veronicalawrence Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 We met about 4 months ago. He picked me, took me out for dinner and we couldn't get enough of each other. He immediately spoke about what he wants. He is 10 years older so he said he wants a serious relationship and does not want to play around. We clicked instantly and could open up to each other about anything. Even to this day, we talk about everything. We regularly tell each other that we feel at ease in each others presence. I definitely feel attracted to him, yet I feel he is also a friend to me. We are also similar in many ways and he has said that before as well. When we are out together, he makes me feel feminine because he holds my bags for me, opens the door, makes sure I am not cold and provides a cardigan just in case. Suggests picking me up to take me food shopping etc. He is the sort of the guy that sets the night out for you and has everything planned. He asked to date me exclusively pretty quickly almost a week into knowing each other. He includes me in his future plans and asks about mine as well. He once said that he would like to have a Caucasian wife(I am white, he's Chinese) because of how he would like his children to be brought up as he believes the Asian way of bringing up children isn't very good, so the Asian and Caucasian together would be a good fit. When we're in public, he holds my hands and kisses me every now and then. He compliments me, for example he said "You are one of those people that get more beautiful every time you see them" and says other sweet things. He says things that other men haven't told me before, for example "You are very mature, your parents did a great job raising you" He always usually initiates conversations(texting & calling) and meet ups. Months went by and about 2 weeks ago, we decided to sleep with each other for the first time. I am currently living with my parents and he apparently lives with his sister and I suggested from the beginning that once we start to become sexual with each other, I would like a hotel. He set the room up for us and played some nice music, really romantic. He cummed really quickly although he made sure I was pleased as well. He kept getting phone calls and I could see it was irritating him, he told me they were work calls and I am 60% sure they were as I could hear male voices(almost every time we are together, he gets these work calls). After we had sex, he said he wanted to have a little sleep so he grabbed me and we cuddled for a little bit. His body language that whole night was his usual self, as I am aware some guys body language can be of after sex. He asked whether I want room service or would like to go out. He ended up choosing to go out. The dinner that night went really well. We had our usual serious talks and he said he wants to take me somewhere for a holiday and asked if I would able to. He spoke about where he wants to be in 5 years. He said "I would like to be married, to who I do not know but I would like to be married and be worth a few million". Then he asked where I would like to be in 5 years. He got a call from his boss and told him he had to be somewhere by the morning. He was apologetic and said that he would drop me home. On the way out of the hotel when we were down at reception, he told me to wait and not come over to the desk? Anyway, I wasn't actually annoyed that he had to drop me home, even though he did tell me to bring clothes for the night. He dropped me home and told me he was going to miss me. He then said "send me a naughty photo tonight" and I sort of jokingly rolled my eyes and got out of the car to say goodbye. He texted me the next morning asking how I slept, I replied and then he stopped texting me. He texted me the next day and we spoke for a little while and then that night, he said he was back in town. I replied briefly and he didn't say anything more for about a week. Then I decided I should reach out(which is unusual of me and asked how his trip was, he replied and said that he is still working hard and asked how I've been, his reply was pretty flirty. I told him that I am going away this week(last week I sent that) but would like to know when he's free, he then replied asking when I am going, how long for and that he is also going away soon. I told him for a couple of days and he replied asking what day as he said we could plan to meet up. I didn't reply and then a few hours later he said he misses me. The next morning I replied saying I will let him know when I'm back and he said okay with two kisses. I texted him a week later to let him know I'm back(sent it last night) and he said welcome back. I replied and he said that he just got back as well and just landed, I then said welcome back to him also. That was last night and I haven't heard anything since.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 OP, is this the same man from your other threads? As I recall, a few folks here seem to suspect he is married or otherwise not being honest with you. Why do you continue to stay if you have so many doubts?
