After ignoring me for 3 weeks my ex has agreed to meet up to talk

[WiselyNaive]

3 weeks of being ignored...

my ex had me blocked at first but unblocked me on my request...ive gone NC & broken it quite a bit while he remained stone cold...he always reads the messages but doesnt respond.

after 3 weeks of that & a mutual friend telling him he should really talk to me because breaking with someone by simply ignoring them isnt "right" he has agreed to talk. I know this isnt the right way to get this done but after asking to speak for so long it would be silly for me to do it now. I know i most likely wont get the answers I need & these things dont usually go well, but...he broke up with me over the phone & just the day before things were okay so i think speaking in person & having it said to my face may help me close this door & i can hopefully convince my self to stay nc after this. I have so many questions..i actually wrote a list so that a week after NC i dont make some silly excuse to break NC to ask something he will ignore anyway since my self control has depleted since this break up. Even though he agreed days ago...he still ignores any questions I ask....like today i messaged and asked what time will we speak...& he read it..ignored it...& went & told our mutual friend instead. Its very discouraging...if he is still behaving this way how open is he really going to be during a conversation for closure?....even more so i didn't do anything to him for him to treat me this way..it came out of the blue...i plan to let him know that i have no desire to get back together which is true enough...but is there anything else that you guys would advise me to say or ask

 

& please dont tell me not to go & speak with him because thats already decided, just need advice

[MINDSHIFT]

He seems very immature ignoring yours txts, no offense but he probably can sense your desperation and neediness. He know he can treat you like **** and at his request of meeting you will come running as you are.

 

Now im not saying you want him back but you shouldn't really care at this point what he has to say. You have to ask yourself what are you gaining from any answers he might tell you. Closure comes from within, most of what he gonna say will not help you in no way trust me.

[MINDSHIFT]

But since you ask for advise on what to say to him, in your postilion I would probably make him feel guilty, tell him how much he has hurt you. then reassure him that your fine with his decision and it is his loss, leave with dignity.