Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 so when are you supposed to meet him? Or are you on the date with him right now? I'm meeting him in one hour. Resting at home now. It's awfully hot.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 great! I'm so glad he finally man up and confirm the date! Keep us posted.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 great! I'm so glad he finally man up and confirm the date! Keep us posted. I will sure do! I'm have such low expectations right now, though. I'd have loved if he'd have texted me first confirming or at least had replied immediately when I texted him and not almost one hour later... I hope he's not a weirdo.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 If i were you, I would CALL him when I get there and let him know that I have arrived. It can be frustrating if you arrive, text and he takes forever to respond. I wish you best luck!
Leigh 87 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 You're probably correct. He's well known in his profession, good looking guy, single no kids. Extremely nice and easy to talk to. He might be looking for a hookup. His profile says he's looking for the one but he doesn't mind to try other options in the meantime. Oh come on let's be real here. Unless you're a model look alike and well younger than him, why would a successful doctor with great looks and a wonderful personality, want to date you and take you so seriously after one PHONE conversation?!!???? Hot, successful doctors with great personalities aren't likely to be committed or tied down to a girl based on a phone conversation. And frankly, it's dubious ad a situation. Hot successful doctor with a great personality ONLINE, is dubious as f*ck! He may be genuinely open to meeting The One, but online isn't likely where he believes he'll find. Doctors are busy so he's likely looking for some fun first and foremost. If his dream girl falls into his lap, great. But it's foolish to believe you will be " The One " for a rich hot doctor. Sorry but it's just not likely. They have the most beautiful women to choose from.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 I'm back from my two hour date. First of all, he didn't look like his pictures, but was still handsome. We talked a lot over a glass of wine. I told him I regretted saying to him that I felt close, he also apologized for being too straightforward with me over text. He said he felt it like a compliment. He said a lot of nice things to me. I invited him to my car and we continued talking. He then kissed me. And it was nice. I didn't really felt anything while kissing, maybe because I was too nervous or self conscious. He said I am unique, that he wants to know more about me. I said I felt the same. It was an honest, nice, date. I'm not sure he'll reach out to me for a second date, but I had a good time.
Celeste.Carol Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Oh come on let's be real here. Unless you're a model look alike and well younger than him, why would a successful doctor with great looks and a wonderful personality, want to date you and take you so seriously after one PHONE conversation?!!???? Hot, successful doctors with great personalities aren't likely to be committed or tied down to a girl based on a phone conversation. And frankly, it's dubious ad a situation. Hot successful doctor with a great personality ONLINE, is dubious as f*ck! He may be genuinely open to meeting The One, but online isn't likely where he believes he'll find. Doctors are busy so he's likely looking for some fun first and foremost. If his dream girl falls into his lap, great. But it's foolish to believe you will be " The One " for a rich hot doctor. Sorry but it's just not likely. They have the most beautiful women to choose from. This actually is not quite true. Yes there is a small percentage of docs with the arm candy, more are with their college cuties they were with since college, but there are many more who are married to quite average looking woman, not ugly but average, who are equally successful in other ways, docs themselves etc. But I do agree that a handsome doc online may have hidden agendas or issues.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 It's the next morning but I haven't heard from him even though he seemed interested. He proposed me to go for dinner next time and he told me to let him know my availability but I told him to text me and let me know instead. I haven't received a text or a call saying he had a good date or anything. Obviously, he sucks at communicating or he's not really interested. Either way, I really don't like it.
