Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Hi you keep mentioning their profession as if that makes a difference to their personalities. It does not. I have dated many docs and was married to one. Unless they look like a dork with high waters they have no need for online dating. If they are, chances are high they are looking for hook ups with anyone decent enough looking who falls for their games. They have many options in their own circles unless they have known personality defects or are known players. You're probably correct. He's well known in his profession, good looking guy, single no kids. Extremely nice and easy to talk to. He might be looking for a hookup. His profile says he's looking for the one but he doesn't mind to try other options in the meantime.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Quote in asterisk --- yup, exactly. He may even be married. He may. Who knows. He may be a killer, too
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 It's four hours before the date and I havent heard from him since yesterday morning when my unfortunate comment about closeness. We already set a time and place. Should I just show up at the given time??
jam.over.jelly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 ^you clearly aren't reading any of the advices other people have given you on here. 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 ^you clearly aren't reading any of the advices other people have given you on here. Yes, I read all and yours specially. I don't want to go with the over dramatic text you offered
Gary S Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 You made a date, nobody canceled, so show up for the date. If he's a a no-show, at least you'll know exactly where the relationship is headed (in that case, nowhere). Risk of being stood up is just part of dating.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I never said you have to. I really hope you don't end up getting stood up. Hope you know i have your best interest at heart. You haven't heard from him to confirm, that's clearly not a good sign. 1
jam.over.jelly Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 You made a date, nobody canceled, so show up for the date. If he's a a no-show, at least you'll know exactly where the relationship is headed (in that case, nowhere). Risk of being stood up is just part of dating. I can never show up without confirmation, maybe it's just me. All the time put in to get ready and show up just to waste my time, ehh, not worth it. There are plenty men out there that would give me the attention I deserve.
TheBathWater Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I was thinking in a similar way. I find it somehow strange that he invested so much time in me, and then the next morning he was very cold and detached. I just followed up with the same intensity he showed me the previous night, but suddenly he was just...cold. I'd think he is just looking for a quick hook up very easily, given his behavior. However, he's old enough (almost 50), he is a professional (a doctor) and he has some insight. I'm just waiting. He hasn't contacted me since yesterday morning, nor he made any comment about me visiting his profile at 4 am. I'm just waiting, but at this point my expectations are really low. Age and occupation mean nothing. Plenty of very successful people (who are also very insightful) play the game, and plenty of very unsuccessful people who got dealt a bum hand in life are excellent relationship material. You could go to the venue and see if he shows up. If he doesn't, you have your answer. If he does, be careful for at least a few dates, or else you may still get your answer.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Age and occupation mean nothing. Plenty of very successful people (who are also very insightful) play the game, and plenty of very unsuccessful people who got dealt a bum hand in life are excellent relationship material. You could go to the venue and see if he shows up. If he doesn't, you have your answer. If he does, be careful for at least a few dates, or else you may still get your answer. I'll show up. It's 15 min from home, so it's not that bad. If he doesn't show up, I'll have my answer.
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 ⊙▂⊙ or maybe (✪ฺД✪ฺ) Oouuuuuu look at mr emoji expert :) Im just jealous! 1
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I'll show up. It's 15 min from home, so it's not that bad. If he doesn't show up, I'll have my answer. Yeah id just do that. Who knows, while you are waiting, and if he doesnt show, some nice guy might chat you up:) 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Yeah id just do that. Who knows, while you are waiting, and if he doesnt show, some nice guy might chat you up:) Ahh that would be nice. But I'll wait in the car, or I might text him I'm gonna be 5 minutes late, to check things out
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 This reminds me of a date i had a while ago. It was after another girl flaked (i think i had spent too much time mesaging) so this one i kind of over corrected. After setting up the date (in two days) i didnt text again until 30 mins before to say i was running a few mins late. Later she told me she almost didnt come because i hadnt confirmed earlier !
katiegrl Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Hmmm. the OP's date may have shown up after all.....we haven't heard from her! 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 Hmmm. the OP's date may have shown up after all.....we haven't heard from her! I sent him a text 30 min ago asking if we were having a date tonight. No answer. I'm not showing up.
katiegrl Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I sent him a text 30 min ago asking if we were having a date tonight. No answer. I'm not showing up. How rude.... Oh well...next.
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 7, 2015 Author Posted September 7, 2015 How rude.... Oh well...next. Really rude. I don't think a guy has been that rude to me ever. At least have the decency to apologize. I'd never ignore someone like this. I'm sad, but it's ok.
joseb Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Really rude. I don't think a guy has been that rude to me ever. At least have the decency to apologize. I'd never ignore someone like this. I'm sad, but it's ok. Not worth worrying about. He's probably an unemployed ugly bum! p.s. have you contacted guy one to cancel or confirm? He's probably feeling like you lefty him hanging a bit.... 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Not worth worrying about. He's probably an unemployed ugly bum! p.s. have you contacted guy one to cancel or confirm? He's probably feeling like you lefty him hanging a bit.... Thank you for your words. I deleted all his info, and disabled my okcupid profile too because Im sick and tired of my bad selection of guys, then he texted me. He said yes, he'll meet me and he's looking forward to it. PS I was going to contact guy one to cancel. I'll text him tomorrow
Gus Grimly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 He said yes, he'll meet me and he's looking forward to it. Hmm, this all sounds like bad juju to me. 2
Lansing Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 Ha, so did you go? How was it? I think you should have already texted guy 1 by now. Why leave him hanging? If a guy behaved the same way towards you, you wouldn't have liked it. Are you keeping him as backup in case the date with guy 2 doesn't go well and then you will reconsider guy 1?
Author brokengirl85 Posted September 8, 2015 Author Posted September 8, 2015 Why do you have a bad juju?
joseb Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 He said yes, he'll meet me and he's looking forward to it. Oh cool, I thought the date was like 30 mins away when you texted him and as he hadn't replied it was too late. I didn't realise there was still time. Try to keep expectations in check. Let us know how it went.
jam.over.jelly Posted September 8, 2015 Posted September 8, 2015 so when are you supposed to meet him? Or are you on the date with him right now?
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