shet Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 In my experience disinterest in engaging in contact when apart is sign of either infidelity or social disorder. A text a day is 30 seconds to reply to. Every successful happy couple I know is in contact while apart. Goes with the territory.
seekingluck Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I think a lot of it depends on what your texts consist of. I'm a woman, but for what it's worth, I'm not one to keep up a conversation through text. I generally only use it to convey information (ex. a meeting time or place) or touch base briefly. I also work a lot and usually simply cannot reply right away after I read a message. I have friends who use texting differently, often sending multiple messages that are nice but not particularly important. (ie something funny they saw, how they're having a bad hair day, etc) I don't tend to respond to those right away as I don't have time to engage in longer conversations. I prefer to speak on the phone or in person. What type of messages are you sending your boyfriend? I agree. I don't really like texting. I use it 90% for logistics. A few people I might have a few conversations, but for most people I don't text. I prioritize people I am with over what's happening on the phone, so I only text if I am alone!
abby2 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 I wouldn't think so much into texting. Most guys are not into daily texting. Focus on how he interact with you in person and how he treats you.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Is that a real reason to dump someone, because they are bad at texting? I thought I was being silly even thinking that it is a problem in our relationship, but to let him go completely because of it seems extreme! If this is the only thing he does (doesn't do) to make you feel unappreciated, I'd say try to just accept that he's not a good texter and let it go. But I think it's pretty normal to be disappointed about this. It may seem like a small thing, but a man showing that he's thinking about you and doing the tiniest of romantic things can make such a difference in how secure and treasured you feel with him. A guy I was with a couple of years ago was not a great texter, very rarely sent any cutesy or romantic texts, and it always felt kind of disappointing to me. My last boyfriend send me sweet texts anytime we were apart for a while, including sappy, romantic pictures. It made me feel so happy and appreciated every single time. Seems like a small thing, but the difference in how it made me feel was pretty huge. 1
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