Els Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Also: in my experience, people like some in this thread saying "as long as they don't stop me drinking" are really saying, "I get drunk often and if they even mention it negatively or look at me wrong about it, they can **** off". No, this has not been my experience. I drink VERY moderately, at most two drinks at a time, usually just one with dinner. I have never actually gotten drunk in my life, ever. Unfortunately I come from a culture where women are not encouraged to drink at ALL and thus I tend to just abstain completely when I'm around the traditional tsk-tsking relatives, because it isn't worth the trouble. I wouldn't want to have to tiptoe like that around a partner, though. There really are people who have their heads stuck so far up their asses that they would make a fuss about someone having a couple of drinks, and some people have valid complaints about that. It doesn't make them alcoholics, and people who are judgmental about that are every bit as annoying as those who judge teetotalers.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Also: in my experience, people like some in this thread saying "as long as they don't stop me drinking" are really saying, "I get drunk often and if they even mention it negatively or look at me wrong about it, they can **** off". That's not the case with everyone; stop generalizing. I sometimes like to get my drink on when the weekend arrives; but at the same time, that doesn't mean that I want to date a guy (or be in a relationship with one) that gets drunk and belligerent and acts like an a$$ - I can handle my liquor and I expect the guy I'm dating to do the same. I don't consider myself to "get drunk often", nor would I tell someone to 'eff off' if they "mention it negatively or look at me wrong about it". If they did either one of those things to me, then I'd tell them that they'd either have to accept the fact that I do like to drink on occasion and if they have an issue with that, then it would be time for us to part company...no need for me to tell someone to eff off just because they have a preference. Personally, I wouldn't mind dating a guy who didn't drink at all as long as he didn't act like my mom (as Gloria stated earlier) and rolled his eyes or keep asking me how many drinks do I intend on having. If a non-drinking person can't handle the fact that other people CAN and DO socially drink or just drink on occasion without being raging alcoholics, then they should date and be in relationships with other people who don't drink either. . 1
shet Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 Notice how everyone with issues over being judged for drinking goes to special effort to claim that while they drink weekly and drinking is a big part of their lives, they don't *really* get drunk like that bad kind of drinker. Dwell on that and then think about this; how many drunkards have you ever known who had an accurate idea what they were like drunk? They're the last people to acknowledge they become loud, or boorish, or aggressive or flirtatious, or whatever. There's a lot of ground between stumbling drunk and just annoying *******. I've been the guy sitting at home (or sleeping) when someone comes back and behaves like a despicable twat who the rest of the time chastises ME to our friends for being Controlly McJudgerson over what they believe is perfectly healthy reasonable drinking.
Els Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 (edited) Notice how everyone with issues over being judged for drinking goes to special effort to claim that while they drink weekly and drinking is a big part of their lives, they don't *really* get drunk like that bad kind of drinker. Dwell on that and then think about this; how many drunkards have you ever known who had an accurate idea what they were like drunk? They're the last people to acknowledge they become loud, or boorish, or aggressive or flirtatious, or whatever. There's a lot of ground between stumbling drunk and just annoying *******. I've been the guy sitting at home (or sleeping) when someone comes back and behaves like a despicable twat who the rest of the time chastises ME to our friends for being Controlly McJudgerson over what they believe is perfectly healthy reasonable drinking. Man, you sure have an axe to grind, don't you? Stop projecting your roommates' behaviour onto all the rest of us - it's not really our fault that you lived with people who behave like that. (Tip: this post also is an excellent example of the sort of teetotaler that is usually avoided. OP, don't be like this and you'll be fine.) Nobody gets drunk off of one drink unless you have a metabolic disorder. Even little old ladies or parents dining with children have a glass of red with their meal. It's technically even still within the limits of acceptable driving (though I usually abstain completely if I'm driving, just to be extra safe). I wish you the very best of luck with that extreme attitude against alcohol in the UK. Edited September 11, 2015 by Elswyth 2
Got it Posted September 11, 2015 Posted September 11, 2015 As a drinker I would not want to be with someone that was drunk when they drink and act obnoxious. Some people just can't handle it. My brother is one, he would go from zero to crazy and is a manic drunk. So annoying. I was fine with the ex who didn't drink but who didn't care if I enjoy it. And I work well with my husband who does drink but very moderately. We will enjoy trying new wines or, for him, seasonal beers. Alcohol has never been a major factor in my life so as long as someone isn't on the extreme end of drinking then I don't care. What wouldn't be compatible for me is someone who drinks to excess and needs to go to bars all the times, etc. That just hasn't been me so I wouldn't be interested. Plus I don't like the feeling have having drank excessively both in the moment and the next day. Makes my body and mind feel ugh. 1
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