Calidude6 Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I just saw something I shouldn't of saw. I saw a picture my ex and the guy she left me for. The guy she was talking to while we were together. He wrote "I can't describe the feelings he feels...." It made me think of the times when we were first started dating and the new feelings I was gaining for her. I lost a lot of those feelings but I still miss her quite often. I still have love for her but not as much as I used to of course. I'm still angry at myself for not doing better so the relationship would last longer than it did and I'm also pissed off at her for what she did. By seeing the picture, it just makes me feel a little empty as she had someone in her palm as she left me and jump from one man to another and found her happiness so quickly. Her so called best friend. I do want something with someone again and I'm ready but haven't found anyone. I just feel for some odd reason that this rebound of hers is real and they are going to last, get married and do the things we were supposed to do. I don't want them to last but I think they will. She deserves some way better. Makes me a bit envy. I wish it was her and me. But time will move on and life will find me someone one day. Hopefully I'll grow even stronger feelings for someone else.
NVO Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I feel you man, I really do. But your wasting all of your energy on something that is not important, and that is her happy life. You need to focus on your own happiness. It's one hell of a cliché, I know. But be damn sure you won't see anything like this again! You know, when my ex broke up with me I felt that empty void. I was feeling very desperate to make sure that someone fills up that space. You know who did? Me. Does it feel the same? Nope. But that doesn't matter because throughout our lives there is one person we need to deal with all of the time: ourselves. And for some people it helps to jump from one to another, but I strongly believe that you need to lose yourself completely before you can find yourself again. And by the time you do, man you will feel so much better than before. She did not have that experience, she just let someone fill that void for her. Now I'm not stating that she is doing it wrong, but I truly believe you will turn out to be the better one. 8
Gus Grimly Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 By seeing the picture, it just makes me feel a little empty as she had someone in her palm as she left me and jump from one man to another and found her happiness so quickly. Her so called best friend. I do want something with someone again and I'm ready but haven't found anyone. Hey, you gotta get over it. So she won, she had sex with a new person before you. Congrats to her and her easy accessible vajayjay. My Ex-fiance has already been with 2 men since our breakup 2 months ago. From the very moment it was official she was determined to find my replacement. I was bummed out, of course, then I was grossed out that this woman would open her legs for a random guy only 2 weeks after she ended it. I realized that I don't care what she does, good, have sex with the entire state of California for all I care. The fact is, it's her loss because she's never going to be able to replace me (even though she's trying hard to find someone just like me according to all 3 of her OLD profiles). The last thing she coldly said to me was; "I don't need a man to be happy". rofl The same goes for you. Wash her away from your thoughts. These women don't know how to function alone, they're desperate. You can't find true love in a matter of weeks. It takes time unless you are extremely lucky. Even then how can you truly know? It most likely won't last with this guy and she'll continue ping-ponging her way through a myriad of failed relationships. You on the other hand, can get your confidence back, work on yourself and when the time comes you won't even think about her because you'll have found someone 1000 times better. It's gonna happen, just you wait and see. 6
Mr Scorpio Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 By seeing the picture, it just makes me feel a little empty as she had someone in her palm as she left me and jump from one man to another and found her happiness so quickly. I'm still angry at myself for not doing better so the relationship would last longer than it did and I'm also pissed off at her for what she did. That she had someone on-deck makes me think that it may not have mattered if you had done better. 1
WonderKid Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 I had my ex. She got with someone probably days after leaving me. So far she's had 4 BFs. 3 of them left her because they probably found out how she really is. I have her on FB still because I just don't give a ****. Because the more she has me on there and the better my life progresses, she'll probably delete me herself. But **** it. Just move on man. It's too many women out there to be stuck on that. 2
Felicite Posted September 9, 2015 Posted September 9, 2015 (edited) I also caved and saw my ex in a picture with his 20ish year old friends and lots of girls, having fun at the beach. He seemed so happy and unconcerned, that it broke my heart. To think how I was every night and that he was partying at the beach as if nothing had ever happened. But then I thought, even if I am going through this difficult time what am I doing? I am trying to better myself each day, I am looking for things to improve my life, I am trying to deal with the pain and find my faults to be better next time, I am facing my fears. It has to make me a better and stronger person eventually. Instead what is he doing? Is he facing his insecurities, his immaturity crisis, his gigs syndrome, or his relationship – phobia? Did he assess his actions towards a person he loved? No. He preferred the easiest way, to kick me in the face, blaim it all on me, and go about his life having fun, stoning around, getting easy access to younger girls (5 of them don’t equal one of me –haha:p). So he probably will end doing the same things all over again. So I felt better, because I know that on the long run, I can’t possibly regret going through every hard stage I am going now, if it will make me wiser, stronger and a better person. Some time he will face the music (because we all do at some point in our lives), and it’s going to be bitter for him to swallow, because he hasn’t ever taken any responsibilities for himself or his actions, he was always sort of protected in the past. Well, it ain’t gonna be that way forever. Try to see it in the same way Calidude, if she had a replacement in her pocket. You are getting stronger and learning from facing your fears. Situations can change, tables can turn Edited September 9, 2015 by Felicite 3
NVO Posted September 10, 2015 Posted September 10, 2015 Situations can change, tables can turn Tables will turn indeed! 3
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