Otter2569 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 A not yet divorced neighbor who is friends with my ex and our kids are good friends has been hitting on me on OLD. This isn't the first time shes done this but ive recently gone back on line after a break up so its starting again. Even weirder I know she is seeing someone because of her FB pics and posts. I have basically ignored her and have no real attraction. We seem like opposites but could see a possible one nighter but still not even comfortable with that thought. This morning she invited my boys over to her house...I have to drive them and she usually comes out to chat....luckily we have plans. Awkward is all i can say.
Siquijor Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Facebook is very useful I find. As a non-member.
smackie9 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 When you ignore you make yourself a challenge, and women like challenge. How is she actually "Hitting" on you?
Author Otter2569 Posted September 5, 2015 Author Posted September 5, 2015 She added me as a favorite on the OLD site then sent a meet me request. followed up with a message "sorry that things didnt work out in your relationship". Last time I was on OLD she asked if I wanted to go out for drinks. I am kind of friends with her ex husband though we havent hung out in quite a while. My two former GF's used to say that they could tell she wanted me (coming out to say hi and leaning into the car so her boobs really popping out). I just act like nothings going on n be myself.
BlackOpsZombieGirl Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 How *close* of a neighbor is she? I mean, does she live right across the street from you, right next to you, or is she like a block or a couple of blocks away from you? The reason I ask this is because, the farther away she lives from you, the less of a problem it may be for you if you were to date her and then things didn't work out (for whatever reason). But, since it appears that you have no strong attraction towards her nor any desire to date her anyway (other than for a ONS), you should probably just block her on the OLD site and on FB and just be done with it. Problem solved. .
TaraMaiden2 Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Rather than block ignore or pretend, could you not, would it not just be possible, to actually say (or write) to her - "Thanks for all the messages, but to be honest, I'm really finding it awkward to connect with you, especially as I think, or seem to remember you're with someone.... I'm really not at all interested in exploring anything further, and would be really appreciative if you could not message me, or contact me with any view to getting together...." Sometimes, tackling the issue head-on, may have a quick and desired effect....? 2
carhill Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 ^^^^ Yep, I found this worked well with MW's, in person. I can't think of one whom ever contacted me again. Also, I'd advise scratching thoughts of an ONS. That's another whole can of worms with a neighbor.
Author Otter2569 Posted September 5, 2015 Author Posted September 5, 2015 Great advise - Its better to say something in a nice but direct way. She lives down the street so unless the kids get together, which they do, I dont see her or can avoid her most of the time.
Art_Critic Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Also, I'd advise scratching thoughts of an ONS. I was thinking the same.. like if it's awkward now it would be 10 times more awkward after a little hit it and quit it.... 1
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