craw Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 How did you go through a break up? I miss my best friend, I'm not fully happy with him and I'm miserable without him. Why must it be so complicated? Please yell at me. I've tried meeting up with old friends. I've even tried to go on a date.
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 It's not complicated at all. You can only ever get over someone fully, if you really want to. While you still cling to the bits you enjoyed, and now miss, you'll never get over him. You need to stop wanting them back, and just consign them to memories of some good times. Do you remember why you left him? Then instead, focus on that. 2
Christos Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I beg to differ. You seem to have a case of grass is greener syndrome... He is your best friend, you are miserable without him, and the reason you dumbed him was because you were not fully happy with him. Something i read like "i am happy with him, but think i could do better". In my opinion, you should think clear about what was exactly that you didn't like? No relationship is perfect. NONE! 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Christos, bear in mind that they hadn't had sex for 5 years. This was essentially two close room-mates living together... Would you go back to living with a room-mate who was supposedly your 'life-partner' but with whom you didn't have any form of close physical interaction - at all...? 1
Author craw Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Yeah that was one of the main reasons that it was time to break it off. We still love each other. He broke up with me last December. When I was away, but when I came back we sort of got back together. I'm actually avoiding going to see him, because I know once I see him, we will end up cuddling. I do acknowledge the bad times. There are times I'm with him and I feel alone. Yes it's true no relationship is perfect.
Author craw Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Christos, bear in mind that they hadn't had sex for 5 years. This was essentially two close room-mates living together... Would you go back to living with a room-mate who was supposedly your 'life-partner' but with whom you didn't have any form of close physical interaction - at all...? whoa whoa - I understand you have been through my post history, but it wasn't we hadn't had sex for 5 years.
disbelief Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 you should lay out all the things that you didnt like about the relationship and demand that they must change. if he is willing to work on it give him another chance. losing the girl you love is so brutal for a guy, he deserves another chance. tell him where he ****ed up and tell him that if he loves you he will do whats right. 1
Author craw Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 I appreciate your opinion. I can't demand he change the things about him, he has to change if he wants to change. Do you know what I mean? How many times are we going to talk about the same things again? At least we made some break through tonight, he said there are issues in our relationship, but no relationship is perfect. Oh well, let's see. I haven't seen him since the 17th August.
TunaCat Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 You're having a hard time getting over him because you haven't really broken up. If you are avoiding him because you know you'll end up cuddling with him, then you lack self control. Block him on all avenues. Do not see him anymore. Your breakup recovery will go so much faster.
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