wow Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Well, i have had nc with my ex for over a month. She has called everyday for a month but i have stood strong. {EX is female and broke up with me.} Yesterday she called and left a voice message saying we need to collect some stuff together from a some shop. So i decided to go with her because i would probaly never had got it done any other time. We met she argued with me about not picking up her calls. I said we were over so I did not have to. Now after collecting the stuff she invited me back to her place i agreed. Spent some time there and then we had SEX. All it was to me is sex, ithink it is more to her because she wants us to spend time together. My question is does sex after a break up have any significance?
whichwayisup Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 You know the answer to that question. You got laid cuz the offer was there, but deep in yer gut YOU knew that she was still having some feelings there...Why else would she be calling you all the time. Unfortunately now, she's on the way of thinking you both are gonna get back together. Best thing you can do is tell her the sex was great, you don't regret it but it can't happen again. That casual sex between you two is not going to work. Be firm about this or she WILL start pursuing you again big time. Women (most women) can't handle casual sex from the EX. Just brings up all the feelings and emotions again. That is why NC is a must, no matter how much it hurts. Do you have any intention of getting back together with her at some point? If no, then be honest and tell her that. Be nice about it, no need to be hurtful as it's just gonna make it worse.
Skeered Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 I think for you it was more revenge sex...lol kinda well you coulda had this but you screwed up. Obviously for you it didn't mean anything more than sex..but to her it was probably her thought of trying to get you back.... What was her reason for breakin up with you in the first place...seems weird she broke up and is now trying to get you back? Did she try another relationship that didn't work out? Be cautious of her...just my opinion...
Lonestar Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 You knew she still had feelings, she's been calling you. You shouldn't have slept with her unless you were clear that it was only sex and nothing else.
Merin Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 LOL Oh hell nah! There is no way I'm down for having sex with an EX... even if the sex was or always had been amazing... When I'm done, I'm freakin done with all of it! LOL She might think it meant more... and for real for someone who broke up with you she sure does seem upset about you not taking her calls...
lostinmyself Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Skeered What was her reason for breakin up with you in the first place...seems weird she broke up and is now trying to get you back? I'd like to know this also. Cuz it does seem a little weird.... even if the sex was great. Originally posted by Merin When I'm done, I'm freakin done with all of it! Ditto to that!
Jadey Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Oh dear. To be honest i think you were unthoughtful and wrong to have sex with her cos deep down you KNEW that she wanted you back didnt you!? Most women cant not have the casual sex without gaining or bringing alive the feelings. If you dont want to have anything more with her romanticaly you need to tell her. Let her down gentley but be honest. Yep it will moist probably hurt her but it will hurt alot more in the long run if you keep having the casual sex. I personally think its a BAD idea to have sex with an ex if theres no intensions to get back. Unless you BOTH know how it stands. If not feelings are sure to get hurt.. Think before oyu act!
ConfusedInOC Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin LOL Oh hell nah! There is no way I'm down for having sex with an EX... even if the sex was or always had been amazing... When I'm done, I'm freakin done with all of it! LOL She might think it meant more... and for real for someone who broke up with you she sure does seem upset about you not taking her calls... +1. If ex came back to me for sex I'd KNOW it was because she was rejected by her new beau, lonely or he wasn't satisfying her. No way she's getting anymore candy from daddy....
Merin Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by ConfusedInOC No way she's getting anymore candy from daddy.... Word
scarlyjones Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Yeah,..sex with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend,...is always a bad idea. She kinda made it pretty clear that she wanted to get back together and you sorta seemed to take advantage of that a little bit. Well,.....a lotta bit, actually. Best thing to do would be to end it all together.
Bubbles Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 And you thought that her daily phone calls were driving you nuts in the past?????? Boy are you in for it now! You really have no idea the "can of worms" that you have just opened up! Oh Well......you did it to yourself! Good Luck Buddy, That was not the brightest thing to do. bubbles
fundamental Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Merin LOL Oh hell nah! There is no way I'm down for having sex with an EX... even if the sex was or always had been amazing... When I'm done, I'm freakin done with all of it! LOL She might think it meant more... and for real for someone who broke up with you she sure does seem upset about you not taking her calls... She is trying to manipulate/seduce him... so that her ego will rise. She probably still has feelings for him but it's an ego boost to be able to dump a guy, have him ignore phone calls, practice NC, then get him in bed again. I guess women do like a real challenge.
fundamental Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Originally posted by Jadey Oh dear. To be honest i think you were unthoughtful and wrong to have sex with her cos deep down you KNEW that she wanted you back didnt you!? Most women cant not have the casual sex without gaining or bringing alive the feelings. If you dont want to have anything more with her romanticaly you need to tell her. Let her down gentley but be honest. Yep it will moist probably hurt her but it will hurt alot more in the long run if you keep having the casual sex. I personally think its a BAD idea to have sex with an ex if theres no intensions to get back. Unless you BOTH know how it stands. If not feelings are sure to get hurt.. Think before oyu act! maybe she shouldn't have left him in the first place.
Author wow Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 Well she broke up with me because she wants her freedom. but still be friends wioth me So my feeling on all of this is that she string me along until she meets someone new, then get rid of me for good. I dont know if she is playing me or am I playing her. Either way one of us are going to get hurt. I am going to initiate NC from now until Monday. To really think about this topic. I do care about her but I do not want to get hurt by her again. So by having sex and not caring i feel. In control and my emotions untouchable by her. PS. She was so upset that i did not call her after the deed was done. After stating what i have might give you a better picture of the sex after breakup story seeing that she wants her freedom. She is not messing around with anyone else, i am sure.
sanne Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 my god women are evil. i swear, so conniving all the time. little do they realize that once they stop playing games, they start finding true happiness.
whichwayisup Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 Originally posted by sanne my god women are evil. i swear, so conniving all the time. little do they realize that once they stop playing games, they start finding true happiness. Some yes, some no...AND the same can be said about SOME men too. Please don't generalize like that and say "ALL" women are evil because that isn't true. Maybe all the women you've met are evil...
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