AirGordon2245 Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I met this girl at a coffee shop one day and we really hit it off. I ended up getting her number that day. I was going to wait a few days before calling her but I ran into her again at the same coffee shop. We were having a conversation about tennis and I asked her let's play next Sunday which is today. She agreed and then I said talk to you later and left. Now today is here and I texted her saying "you still down for tennis today? When are you free? I'm free at such and such." her response was "Oh I wish you would've reminded me earlier. I'm going out to a movie with a girlfriend and I'm not sure how long it will last. Plus I have hw too." is should I stop because she's making excuses or should I still pursue?
Zagan Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Well why should you have had to remind her in the first place? If you both made an arrangement then you were both aware of the date. Don't pursue her, she made the cancellation, if she's interested she will make a counter offer for a different day.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I met this girl at a coffee shop one day and we really hit it off. I ended up getting her number that day. I was going to wait a few days before calling her but I ran into her again at the same coffee shop. We were having a conversation about tennis and I asked her let's play next Sunday which is today. She agreed and then I said talk to you later and left. Now today is here and I texted her saying "you still down for tennis today? When are you free? I'm free at such and such." her response was "Oh I wish you would've reminded me earlier. I'm going out to a movie with a girlfriend and I'm not sure how long it will last. Plus I have hw too." is should I stop because she's making excuses or should I still pursue? You should've set it up before today. Don't wait until the day of. I don't think she's making excuses. She just got on with her life when you didn't take the bull by the horns and nail down a time and place before today. Ask her for a coffee or something - but be specific!
smackie9 Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Give it up, no one is THAT absent minded. The hw was already set from weeks ago so she would already know she would be busy and I bet money on it she has a date with someone else to go to the movies, the GF part was a cover up. She made sure it was impossible to go out with you. As a rule if someone is really interested in you, they don't let anything get in the way of spending time with you. Tennis for a first date? Make it drinks next time or coffee at a nice outdoor cafe.
losangelena Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 OP, did you set an actual time/place before, or just a "we should play on Sunday?" If you had a time/place set up already, I'd say she's being flakey. If you had left it open-ended, then I'd say try again and be more concrete with plans. People can be flakey, for sure, so maybe she set up a movie date with her friend in case she didn't hear from you. If I were her I'd think that maybe you were flaking if I hadn't heard from you before Sunday. I dunno, at this point it just sounds like y'all got your wires crossed. Don't give up quite so easily. 1
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