brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 So I have very small breasts. In my day to day, I use the push up that adds two cups and it's great. But how about using double push up for the first dates? I want them to feel attracted but I don't want them to be disappointed if I end liking the guy and we get intimate. So this is my question: double push up or regular bra??
RedRobin Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Being ashamed of your body is a turn off. I sometimes wear a bra that adds a cup, not to fool anyone, but to look more proportioned... depending on the outfit... Mostly I wear no bra unless I'm in a professional setting and I have to keep the nips covered or the top is see through. My suggestion? A couple of pasties over the nips (or not! and let the girls shine all on their own. You can show off the 100% natural, no sag look. Has worked for me! If the guy is a 'boob man', the 2X bra wouldn't be big or bouncy enough for those guys anyway, so don't bother. Just flaunt what you got and be proud of them. 5
kassy Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I'm a chick, so maybe a guys opinion is more important. But, why create a situation that is going to lead to future insecurity? Go with the regular bra, dress cute and go be awesome. If it goes well then you don't have to worry later if he's going to be disappointed in your smaller than represented breasts. Honestlmy just go have fun 6
bluefeather Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 (edited) Sorry, I'm not familiar with this term. A push-up bra I understand... a double push up is like the next step of a push-up? Even just reading a girl talk about this kind of makes my brain start lagging. Seriously, I'm not sure what to say right now... I'll get back to you. edit: ok. ^that should say enough about it. If you want to show something off, go ahead. But you don't have to make them look bigger than they are. For me, as a guy, it doesn't matter if they are big or small. To be blunt, if I was into you, and you showed a hint of what you looked like naked (i.e. any cleavage), that would draw me in all on its own, no matter the size. If I am into a girl, I become attracted to everything about her. I hope that makes sense. Edited September 7, 2015 by bluefeather 3
Gus Grimly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I want them to feel attracted but I don't want them to be disappointed if I end liking the guy and we get intimate. Where do I meet women like you? I've been on 2 dates in the past 3 weeks and they've all be super boring. To me, it doesn't matter. If a woman wants to get intimate on the first date the choice of bra is the last thing on my mind. If it makes you feel sexy then go for it. 2
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Where do I meet women like you? I've been on 2 dates in the past 3 weeks and they've all be super boring. To me, it doesn't matter. If a woman wants to get intimate on the first date the choice of bra is the last thing on my mind. If it makes you feel sexy then go for it. Ha, do you like small breasts? I was actually referring to a second or even third date. Although, if I'd date you, I'd have to think about it 1
Gus Grimly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Ha, do you like small breasts? I was actually referring to a second or even third date. Although, if I'd date you, I'd have to think about it I like personalities, does that help you? Ah gotcha, even if you offered I wouldn't have bitten. I'm old school. But it has caused me probs in the past because the women thought I wasn't interested. I made one date cry for not having sex with her on the 3rd date, she never talked to me again. Oops. If you feel comfortable with him and wanna show off a 'lil sex appeal, I don't see how it could hurt. 1
bluefeather Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 is it getting hot in here or something? heh heh.. phew 1
bluefeather Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I think you should be yourself, and not try and advertise something you don't have. How would you feel about a guy stuffing his pants to make his package look bigger? So many beautiful women have very small breasts. Own it. I don't think that is quite the same. You could maybe use that argument if she was stuffing her bra. A push-up just pushes it up. It's like having them squeezed. I need to stop following this thread. 1
neowulf Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 So I have very small breasts. In my day to day, I use the push up that adds two cups and it's great. But how about using double push up for the first dates? I want them to feel attracted but I don't want them to be disappointed if I end liking the guy and we get intimate. So this is my question: double push up or regular bra?? Don't be ashamed to be who and what you are. If a guy can't handle you having small breasts, then he's not the right guy for you. Above all else, be authentic. It'll save you a lot of heart ache in the long run.
