they give guys hints they want to start something up but guys don't take the bait. One potential is that the particular persons are so used to having any attention exhibited returned and being pursued that they are incredulous when a man doesn't react and, since they can't read his mind, project their own emotional state onto the interaction. In reality, the guy could be married/LTR, could be gay, could be elsewhere in his mind and not reading 'signals' or could simply be not interested for a variety of reasons, some having nothing to do with the lady herself. When a woman flirts with me or shows attention beyond the usual and sundry 'yikes another annoying insect in my space', my first mental response is 'is she married?' and, overwhelmingly, the result has been 'yes!'. That's why I don't flirt back immediately. Missed out on a few chances over the decades? Probably! That's OK. We do what we do. The guys who go for anything in a skirt if she lets them probably have better fortunes. Good on them. The ladies don't wonder 'why' with them. Heh.
Vintage79 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 If they're complaining about it...I say let them continue to suffer in silence until they figure out how to flirt better...
pleasedtomeetyou Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 If you can read body language, you shouldn't have any problems. Generally speaking, the more open a lady's body is (I mean this in the context of sitting down at a restaurant or bar), the more comfortable she is with you. It's why I like to plan sitting dates at a barstool, on a bench or some other form of sitting where we are side-by-side, but also facing each other. It's much easier to tell if the date is going well then if you have an artificial barrier (table) between the two of you.
Imported Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Wow!! Lol. Sometimes it's hard to tell if a girl likes you. It is. But usually if you create the situation for her to be receptive to your advances.....she will be receptive if she likes you. You don't need to and you shouldn't put anything on the line, just a simple acknowledgement/conversation/greetings/whatever. It keeps the wheel turning. If she is actually interested, she'll keep it turning too. If not, it'll just be a short conversation or whatever. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Everytime I've been hit on its the same, talking to me for no reason about nothing, being a bit flustered and babbling, heavy eye contact, bashful smiles, standing bit close, being touched randomly. Those are actually clear indicators a woman is flirting. But like smackie9 said, there are women that don't even do what you just mentioned, but expect the man to still act. It's not gonna work.
Author singlelife Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Those are actually clear indicators a woman is flirting. But like smackie9 said, there are women that don't even do what you just mentioned, but expect the man to still act. It's not gonna work. No it's not. This is goo dinfo for women.
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 It's awful here in Fort Solutions Texas. It's in the Dallas - Fort Steak area, near Fort Steak. I hear that Pappas Steakhouse is the best place in Dallas.
Gary S Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 This thread is very true, most guys don't get hints. Usually, the man has to be interested and ask for her number. Sometimes if the woman is interested enough she'll make a move.
Popsicle Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I have noticed that men always give dating advice to other men that make men feel comfortable, rather than women; and women always give advice to other women that make women feel comfortable, rather than men. That's just how it is. 3
seekingluck Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I can be oblivious myself at times. But there have been a few cases where I was told a lady was into me and I never knew. With me, you have to lay it on pretty thick. I have the same problem! I totally miss the men who are flirting with me. My friends tell me later and pick on me.
LilaMarie Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it 1
kilgore Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I couldn't flirt if my life depended on it Well, that would make you too tense to flirt, I would think 1
JustGettingBy Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I can be oblivious myself at times. But there have been a few cases where I was told a lady was into me and I never knew. With me, you have to lay it on pretty thick. Dude, I've missed multiple instances, each where multiple women were outright hitting on me, at least according to my friends. Also, flirting doesn't have a...definition...from what I understand. My research flirting is asking dozens of times, and getting even more answers, and spending years researching it. My understanding of string theory comes from watching a 10 minute video. Guess which one I have a clearer understanding of.
LilaMarie Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 It's the same with guys...sometimes it's obvious when they ask about having a bf, but other times it could just be happy, chatty men? Why is this dating stuff so complicated? No wonder there are so many books out there. So ready, for this to be over for me. 1
kilgore Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 It's the same with guys...sometimes it's obvious when they ask about having a bf, but other times it could just be happy, chatty men? Why is this dating stuff so complicated? No wonder there are so many books out there. So ready, for this to be over for me. If I had to start dating again, it would be a disaster
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 There are a lot of women that are afraid to put themselves out there and expect the guy to step up even if there is no obvious signals.....which is dumb. It's that kind of attitude that has them not getting many dates. I do feel for you guys. Women who sit on their tuffet waiting for prince charming to come along and notice them, need a hard kick in the tuffet lol. Ya tell me about it, as a guy I've always detested, resented the gender role that guys have to approach and make the first move, and that's why I started my own thread on it because I feel I shouldn't feel that say because it makes me feel like I'm not a normal guy because people argue and say that us guys are natural hunters and pursuers 1
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