kit4kat Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 I need ya'lls opinion on this. Its one of those standard "does he or doesn't he like me" posts... I'm kinda at a stage in life where if it happens, great! If it doesn't, then thats fine too. But I think I might have messed up. I went to the movies with this guy-- who I've had a crush on for a while now-- last night. We saw The Amityville Horror... scary movie. He picked me up, I paid for both of us (he was my airport shuttle a couple months back and I told him I'd do something nice for him, this was it). The theater was practically empty, and all the arm rests were up. Now, going into the night I was open to anything, and I didn't want to force the arm rest down between us and make it seem like I was cutting options out or anything like that. So, I decided that if he wanted to, then that was cool. We sat, he pulled the armrest down on the opposite side of him, and left the one in the middle up. See, this is where I'm confused. Usually if a guy wants to hold my hand or something, he'll just do it, especially if all the signals are there. He did the whole resting his hand on his leg three inches away from my body thing, and didn't touch me once throughout this scary movie. In his defense, he's a shy guy, and when I get scared I kinda ball up and fidget. Now that I think about it, maybe I didn't appear as open to possibilities as I should have, I'm an idiot. Ok well, moving on... the movie ended, we got in the car-- he didn't open the door for me, that kind of bothered me. But whatever, at that point in time he could've been under the impression that I wasn't interested or something (listen to me make excuses for him!). We drove home, the long way, behind the only car driving slow on an empty street. Then to finish off the night, we sit in his car for an hour in front of my place talking about anything and everything. We came to the subject of some girl... she liked him, then he liked her and the timing was off. Umm, I kinda started feeling awkward at that moment (I've had a crush on him off and on for a year, he found out last August). The girl he was talking about wasn't me, but inside I started getting so nervous. It was close to 1am, so I said I had to get to bed and I got out of the car and left. I don't think he realized that I only left because I got nervous, but now that I'm rethinking the entire night, could I have blown it? Everyone seems to think this guy likes me... we hang out at least once a week, talk a decent amount, he took me to the airport, I and others catch him looking at me... Do you think I messed up? And if I did, what should I do?!
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 What to do? It didn't sound disastrous, so put that night behind you, and plan another fun outing with him - and see where it goes from there.
scarlyjones Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Aaaah,.....the art of the dance. Hmmmmmmmmmm.......hard to say. I dont think YOU messed up anything, though. Sounds to me that you were BOTH nervous. If HE wasnt interested, he probably wouldve pulled up to your house and said "Well,..I had fun,...." and that sorta would have been your cue to get out. But, alas,...he didnt!! He underwent that uncomfortable "sit in front of your house" conversation. I think he does like you. So much so,..that he was completely at a loss for words. This,..so much so,..that he actually started talking about some other girl. That may have been to maybe steer the conversation towards relationship and in that, maybe he could have coaxed YOU to bring up the two of you. He sounds shy. And so do you. Its cute. You did just fine. Just give him a call. Ask him out again. Maybe this time,...do something that doesnt REQUIRE the two of you having to sit quietly for 2 hrs (movie) Maybe go out to dinner or to the zoo or something where you HAVE to converse. Good luck.
scarlyjones Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Maybe inquire with someone you know that HE knows too about what this guy likes to do. Hobbies,...whatever. Then plan something involving that. That will show that you were thinking of him and the things he likes. He probably would really appreciate your efforts to make your next outting one that surrounds him with things he enjoys, thus,...making him comfortable. But, in doing so,...just make sure its something you like too,...or atleast can STAND......lol....
ConfusedSensitiveGuy Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 do you want a line that will get shy guys? "When are you gonna grow some balls and Kiss me?" DO it and Report back to me
Author kit4kat Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 Sounds to me that you were BOTH nervous. If HE wasnt interested, he probably wouldve pulled up to your house and said "Well,..I had fun,...." and that sorta would have been your cue to get out. But, alas,...he didnt!! He underwent that uncomfortable "sit in front of your house" conversation. I think he does like you. So much so,..that he was completely at a loss for words. This,..so much so,..that he actually started talking about some other girl. That may have been to maybe steer the conversation towards relationship and in that, maybe he could have coaxed YOU to bring up the two of you. He sounds shy. And so do you. Its cute. Yeah, after I got out of his car and realized "Hey, we just spent like an hour talking about anything that came to mind", I came up with two possibilities... 1. He was just really bored and didn't want to go home yet. or 2. He actually does like me. I like option 2 so much better do you want a line that will get shy guys? "When are you gonna grow some balls and Kiss me?" DO it and Report back to me Haha thats great! Would that seriously work?
scarlyjones Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 like a charm.................he'd kiss you just to prove he had balls,...if for no OTHER reason.... lol
yellowrose Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Oh sweetie- He just sounds nervous & shy. Let him warm up. He'll become more comfortable. This sounds like my first date with the bf. Now he's all over the hand holding, cuddling, kissing and such. Don't sweat it. Besides, The Rules say *you* are supposed to end the date. Not him. So that move was right. Guys don't sit and talk in cars for an hour with gals they don't find interesting.
Author kit4kat Posted May 16, 2005 Author Posted May 16, 2005 Ahh.. a much needed update! I saw him on Friday and Saturday, both days for brief amounts of time. But I saw him, and got to talk to him, and thats all that matters. But everytime I see him now, or he IM's me online, my stomach gets all twisted-- like on drops on roller coasters-- and I get so nervous and excited that I shake, physically shake. Friday when we first saw each other and locked eyes, there was definantly an unspoken nervousness there. He and I have NEVER had a problem being nervous around each other before. We got over it though and everything was fine and normal within minutes. Saturday I ended up talking to his brother, and he asked me if he and I were going out yet. I said no, but he didn't believe me! Wow, talk about ways to make me hope more! There ya have it! I haven't done the whole "When are you going to grow balls and kiss me?" thing yet. I might, but it'd have to be in a setting where it was just us, or just a few people. I'll let you know if I do though! I sure hope I'm not reading him wrong, because falling for him then getting hurt would just suck.
yellowrose Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 Originally posted by kit4kat I haven't done the whole "When are you going to grow balls and kiss me?" thing yet. For the record, I would lose the "when are you going to grow balls" part. I think it's insulting. Men don't appreciate being emasculated. Just very sweetly muster some southern charm, look in his eyes, softly smile and almost whisper "So when are you going to kiss me?" Done. Seductive is much hotter than pushy or brash. IMO.
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