introverted1 Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 It's the next morning but I haven't heard from him even though he seemed interested. He proposed me to go for dinner next time and he told me to let him know my availability but I told him to text me and let me know instead. I haven't received a text or a call saying he had a good date or anything. Obviously, he sucks at communicating or he's not really interested. Either way, I really don't like it. Did you text him to say you enjoyed meeting him? I don't like that you lobbed his text invite back to him. Ideally, he'd ask you to dinner on a specific night and you would either accept or counter. Him asking you to tell him your availability is weak, but you responding by telling him to text you can make it seem that you are not interested. 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Did you text him to say you enjoyed meeting him? I don't like that you lobbed his text invite back to him. Ideally, he'd ask you to dinner on a specific night and you would either accept or counter. Him asking you to tell him your availability is weak, but you responding by telling him to text you can make it seem that you are not interested. I think he might be a player. Too many red flags.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 He said: you're the most beautiful woman on okcupid. You're unique. You're so vulnerable but in a good way I like you Men should hit on you all the time (no, actually) But: He's profile is hidden (cause he's a doctor he said) He never confirmed first date and replied an hour later to my text He corrected me when I said something wrong He's a snob! And I felt bad about some comments he made. I mean, I don't know the names of my fav wines (yes I do but they're 10 bucks only. He drinks expensive wines) He didn't like the place I pick for the date He made a mean comment about the town we were in ( he lives in a big city) He didn't like the drinks he ordered, like they were bad quality
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 He said: you're the most beautiful woman on okcupid. You're unique. You're so vulnerable but in a good way I like you Men should hit on you all the time (no, actually) But: He's profile is hidden (cause he's a doctor he said) He never confirmed first date and replied an hour later to my text He corrected me when I said something wrong He's a snob! And I felt bad about some comments he made. I mean, I don't know the names of my fav wines (yes I do but they're 10 bucks only. He drinks expensive wines) He didn't like the place I pick for the date He made a mean comment about the town we were in ( he lives in a big city) He didn't like the drinks he ordered, like they were bad quality My oh my! I would not survive 5 min with him! I give you a lot for actually staying through the entire date! He seems so uptight and judgmental.
stillafool Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I think he might be a player. Too many red flags. At first you said he was nice and now there are too many red flags. What happened between the time you went to bed feeling good about the date to now you are thinking he's a player the next morning? Is it because he didn't text you? 2
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 At first you said he was nice and now there are too many red flags. What happened between the time you went to bed feeling good about the date to now you are thinking he's a player the next morning? Is it because he didn't text you? Yes. What would be the reason otherwise? I tend to be blind to players but I'm getting better at spotting them before the damage is done
stillafool Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Yes. What would be the reason otherwise? I tend to be blind to players but I'm getting better at spotting them before the damage is done So just because someone doesn't text you (and it's not even 24 hours after the date) you consider them a player? Why don't you text him if you want to hear from him that badly?
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 I think the signs of him being a player isn't because he hasn't texted you yet (he has a life and for all I know he is probably not glued to his phone), it's him telling you all the things you wanted to hear (people should hit on you all the time, you're the most beautiful girl blah blah). Notice that he went a bit extreme on the compliments. It's one thing he said you looked beautiful, it's another thing when he went overboard with it. Idk, just my intuition. 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 So just because someone doesn't text you (and it's not even 24 hours after the date) you consider them a player? Why don't you text him if you want to hear from him that badly? You don't think he is?
joseb Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 He said: you're the most beautiful woman on okcupid. You're unique. You're so vulnerable but in a good way I like you Men should hit on you all the time (no, actually) But: He's profile is hidden (cause he's a doctor he said) He never confirmed first date and replied an hour later to my text He corrected me when I said something wrong He's a snob! And I felt bad about some comments he made. I mean, I don't know the names of my fav wines (yes I do but they're 10 bucks only. He drinks expensive wines) He didn't like the place I pick for the date He made a mean comment about the town we were in ( he lives in a big city) He didn't like the drinks he ordered, like they were bad quality Are you trying to list the positives first? Because that list is a big red flag to me. All that flattery so soon is not genuine. The first list is what makes me think he is a player, him not texting is not really a sign of that. The second list, well he sounds like a bit of a snob with too much money. Maybe rethink the attractiveness of doctors ! 2
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Are you trying to list the positives first? Because that list is a big red flag to me. All that flattery so soon is not genuine. The first list is what makes me think he is a player, him not texting is not really a sign of that. The second list, well he sounds like a bit of a snob with too much money. Maybe rethink the attractiveness of doctors ! Exactly. Too much flattery.
stillafool Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 You don't think he is? No I don't really know yet and neither do you. He made some strange comments on your first meeting but he may have been nervous around you and was trying to be cool. Sometimes guys can be stupid that way. Maybe he doesn't want to seem to eager and is waiting to contact you. It's really too early to tell.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 No I don't really know yet and neither do you. He made some strange comments on your first meeting but he may have been nervous around you and was trying to be cool. Sometimes guys can be stupid that way. Maybe he doesn't want to seem to eager and is waiting to contact you. It's really too early to tell. What is weirdest is that I noticed he was nervous while we were inside the car. He kept asking me questions to elucidate if it was ok to kiss me. So correct, and so nice. Not pushy at all. Truth is I'm sad. Sad he sucks at communicating, sad he's not that interested. That's the truth.
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