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My ex and I haven't seen each other for almost 9 months. I decided to go NC after we broke up. He ignored me and immediately jumped into dating while I had to go through the pain but I have learned lots of positive things through that journey. Now 6 days ago, as I was heading to my office, I saw a car similar to his. I later on noticed a text msg saying "yes that was just me who drove passed you as you were crossing the street". I deleted all his contacts but knew it was him b'coz I thought I saw him. So my reply was friendly while I still asked if it was him, and he confirmed that he's kept my phone number. After a few messages he sent me an apology on the next day, sharing how he was so sorry for hurting me, he explained that he's felt terrible about the way he treated me and often do till now, that he had to pursue therapy for some depression he's had after losing his dad. I know he can be a very proud and stubborn person (at least based on the proud behavior he displayed when he broke up w/me but also the way he suddenly ignored me while being rude). So I was shocked to get such a text from him which also felt weird b'coz I honestly didn't know what to say then. But I took my time and told him how I truly appreciated him sharing that with me, let him know that we all've done things and there was no need to feel terrible. Took another day for the conversation to be comfortable again.

 

He said that he wishes I find someone better than him but his communication gravitates towards wanting me back. Now being in Germany, he plans to meet me when he's back. I am actually comfortable meeting him; I thought we both loved each other, he introduced me to his family, met mine, did lots of activities together and with our 2 families, our chemistry was amazing until he suddenly turned cold. Shall I give him a chance? Was he just mesmerized by how fit and elegant I looked when he saw me crossing the road? Or maybe because he truly realized he made a stupid decision?

 

My plan is to simply have a great time when we meet (since I don't need a closure) and see what he'll have to say later. Has anyone had experienced this? I'll appreciate you sharing your opinions

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Funny. You made the same thread twice...

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Funny. You made the same thread twice...

 

Yes, not sure what happened :) I guess I am still learning about this website! Thank you guys.

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