Gymcandyman Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 So it's been like just under 3 months after the break up I'm feeling a lot better than I was I've been on a few dates spoken to other girls but I still want this girl, I took her for granted in the 1.5 yr relationship wasn't thinking only about myself but I've changed and sorted myself out however me and her have had sex during this time so met up occasionally but she keeps bringing up "just friends" I hurt her obviously she doesn't want to be hurt again which I know 100% I won't I've been ignoring her a few times trying to be less available and she goes nuts she texted me like 'who did you end up going to the hotel with" which ignored the next day she messaged me a picture of my favourite sweets and ignored it the next day she texted me 'any reason why your ignoring me I know your probably met someone else but you'd said we'll keep in touch but if you don't want me to bother you just say" lol I'm just confused where I should go from here if I want her back ? Any tips Or ways ? Would be appreciated thanks
Zagan Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Well not ignoring her would be a good start. If you took her for granted and you want her to see you have changed then it's going to take some effort on your part. Sounds like she's still very interested in you, atleast sexually (for now) anyway... Maybe in time if you can show her you have truly changed she will start to trust and believe in you again. But ignoring her and being cold isn't really proving anything other than you can easily turn your back and ignore somebody reaching out to you that you already took for granted and hurt over a 1.5 year period.
Author Gymcandyman Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 Well not ignoring her would be a good start. If you took her for granted and you want her to see you have changed then it's going to take some effort on your part. Sounds like she's still very interested in you, atleast sexually (for now) anyway... Maybe in time if you can show her you have truly changed she will start to trust and believe in you again. But ignoring her and being cold isn't really proving anything other than you can easily turn your back and ignore somebody reaching out to you that you already took for granted and hurt over a 1.5 year period. I ain't ignoring her to be harsh I was only doing it for her to miss me and not to think that I'm just going to be stuck as a friend until she finds someone else and forgets about me ,she only contacts me I never contact her first btw, she still kisses me to which is weird why would she kiss me if she just friends :/ that's why I'm confused
Zagan Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 I ain't ignoring her to be harsh I was only doing it for her to miss me and not to think that I'm just going to be stuck as a friend until she finds someone else and forgets about me ,she only contacts me I never contact her first btw, she still kisses me to which is weird why would she kiss me if she just friends :/ that's why I'm confused Two people playing games to see if someone's still interested or still misses them is just wasting time. To show her you want her and have changed you have to first tell her of your intentions and then show her you can be trusted. Tell her that you want another chance with her and that you feel you have changed and want to show her that, if she can give you the opportunity. Tell her that small shows of affection from her are confusing you because you know the two of you are not exclusive, but that you want to be again. And if she doesn't want to then cut ties with her because it won't do anybody any good. Actually telling somebody whats going on in your head can go a long way sometimes.
drseuss Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 The tricky thing about this is she obviously still wants you despite what she might say and she isnt going to get better or get over you if you are still talking and hanging out , for her sake the best thing to do is say i dont we can be freinds right now and let her get over you , once she has a friendship is much more likley it will be hard because she wont want it but in the long run its healthier but if you want her back be striat up about it and tell her how you feel and what you want
Satu Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Neither of you are doing anybody a favour with this 'friends' idea. You need to detox, which means NC. 2
Chi townD Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 I ain't ignoring her to be harsh I was only doing it for her to miss me and not to think that I'm just going to be stuck as a friend until she finds someone else and forgets about me ,she only contacts me I never contact her first btw, she still kisses me to which is weird why would she kiss me if she just friends :/ that's why I'm confused Worst reason EVER to start NC. NC is NOT a tool to get our Ex's to miss us and want us back. NC is a tool to help us heal and move on. To protect ourselves from any further hurt. 1
Author Gymcandyman Posted September 6, 2015 Author Posted September 6, 2015 Today I asked her if she wants to come round and make dinner together and she said she don't mind and said you not seeing anyone else yet ? Lol
Author Gymcandyman Posted September 6, 2015 Author Posted September 6, 2015 Would buying her favourite flowers be a good idea to show her I can be Romaric which I really wasn't really in the relationship
ravfour4 Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 She likes you, if you want her back just show her that you've changed. Simple.
theredpill Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Don't buy her flowers unless she's your girlfriend, which at the moment she isn't.
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