What do you think about him? Is he bad news?

[LoverOfDance]

So I met this guy on POF. After talking for a few days we agreed to meet. On the day we were so supposed to meet, I never heard from him so I just let him be. Had already been getting this feeling he wasn't that interested. Just felt like he wasn't texting me like someone who was really enthusiastic about me.

 

Anyways, two weeks later, he texts me "good morning". I asked why I haven't heard from him in weeks and he tells me he had a family matter to attend to. About two days before he sent this "good morning" text, I saw him online on POF.

 

I told him that I feel like he is lukewarm about me. I told him to be honest and just let me know if he is. Also asked him if he is talking to other girls. He told me he is very interested and is not talking to any other girls. He is also now very eager to meet me and is asking me when I would like to meet with him. My gut tells me not to trust him. What do you think?

[Conners]

it's a no brainier.

 

get some self respect. he stood you up and ignored you for two weeks and starts talking to you like he did nothing wrong, no apology either.

 

you'd be foolish to believe that he was "very interested".

 

even if he did have a family matter it takes 10 seconds to send a text msg

[ExpatInItaly]

Don't bother meeting him. Why would you?

 

He didn't bother showing up for a date, then went MIA for two weeks. Sorry, but I find it hard to believe he couldn't at least have sent a quick message to let you know he couldn't make it to the date. He doesn't respect you, and he's never even met you.

 

And I would always generally assume guys (and girls) on dating sites are talking to a few people at once. Not a bad thing, kind of how OLD works.

[TaraMaiden2]

So I met this guy on POF. After talking for a few days we agreed to meet. On the day we were so supposed to meet, I never heard from him so I just let him be. Had already been getting this feeling he wasn't that interested. Just felt like he wasn't texting me like someone who was really enthusiastic about me.

 

Anyways, two weeks later, he texts me "good morning". I asked why I haven't heard from him in weeks and he tells me he had a family matter to attend to. About two days before he sent this "good morning" text, I saw him online on POF.

 

I told him that I feel like he is lukewarm about me. I told him to be honest and just let me know if he is. Also asked him if he is talking to other girls. He told me he is very interested and is not talking to any other girls. He is also now very eager to meet me and is asking me when I would like to meet with him. My gut tells me not to trust him. What do you think?

 

This reads to me like

"Good grief! She bit - ?! She's still here? She must be desperate for a relationship = needs getting into bed.... I think I'll lead her along because she's obviously gagging for it. Tell her what she wants to hear - that'll do it...."

[madjac74]

Honestly it is always good to have a couple fish on backup who will always take your bait when the other fish just aren't biting.

 

"Good morning" after 2 weeks of no contact sounds just like he is dangling some bait to see if you are still at his beckon call. You fell for it hook, line and sinker.

[regine_phalange]

He missed his first target and after a couple of weeks he moved on to the second one! Don't expect someone to be honest about this kind of thing.

[Redhead14]

So I met this guy on POF. After talking for a few days we agreed to meet. On the day we were so supposed to meet, I never heard from him so I just let him be. Had already been getting this feeling he wasn't that interested. Just felt like he wasn't texting me like someone who was really enthusiastic about me.

 

Anyways, two weeks later, he texts me "good morning". I asked why I haven't heard from him in weeks and he tells me he had a family matter to attend to. About two days before he sent this "good morning" text, I saw him online on POF.

 

I told him that I feel like he is lukewarm about me. I told him to be honest and just let me know if he is. Also asked him if he is talking to other girls. He told me he is very interested and is not talking to any other girls. He is also now very eager to meet me and is asking me when I would like to meet with him. My gut tells me not to trust him. What do you think?

 

You never question a man very early on, at least, regarding his intentions with you specifically. It's ok to try to get clarity about his overall dating goal -- casual, looking for a relationship, etc. This guy owes you nothing. He can and should be talking to other girls and evaluating whether he wants to meet them and you should be doing the same thing for yourself with other men. Just because they contact you online doesn't mean they are obligated in any way to you.

 

And, this guy stood you up. Why even think about him at all. He stood you up and that didn't feel good. Why would you even talk to him again. If he had an emergency, he could have at least called you to say that, so I doubt his excuse.

 

I'm surprised you asked him all those questions anyway. If you were going to say anything at all to him, I would have said "No, thank you. You stood me up and I've moved on".

[d0nnivain]

You know he's lying to you. You saw him on POF yet you asked him if he was still talking to other girls. No offense, but that Q didn't even need to be asked. Anybody you meet through OLD is always still keeping their options open until both people promise to be exclusive. The fact that you asked him & he bold faced lied about it however means that he's worth even less then he was before he stood you up.

 

 

You need to get smarter & more cynical about dating. Why did you even need us to tell you this liar who stood you up is not worth dating? Until you learn to think more clearly, jerks like this guy will continue to use you. Learn to care for yourself & make smarter decisions.