No_Go Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Just move on and start dating others to distract your attention. This guy played you, I'm sorry. I'm first VERY doubtful that he's single, and second, reading from your statements, I'm concerned about his work situation (IF any! Personal experience: a guy that I was dating was constantly getting phone calls from "work", paying everything cash, acting like a "businessman" and explaining me he'll be worth "millions" - reality: calls were from friends that HE owed money too, or his mommy, who he was mooching from; he had no credit cards, just the cash from friends, mommy, and later me; he was unemployed for years, alcoholic, with solid criminal record) Your guy could be different - but seek some proof for his employment AND living situation if you want to keep in touch at all. (Oh, my guy also was living with a "roommate", "crazy one" - translate: girlfriend from 4 years!!! that he was mooching off, living in her apartment for free, untill she kicked him out and he moved in with me. When I kicked him out btw he moved straight to the house of another woman ...) Btw how old are you, and is that your first partner? (The period-right-after-sex he may interpreted you're bleeding from losing virginity, even if not true, making him run even faster...) But whatever it was, it was, he is not willing to meet anymore, likely because he IS scared (from his wife? or someone else? ... we'd never know and better that way...) We met about 4 months ago. He picked me, took me out for dinner and we couldn't get enough of each other. He immediately spoke about what he wants. He is 10 years older so he said he wants a serious relationship and does not want to play around. We clicked instantly and could open up to each other about anything. Even to this day, we talk about everything. We regularly tell each other that we feel at ease in each others presence. I definitely feel attracted to him, yet I feel he is also a friend to me. We are also similar in many ways and he has said that before as well. When we are out together, he makes me feel feminine because he holds my bags for me, opens the door, makes sure I am not cold and provides a cardigan just in case. Suggests picking me up to take me food shopping etc. He is the sort of the guy that sets the night out for you and has everything planned. He asked to date me exclusively pretty quickly almost a week into knowing each other. He includes me in his future plans and asks about mine as well. He once said that he would like to have a Caucasian wife(I am white, he's Chinese) because of how he would like his children to be brought up as he believes the Asian way of bringing up children isn't very good, so the Asian and Caucasian together would be a good fit. When we're in public, he holds my hands and kisses me every now and then. He compliments me, for example he said "You are one of those people that get more beautiful every time you see them" and says other sweet things. He says things that other men haven't told me before, for example "You are very mature, your parents did a great job raising you" He always usually initiates conversations(texting & calling) and meet ups. Months went by and about 2 weeks ago, we decided to sleep with each other for the first time. I am currently living with my parents and he apparently lives with his sister and I suggested from the beginning that once we start to become sexual with each other, I would like a hotel. He set the room up for us and played some nice music, really romantic. He cummed really quickly although he made sure I was pleased as well. He kept getting phone calls and I could see it was irritating him, he told me they were work calls and I am 60% sure they were as I could hear male voices(almost every time we are together, he gets these work calls). After we had sex, he said he wanted to have a little sleep so he grabbed me and we cuddled for a little bit. His body language that whole night was his usual self, as I am aware some guys body language can be of after sex. He asked whether I want room service or would like to go out. He ended up choosing to go out. The dinner that night went really well. We had our usual serious talks and he said he wants to take me somewhere for a holiday and asked if I would able to. He spoke about where he wants to be in 5 years. He said "I would like to be married, to who I do not know but I would like to be married and be worth a few million". Then he asked where I would like to be in 5 years. He got a call from his boss and told him he had to be somewhere by the morning. He was apologetic and said that he would drop me home. On the way out of the hotel when we were down at reception, he told me to wait and not come over to the desk? Anyway, I wasn't actually annoyed that he had to drop me home, even though he did tell me to bring clothes for the night. He dropped me home and told me he was going to miss me. He then said "send me a naughty photo tonight" and I sort of jokingly rolled my eyes and got out of the car to say goodbye. He texted me the next morning asking how I slept, I replied and then he stopped texting me. He texted me the next day and we spoke for a little while and then that night, he said he was back in town. I replied briefly and he didn't say anything more for about a week. Then I decided I should reach out(which is unusual of me and asked how his trip was, he replied and said that he is still working hard and asked how I've been, his reply was pretty flirty. I told him that I am going away this week(last week I sent that) but would like to know when he's free, he then replied asking when I am going, how long for and that he is also going away soon. I told him for a couple of days and he replied asking what day as he said we could plan to meet up. I didn't reply and then a few hours later he said he misses me. The next morning I replied saying I will let him know when I'm back and he said okay with two kisses. I texted him a week later to let him know I'm back(sent it last night) and he said welcome back. I replied and he said that he just got back as well and just landed, I then said welcome back to him also. That was last night and I haven't heard anything since.
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