Arda199 Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 So yeah my ex dumped me 3 months ago over an argument i didn't talk to her since then complete 3 months of NC i kinda started healing until 3 weeks ago when i knew form one of our friends that she's asking if i talk about her or miss her ? this kept playing in my head i couldn't stop thinking about it so today i talked to one of our mutual friends and she told me that my ex in RS with someone i know, so yeah i don't feel confused about the break up anymore i know i shouldn't ask about her but i'm sorry i couldn't stop thinking about it
sowhynot Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 (edited) I know there's a lot said on LS about closure coming from within, but sometimes knowing that your ex. has moved on makes you realize that actually you've moved on as well - there might be a little bit of pain but nowhere near as much as there would have been at the start of NC. And that can feel pretty good. Edited September 4, 2015 by sowhynot Early morning blurry eyes can't see duff spelling . . . .
Author Arda199 Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 I know there's a lot said on LS about closure coming from within, but sometimes knowing that your ex. has moved on makes you realize that actually you've moved on as well - there might be a little bit of pain but nowhere near as much as there would have been at the start of NC. And that can feel pretty good. It really hurts to be replaced but in the same time i don't have to spend more time wondering what cause the break up and if she still misses me or not 1
erklat Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 I don't see how this break of NC helped you? That is why I say that NC is one size fits all unless in cases of emotional and physical abuse. Essentially you were always dumped to allow them to be with someone else. 2
Author Arda199 Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 I don't see how this break of NC helped you? That is why I say that NC is one size fits all unless in cases of emotional and physical abuse. Essentially you were always dumped to allow them to be with someone else. yeah but i never knew the reason why i thought because of the argument we had although it wasn't something big but now i know why
Itspointless Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 We are not all the same, what works for one sometimes does not work for another. I am happy that it worked for you Arda.
Chi townD Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Okay, so you're probably wondering why she was inquiring about you if she already has someone. Because of guilty curiosity. She knows that she's moving on, but she wants to make sure you're moving on too. If she discovered that you were okay and you were out dating, that would ease her guilt about this new relationship. "Oh look! He's fine. He's out dating and I'm with this new guy. I guess the break up was for the best after all!" You'll see it every once in a while on here. Guy or girl goes NC on an Ex and they happen to run into there Ex one day. and then the Ex becomes REALLY interested in your current love life. I mean, Why?!?! You were in a loving relationship with them for months or years! Why would they want to know if I was hooking up with someone? Because, they already have and it would ease their guilt to know you have too. 1
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