Els Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 IMO the issue is that you're focusing too much on the size of your breasts. I'm on the small side as well and I can't imagine wearing a bra so heavily padded that it increases TWO cup sizes on a daily basis - that must be awfully uncomfortable! Regardless of whether you choose to wear it to the date or not, I suggest that you just think less about your boobs and more about the human connection that relationships really are about. Focus on the guy, on your conversation with him, on having a great time if both of you click. 9
Gus Grimly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Read what she said again. The OP says her push up bra adds 2 full cup sizes. Whoa, I didn't realize until I googled it. Huh, will wonders never cease? Yeah, that might be a tad much.
Ami1uwant Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 My two cents... What attracts me to a woman is n her personality..not her breast size. Actually I'm turned off by too large breasts. I don't like is deceit.....wearing double size pads is deceitful. I understand the need yo wear them because of what you are wearing. 1
rocketman122 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 (edited) Whoa, I didn't realize until I googled it. Huh, will wonders never cease? Yeah, that might be a tad much. OP, dont wear the pads. a lot of guys like small breasts. I used to be one of them. till I met my ex and then even became a breast man, when I was an assman. dont do. Edited September 7, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator off topic commentary~T
Empyrea Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I think you should wear what makes you feel comfortable and confident. Granted, going up two cup sizes might be a bit excessive, but I don't think a slight push up is going to do any harm, if it will make you feel more like yourself. Like I have nice boobs, but I always wear a push up bra, just because I feel more confident that way. And I haven't heard any gasps of disappointment yet.
Lois_Griffin Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 So I have very small breasts. In my day to day, I use the push up that adds two cups and it's great. But how about using double push up for the first dates? I want them to feel attracted but I don't want them to be disappointed if I end liking the guy and we get intimate. So this is my question: double push up or regular bra?? I'm going to assume you're too young to realize that using your breasts to attract a guy is foolish. Is that who you want to meet - mouth breathers who don't value you or what you bring to the table but are more concerned with what's in your bra? And once you attract these fools, they'll be very disappointed when they learn your 'breasts' weren't real anyway. 2
veggirl Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Isn't it awkward when you start fooling around and they touch/grab your boob on the outside of your clothes and its nothing but PADDING? I wouldn't even wear the ONE "add 2 cup sizes" bras much less TWO! That is honestly ridiculous. And I have small boobs too. I work with a girl who is literally FLAT chested and she has NEVER had a hard time getting dates or sex or relationships.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 That's a good point, attracting the wrong people. I somehow like guys who like big breasts. It happened in the past, that I guy I was seeing wanted me to do a boob job. Very disappointing. Anyway, double push up is awesome but I think I'll go with a regular push up next time. I wish I'd have a c cup
road Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 A big rack is not needed to look hot. When he asked you out were you wearing a regular bra or a regular push up bra? I'd say wear what you wore then. 2 cup P up's are over kill and sends a poor message.
Otter2569 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Its been said already: just be yourself. Boobs don't make the person and for me it would be weird when I finally got there and its all padding (reminds me of a scene from "Animal house"). As a boob guy I like to look at big breasts. Its like eye candy of the best kind. but to be honest Iv'e had as much or more fun with smaller breasts. Big boobs for me are kind of like presents you cant wait to unwrap. Honestly though they actually get in the way when they are big. I'd take medium size and some nice perky nipples any day...just my 2 cents
abby2 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Push up is fine, I wouldn't do 2cups. Besides, small boobs is hot, be happy of what you have. If the guy like you he won't care about the size of your boobs. If he doesn't like it because it's small then he's not the right guy for you, date someone else who like everything about you. You don't need to have big boobs to attract guys, and not every guys like it big. I think you wil look hot without the push up, good luck girl!
SweetLikeCinnamon Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 On one hand I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing push-up/padded bras. As women we often wear stuff like this to enhance and compliment how we look with our clothes on, it's not supposed to relate to how we look naked. If a guy isn't aware that females do things to enhance their appearance then he's a bit silly, and if he then gets pissed off because of 'false advertising' then he's also a dick. But on the other hand, as this seems to be an insecurity for you I might recommend not wearing one. I think you'll feel so much if the date goes well and realising he likes you even with a smaller chest size. If wear a push-up you'll probably continue to feel insecure and worried as you continue to date him.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I have D cups but yet I barely ever show my cleavage on first dates. Want them to focus on my personality, not my assets 3
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