MINDSHIFT Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 (edited) I went all sorts of nutty on my ex when she dumped me. its been two months. About 15 days of NC. Its day 5 of strict NC i.e. no stalking on her social media. I was just wandering, as I was reading many threads, the advise is always to the dumpee to block all communications and I definitely do agree. Do dumpers usually block communication from the dumpee? I texted my ex quite abit and I know she was with her ex, which must of been awkward. I wonder why she didn't block me on whatsapp. Or even why she didn't block my texts or calls considering it was harassment. Why she has not deleted my number from her phonebook, cause if she dont have my number stored I wouldn't be able to see her whatsapp picture. By the way this is a general question, I don't care why my ex has not blocked me, since the beginning of strict NC i wouldn't know if she has. I'm just curious. Edited September 5, 2015 by MINDSHIFT
Satu Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 I don't know if they do or not, but they should, because when a thing is over, its over. 2
neowulf Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 By the way this is a general question, I don't care why my ex has not blocked me, since the beginning of strict NC i wouldn't know if she has. I'm just curious. What your ex does or doesn't do is no longer of a concern. Some people block, some don't. There isn't a general rule. People are all unique. What matters is that the relationship is over. 3
Gus Grimly Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Mine did. She blocked me and all my friends and family as well. Guess that'll teach me for being a No-Good Lousy Dirty Filthy Stinking dumpee. 2
Author MINDSHIFT Posted September 5, 2015 Author Posted September 5, 2015 Mine did. She blocked me and all my friends and family as well. Guess that'll teach me for being a No-Good Lousy Dirty Filthy Stinking dumpee. I know were not suppose to care and it help the healing them blocking us. But I would be pissed especially if I didnt do nothing to cause the break up. 2
Gus Grimly Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 It's her loss. You're definitely a keeper. Now I'm blushing again. Thank you Satu, that means a great deal coming from you. 2
Happines Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 She doesn't need to have ur number in her phone for you to see her picture because there are two options on watsup...visible only to your contacts or visible to public...so she might actually not have ur number I was the dumper and I blocked my ex 1 week ago because he would contact me once a month and mess with my head (I left him because he did too many bad things not because I stopped loving him)... You have to try and stop checking what she is up to coz u are hurting only yourself...maybe think about going to therapist or try to do meditation 1
Author MINDSHIFT Posted September 6, 2015 Author Posted September 6, 2015 She doesn't need to have ur number in her phone for you to see her picture because there are two options on watsup...visible only to your contacts or visible to public...so she might actually not have ur number She has her whatsapp set to visible to contacts only so i know she has my numbers stored. But your right i started to feel better on Day 4 empowered, now I feel like a sucker but Ill get over it. NO MORE STALKING 1
Happines Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I know you feel horrible and hopeless but honestly it will get better with time especially if you will stop looking into all these things and hoping for something It's been 3 months for me and yes some days I still feel bad but it's certainly much better then the first few weeks or first month of the break up:) Be positive about urself and ur life and imagine that after some time you will remember this situation and will laugh at yourself and think my god how stupid I was cuz you will have a special girl who you will love So all is good...as they say his has a plan for each of us and it's just a part of your journey to a better and happier life 3
chados Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 as a dumper i would find it very mean to block. only reason i would do that would be if the person was mean or abusive to me, and i would probably tell the person that i cant move on seeing you every day. other reason might be if she couldnt move on herself, if she was stalking me or something. however as a dumpee i would have no problem to block the person thats told me she doesnt want me in her life.
ScienceGal Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I've never been blocked, but then again, I've never tried to make contact multiple times post break up. I've been unfriended on social media, which I think is healthy and normal for anyone attempting to heal and move on. I've done both unfriending, deleting and blocking.
emi Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 No. They just dont care that much to block you lol
10yearsgoneaway Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 No. They just dont care that much to block you lol That's actually it. Indifference is the opposite of love. Not hate. My ex didn't block me or unfriend me or anything. Just acted like a casual acquaintance a day after the break up. So, I blocked him.
theredpill Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 I unfriended my ex after meeting 7 weeks after the break up by accident, she still wants to be friends, even snogged me then moaned at my mate that I won't bend at all and she misses me. Time to let go an find someone else methinks, guarantee she'll be back in touch when the dating starts, there's only so many decent places to go out drinking and it's inevitable one of her mates will see me and report back Ironically, the only public pictures on her FB over the last year are us together, haha! Fate...
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