la74219 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I'll keep this short... I met her, got really good vibes, then asked her out after a while. She politely declined saying she was seeing someone. I respectfully backed off, but we agreed to remain friendly. Didn't really talk a whole lot though for a while since we didn't see each other much. Fast forward a few months, and we see each other often again. Once again, very good vibes. Should I chalk it up to just a friendly personality and leave it as is or should I ask if she is still seeing someone?
Frank2thepoint Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 No harm in asking her out for another date. If she declines, then shrug it off.
Author la74219 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 No harm in asking her out for another date. If she declines, then shrug it off. Thanks, do you think I should just ask her directly or should I ask if she is still dating someone? I guess I really wouldn't care so much if we didn't see each other as often, but I don't want it to be awkward if I approach this the wrong way haha
Maggie4 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Ask her if she's still seeing someone. If you ask her out, she might have to decline again and that's awkward. If she says she's not seeing someone anymore, that's basically your green light, cos if she just doesn't want to go out with you, she doesn't have to tell you she broke up. 2
Author la74219 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Ask her if she's still seeing someone. If you ask her out, she might have to decline again and that's awkward. If she says she's not seeing someone anymore, that's basically your green light, cos if she just doesn't want to go out with you, she doesn't have to tell you she broke up. Thanks, this seems to be the best route.
oberkeat Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Why would you go back for a second helping of rejection? You should have moved on after she rejected you, but you didn't. That makes you look desperate. Once a girl turns me down, I never ask her again.
Author la74219 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Why would you go back for a second helping of rejection? You should have moved on after she rejected you, but you didn't. That makes you look desperate. Once a girl turns me down, I never ask her again. I respect your opinion, but I don't believe I am acting desperate. She told me she had a boyfriend, and I let it go. I didn't sit around waiting for her. I'm mature enough to have a platonic relationship with no agenda. We are friends. A few months later, the situation might have changed. I'm curious, and still attracted to her so I figured hey why not. If you completely shut off a woman because she rejected you simply because you think it seems desperate, I think that is a little immature.
smackie9 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 If you are friends, she would have mentioned a breakup. The friends zone thing is probably just what this is. Women/girls get emotionally attached because their BFs don't give them the attention they crave....the attention you get when you first start seeing someone. Stop hanging out with her one on one or going out on date like outings and see what happens. If she asks tell her you can't be friends because you want to date her. She will either leave it or express her interest. If she leaves it, then you have drawn the line on what this is, and not to be led on.
Author la74219 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 (edited) If you are friends, she would have mentioned a breakup. The friends zone thing is probably just what this is. Women/girls get emotionally attached because their BFs don't give them the attention they crave....the attention you get when you first start seeing someone. Stop hanging out with her one on one or going out on date like outings and see what happens. If she asks tell her you can't be friends because you want to date her. She will either leave it or express her interest. If she leaves it, then you have drawn the line on what this is, and not to be led on. Thanks I guess I should have been more clear though. We aren't really good friends. I'd call it more acquaintances. We don't hang out or anything, we just see each other often in passing. When she told me she was seeing someone, I backed off as you suggested. That was a few months ago. But lately, she's been talking to me more and giving good vibes again. That's why I was wondering if it would be appropriate to maybe ask if she's still seeing someone. Edited September 7, 2015 by la74219
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