mitchapalooza Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 I posted my story a while back I'm almost 2 weeks out but the relationship was so confusing I'm not sure to be honest. It was portrayed "mutual break up". But I'm the dumpee for sure. Back story, we had a break up.. I'm sad, angry, and lonely. Today is Friday. I am loading up for a 3 day weekend and all I can think about is contacting my ex and doing our old routine of going to Sushi or cooking, getting a movie and a bottle of wine (beer for him), laundry, and hanging out. I was literally unblocking him to send the text before I decided to log on here first. We did break NC Tuesday and Wednesday to get him his stuff back. (He text me really excited and scared about a new job he got - I had some of his tools) His demeanor seems indifferent which means hes way over it. But its been a faked emotion via text in the past from both of us. I ran into his co-worker outside my apartment Wednesday (he's having a fling with my neighbor). I gave him the stuff and sent a text to the ex stating "The eagle has landed, you are officially free :)" He replied, "thank you, you are free too." With that I blocked him again so I don't text him. I am seeking the advice of my wise and wonderful Love Shack people to help me not do something I may or may not regret. My head needs to stop! Please remember I am only 1 day out of NC and 2 weeks out of the what-ever-it-is-we-had. Here are the options so far: 1. Take my girlfriends advice and go out on the town. - I'm in the phase where I don't want to be sociable - but from what I understand, sometimes we need to force ourselves? 2. Text my ex and see if he wants to watch a movie. - I really really really reallllyyyyy want to do this and feel normal. 3. Head to the golf course after work for a solo round. - I love this game, but I will have alottttt of time thinking. Is that good or bad? 4. Go home - take a sleeping pill and go to bed. - This way I'm not rushing myself and avoiding a melt down in public. Thanks for your advice. Please let me know what you did to get past a day like today. Or maybe you have a better idea then options 1-4?
d0nnivain Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Anything but # 2. Do not text the EX. The driving range may be a good way to get out frustration. Going out with your friends should elevate your mood. You'd be surprised at how much fun it's possible to have even when you were initially reluctant to go out
Author mitchapalooza Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 Anything but # 2. Do not text the EX. The driving range may be a good way to get out frustration. Going out with your friends should elevate your mood. You'd be surprised at how much fun it's possible to have even when you were initially reluctant to go out Good point my friends are pretty fun. I will driving range and then go out. And I should probably give my friend my phone I doesn't have a breathalyzer.
quattrob Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Anything but #2.. #2 is the worse decision. What do you mean feel normal? You need to learn from this break up, learn not to depend on someone else for your own happiness. It's only been 2 weeks so I understand why you're thinking and being how you are. You need to accept it's over and you're not in a relationship with him anymore. Learn to move on and learn to be more independent.
Author mitchapalooza Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 Anything but #2.. #2 is the worse decision. What do you mean feel normal? You need to learn from this break up, learn not to depend on someone else for your own happiness. It's only been 2 weeks so I understand why you're thinking and being how you are. You need to accept it's over and you're not in a relationship with him anymore. Learn to move on and learn to be more independent. I think it was more of a weak moment where my emotions move faster than my logic. I am extremely unhappy right now. The last thing I can relate to as far as being happy is being woken up with breakfast in bed when I was sick.... laughing and joking... playing golf on play station... its a delusion. Natural to think of the good times when you are missing someone. But yes my emotional dependency needs to stop. Thanks for the tough love.
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