oxypills Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Hey so I might ask this girl out, not the one I was talking about before. She seems interested, and I really think I might get a date with her. She seemed smily, interested, etc. I know this might be a bit soon, but she has on her twitter a lot of pictures about flowers. just a bunch of memes about how cute flowers are, and how the perfect boyfriend brings flowers, etcetcetc well, IIIIIF (and I know its still a big "if") i get to take her on a date, would it be weird to bring flowers? i DONT mean a full bouqet of roses, just even a single rose like these http://ewpic.com/?ref=78uiykXIJ or just one of these http://ewpic.com/?ref=xG16wpQ0w would that be "cute" or weird? I googled it and some website recommend it, some don't. some say it would be super cute, some say it would be super awkward would be it too obvious that I just looked at her twitter and got the idea from there? thanks guys!!
Lady2163 Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Just bring one rose....not red and not more than one. Actually, what might be better is one rose in a bud vase, in case she doesn't have one. Then she has the rose, but also the vase which will last forever and be a sweet reminder if you two hit it off and end up together forever. The flowers shown in the picture are more than one, maybe a touch too much for a first date. Write the date on the bottom of the vase... 1
almond Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I think flowers are much nicer a few dates in. If a guy showed up on date one (the first time we had ever met) with a rose, I'd see it as him trying too hard. It's not at all special to be given a rose before a guy even knows you, and I would assume that he had done it for many other women on their first dates as well. To me, rocking up with a rose on date one just seems like a bit of a cheap ploy considering that the guy doesn't even know if he likes me at all yet...we're strangers on date one! Other women may find it cute though. I'd say it's a bit of a gamble to go ahead with it, so probably safer to save it for after you've actually met the girl. Much more likely that it will be well received after you two actually know each other at least a tiny bit. 5
joseb Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I definitely would not do it. Seems slightly creepy/needy to do for someone you don't know yet. But then again if a girl was writing things like "the perfect boyfriend always brings flowers" I would avoid her as I'd expect she is a bit of a princess, so take my advice with a grain of salt 1
ReadySettyGo Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Arrange the date venue next to a florist. With a little imagination it might give you some options.
d0nnivain Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Because she has an expressed interest in flowers, I think it would be a good idea if you keep it to one. Too many is overkill. Flowers on a 1st date is not a universal thing. Many women would be off put by the gesture but I think based on the pictures you saw this particular woman would like the effort. Good luck,
jam.over.jelly Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Definitely don't recommend you bring a rose on a first date. Some guys did this and it made me uncomfortable
Siquijor Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 It's possible you might not even like her after the first date so giving her a rose beforehand isn't recommended.
Zagan Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I don't see what the problem would be if you did that I agree that just one is probably for the best and not a red rose.
Jules Dash Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I would not do flowers at all on a first date or even a second date. 1
Vercetti Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 And wear a vest and make sure to kiss her hand. 1
Jules Dash Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 And wear a vest and make sure to kiss her hand. You forgot to tell him to first hide the flowers behind his back in his hand and then bow forward while kissing her hand and wearing the vest and a monocle. 2
losangelena Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I'd say no. I got that once, the single, first-date flower, and A) it did nothing to make me think more of the guy (which I'm sure was its intent), and B) it ended up being a pain in the ass; you know how hard it is to have to schlep a single flower around with you? One hand is literally busy the whole night. So if you do give her one, make sure she has a place to put it right away so she not just carrying it with her. Better yet, wait a couple of dates. It'll make the sentiment that much more sincere. First-date flower guy? All he got was a second date. My now BF brought a nice (still modest) bouquet on date three, and we're still together a year later, so ...
organizedchaos Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Hey so I might ask this girl out, not the one I was talking about before. She seems interested, and I really think I might get a date with her. She seemed smily, interested, etc. I know this might be a bit soon, but she has on her twitter a lot of pictures about flowers. just a bunch of memes about how cute flowers are, and how the perfect boyfriend brings flowers, etcetcetc well, IIIIIF (and I know its still a big "if") i get to take her on a date, would it be weird to bring flowers? i DONT mean a full bouqet of roses, just even a single rose like these http://ewpic.com/?ref=78uiykXIJ or just one of these http://ewpic.com/?ref=xG16wpQ0w would that be "cute" or weird? I googled it and some website recommend it, some don't. some say it would be super cute, some say it would be super awkward would be it too obvious that I just looked at her twitter and got the idea from there? thanks guys!! No, just no. Find out if you guys click on date one. If there's a date 2 then you can try the flower.
newmoon Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 it's a nice gesture but it's too obvious in this case.. because you've stalked her twitter to get that info. and she'll know that
katiegrl Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I'd say no. I got that once, the single, first-date flower, and A) it did nothing to make me think more of the guy (which I'm sure was its intent), and B) it ended up being a pain in the ass; you know how hard it is to have to schlep a single flower around with you? One hand is literally busy the whole night. So if you do give her one, make sure she has a place to put it right away so she not just carrying it with her. Better yet, wait a couple of dates. It'll make the sentiment that much more sincere. First-date flower guy? All he got was a second date. My now BF brought a nice (still modest) bouquet on date three, and we're still together a year later, so ... Wow, it's been a year already? Time sure flies, doesn't it. Congrats!!!! :bunny:
losangelena Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Wow, it's been a year already? Time sure flies, doesn't it. Congrats!!!! :bunny: I know; it's a year today, it's just crazy. Thanks!
Gary S Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Flowers on a first date are weird, probably a waste of money because it's unlikely the first girl you date will become your girlfriend, and they don't raise attraction. Dating is expensive enough when men usually have to buy dinner. Save the flower money for your future girlfriend, it's a complete waste on date one. This too: and B) it ended up being a pain in the ass; you know how hard it is to have to schlep a single flower around with you? One hand is literally busy the whole night.
ScienceGal Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 First date? No. Third date, yes. It shows you're bringing them because you enjoyed the previous 2 dates. It indicates a slightly increased level of interest based upon your time together.. More meaningful to wait a little bit. 2
Author oxypills Posted September 6, 2015 Author Posted September 6, 2015 what about one of these wrapped in plastic? http://ewpic.com/?ref=slvos61Kc i have a million of them, so it would be super cheap to just bring one on each first date i have for the next 10 years haha
losangelena Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 what about one of these wrapped in plastic? http://ewpic.com/?ref=slvos61Kc i have a million of them, so it would be super cheap to just bring one on each first date i have for the next 10 years haha Just what every woman dreams of! Cheap flowers wrapped in plastic. Jesus, are you just taking the piss at this point?
Author oxypills Posted September 6, 2015 Author Posted September 6, 2015 Just what every woman dreams of! Cheap flowers wrapped in plastic. Jesus, are you just taking the piss at this point? ok wow jesus christ angela, didn't need the attitude. and what a classy lady you are! "taking a piss" Learn to talk like a lady.
Gary S Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 What women really want is not flowers at first......they want to find a man they are attracted to and fall in love. First comes love, then comes flowers.... then ya get to spend even more money, lol! This is not the fantasy land of TV and movies......welcome to the real, Neo. 2
xcupid Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 No flowers on first date. Awkward. If things work out then that's when to do it.
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