Why does he keep dragging this out??

[QueenDafine]

About for months ago me and my ex decided to have a break because we just weren't working out and it felt like we were forcing the relationship too much. We grew pretty distant, especially because he moved 7 hours away in the middle of our relationship, making it really hard to communicate property and see eachother. Anyway two months after we started the break he came back wanting to just get back to the way we were but i told him I'd lost feelings and the time away from him made me feeling really unsure and confused about my feelings for him. Because I also realized he didn't treat me the best before the break. So anyway he got furious at this and we had a big fight. But after that we just started talking like normal friends again, although the feelings were still there I guess. After a month of talking again I decided to just stop talking to him because I was getting familiar feelings of attachment and anxiety and sadness when he wouldn't text back or ignore me. A week afterwards he must've realized I wouldn't contact him at all and he started blowing me up with calls and texts. Stupid me responded and then we started talking aga in! Even though I got anxiety and miserable over us AGAIN. So in the last two weeks we've been texting back and forth everyday, but it's really short texts and about nothing particular. We don't talk about how even our days went, nothing personal, it's all just very small and basic talk. It frustrates the **** out of me and as usual with time, during the two days he purposely ignored me I realized how ****ing stupid and annoying this is. I mean I wait for hours to receive a two lined message and I think about it all day, anxious to open my phone to see if he texted me. So after he ignored me he sent me 20 message, the last one saying he's sorry but with a lot of laughing faces. I haven't even opened it yet so I don't know what it says. And I don't want to tempt myself because I'm not going to talk to him anymore. I just want to know why he keep dragging this all out when it's obvious we don't and shouldn't even be talking when it's jut a **** all conversation. I admit if it was anyone else I would've deleted it a long time ago but yeah there's some hope there I have. The thing is though he's coming to my town to visit his family in two weeks so I guess that's why he's probably keeping the Contact even though it's all boring? We had made a lot of plans before but I haven't talked to him about those plans in like 5 months. How should I handle all of this?? I'm willing to risk an awkward situation when I see him If I don't rely to him at all. I just don't know how I'll handle it if he blows up my phone again. I might give in.

[oberkeat]

It seems to me you're the one who's dragging this out. Why are you continuing to have contact with him? It's like you broke up with him in slow motion. It's over. You broke up for a reason. All the games that have gone on in the months since you ended the relationship should serve as further confirmation that things just will not work out between you two. I think you should go no contact and move on with your life.

[Redhead14]

About for months ago me and my ex decided to have a break because we just weren't working out and it felt like we were forcing the relationship too much. We grew pretty distant, especially because he moved 7 hours away in the middle of our relationship, making it really hard to communicate property and see eachother. Anyway two months after we started the break he came back wanting to just get back to the way we were but i told him I'd lost feelings and the time away from him made me feeling really unsure and confused about my feelings for him. Because I also realized he didn't treat me the best before the break. So anyway he got furious at this and we had a big fight. But after that we just started talking like normal friends again, although the feelings were still there I guess. After a month of talking again I decided to just stop talking to him because I was getting familiar feelings of attachment and anxiety and sadness when he wouldn't text back or ignore me. A week afterwards he must've realized I wouldn't contact him at all and he started blowing me up with calls and texts. Stupid me

responded and then we started talking aga in! Even though I got anxiety and

miserable over us AGAIN. So in the last two weeks we've been texting back

and forth everyday, but it's really short texts and about nothing particular. We

don't talk about how even our days went, nothing personal, it's all just very

small and basic talk. It frustrates the **** out of me and as usual with time,

during the two days he purposely ignored me I realized how ****ing stupid

and annoying this is. I mean I wait for hours to receive a two lined message

and I think about it all day, anxious to open my phone to see if he texted me.

So after he ignored me he sent me 20 message, the last one saying he's sorry

but with a lot of laughing faces. I haven't even opened it yet so I don't know

what it says. And I don't want to tempt myself because I'm not going to talk

to him anymore. I just want to know why he keep dragging this all out when

it's obvious we don't and shouldn't even be talking when it's jut a **** all

conversation. I admit if it was anyone else I would've deleted it a long time

ago but yeah there's some hope there I have. The thing is though he's coming

to my town to visit his family in two weeks so I guess that's why he's probably

keeping the Contact even though it's all boring? We had made a lot of plans

before but I haven't talked to him about those plans in like 5 months. How

should I handle all of this?? I'm willing to risk an awkward situation when I

see him If I don't rely to him at all. I just don't know how I'll handle it if he

blows up my phone again. I might give in.

 

Do not respond to anything. Block his number and keep moving. And don't see him. He's coming to visit HIS family. Why would you see him?

[kendahke]

. I just want to know why he keep dragging this all out when it's obvious we don't and shouldn't even be talking when it's jut a **** all conversation.

 

You answer your own question in your next sentence:

I admit if it was anyone else I would've deleted it a long time ago but yeah there's some hope there I have.

You are your own worst enemy here, not him.

 

The thing is though he's coming to my town to visit his family in two weeks so I guess that's why he's probably keeping the Contact even though it's all boring? We had made a lot of plans before but I haven't talked to him about those plans in like 5 months. How should I handle all of this?? I'm willing to risk an awkward situation when I see him If I don't rely to him at all. I just don't know how I'll handle it if he blows up my phone again. I might give in.

 

Block him.

 

Put his ringtone and texting tone to silent, no vibrate. Get on with your life as you would have were he 7 hours away. You don't need to see him; keep that truth at the front of your considerations as his family visit unfolds.