Jonp219 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 It's amazing how powerful music can be in regards to memories. Yesterday I came home and my mother was listening to the radio while she was cooking. When I walked in I heard them playing, "Counting Stars" by OneRepublic on the radio. My God, the sharp jolt that sent through my heart was something I haven't felt in a while. Anything by that band reminds me of my ex, its her favorite band and it's the only concert I ever been to. Which is why I deleted all their albums from my phone after the break up. I like their music but it's just too painful to listen to ----right now. However, about a month ago I heard another song that reminded me of a girl I use to love before my recent ex. Listening to that song made me really happy and took me back to that summer I spent with her and her family. This is probably why I haven't eaten Mexican food since I last saw her . I was never a fan until she introduced me to it. It's funny how these things can trigger powerf emotions within you. It's almost as if they will always be apart of you--somehow. Does anyone experience these triggers from time to time? If so, do they diminish over time, or do the emotions just change for you? 1
Sunshine09 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 music is always a huge trigger for me sometimes I can't even listen to a specific genre or a song because it brings back too strong of memories 1
edgygirl Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Huge trigger. And I was on vacation this year, in a country where guys wash cars on the street to make money. The guy by my vacation rental blasted this one song that reminds me of him every single morning! Ahhhhhhhh. I was thinking to myself - should I go there and explain the situation to him so he stops playing it? LOL. It's hard. I think this happens until we fall in love again. Then these relationship mementos become less hurtful. I hope. 1
BriNyc82 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 HUGE trigger. I have playlists on spotify and I remember listening to a certain playlist a lot while we were together. So now I just associate all those songs with him bc it was at a time when I was happy. It sucks b/c I love music but I hate the negative association it can have. I can't even walk by a specific wine bar near my street anymore bc I don't want to be reminded of happy times. sucks 1
CT98 Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 It's been a year for me now, and I'm pretty sure that I'm over it, but there's still one album which I can't bring myself to listen to because it was pretty much all I/we played during one particular summer together and I don't know how I will react to it. Annoying really because it's darn good. 1
Chronograph Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 God yeah, Music can be the worst and painful thing. It brings up so many emotions! The first days and weeks I couldn't listen to any music, apart from maybe some angry punk songs or bitter Leonard Cohen songs. Now it's gotten better but I still have to stay away from random radio ... cause anytime a sad song could come on, or a song that holds specific memories ... oh no! I actually never understood how some people are able to deliberately listen to sad break up songs after a break up. I mean, I did that once (2 months after) and I couldn't stop crying the whole night basically. So yeah, Music is a huge trigger and there are still artists, albums or songs I avoid cause we listened to them together or I associate them too much with him and our time. Really sad! 1
Yummm Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 Music is full of emotion, full of power. I also find it hard to listen to certain songs that we used to listen to together, heck, I even find it hard to listen to any random depressing love song as it reminds me of her even though we've never listened to it! It's all about associating memories/moments with the music. I can now listen to ALMOST anything without feeling sad about my ex, simply by overplaying the songs and associating NEW memories with those songs. For example to the OP with regards to One Republic: If you play counting stars over and over and over, it will become easier. Then take it a step further, play it whilst in a car with a friend, or play it whilst doing something that will create a memory - the association with that song and your ex will become less and less. Positive vibes xo 1
Author Jonp219 Posted September 9, 2015 Author Posted September 9, 2015 Music is full of emotion, full of power. I also find it hard to listen to certain songs that we used to listen to together, heck, I even find it hard to listen to any random depressing love song as it reminds me of her even though we've never listened to it! It's all about associating memories/moments with the music. I can now listen to ALMOST anything without feeling sad about my ex, simply by overplaying the songs and associating NEW memories with those songs. For example to the OP with regards to One Republic: If you play counting stars over and over and over, it will become easier. Then take it a step further, play it whilst in a car with a friend, or play it whilst doing something that will create a memory - the association with that song and your ex will become less and less. Positive vibes xo Yumm that is so hard i don't think I can do that without something coming over me. And it's not just that song it's their whole album. However, most of those memories don't solely just come from the music it also comes from the concert we went to last summer. She always wanted to see them in concert so we bought tickets and went to see them play in Jones Beach, NY. That was my very first time going to a concert in my life so it was an interesting and fun experience. The concert was headlined by OneRepublic featuring The Script. The concert was just filled with a lot of emotions all together, for the both of us. A lot of the songs they played were songs she dedicated to me throughout our relationship. DAMN! I feel a knot in my heart just typing this. Well, I guess that's a clear indicator of how much those memories mean to me.
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