acidrein_08 Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Well I am finally going to break down and post some on what i'm going through. Me and my ex met over a month ago and since then we have developed a whole new relationship. I spent her birthday with her and now that school is out she is back in town and I have seen her a lot becuase we all hang out together with our friends. All my friends think we should hook back up. I have been with her for like the past 4 nights, we have talked about a relationship numerous times but she always says she needs time. We haven't argued once, and we are really in love with each other. She cares a lot about me and says she wants to make sure if we go back out that it will be for a really long time so that she just needs time to see how things go now thats she's home. We kiss, tell each other we love each other, and all our friends know we are 'talking'. She knows I want to be with her but am I doing the right thing by waiting for her to make her decision?
magda Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 I am confused. You met her a month ago and during that time you "hooked up?" then broke up? and now are already on the verge of hooking back up? That's a lot kind of fast - saying you love each other already.. You keep talking about your friends, too. All your friends know this, all your friends think that. I think you should back off and just let things happen instead of getting a whole army of friends supporting your relationship before she evne has time to think about what she wants. Quit pressuring her, if you push someone too hard what do they do? Take a step backwards, right..
westernxer Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 You're probably not familiar with his situation, Magda. Acidrein's been on here awhile. Last we heard he was keeping a low profile. Looks like things are changing. Acidrein, until she fully commits to you, don't wait. That's all I have to say.
Author acidrein_08 Posted May 15, 2005 Author Posted May 15, 2005 Wow this week has been crazy. Me and my ex are finally back together! But now with the trouble...we started going back out on the 12th, and have spent almost all our time together since then up until right now. It's been fun and great but then things started turning weird. She will have these times when she still doesn't know if she is ready for a relationship even though we are now in one, but then tell me she wants me. I just got back from a 4-wheelin trip with her and her cousins and it was a bumpy ride let me tell you. She just doesn't act like she's that into me, and hardly treats me like her boyfriend. Just a few minutes ago before I dropped her off she had gotten into it with her mom and was really mad so I pulled in to drop her off and she got out and started saying good bye then comes around to my window and hugs me and tells me she is sorry, she forgets that i'm her boyfriend sometimes and gives me some kisses and tells me to have fun. She has even admitted to not treating me like she should and said she just doesn't 'feel it'...so what to do? Everything was perfect up until we started going out, now things have gotten wierd with her...
westernxer Posted May 15, 2005 Posted May 15, 2005 Originally posted by acidrein_08 Everything was perfect up until we started going out, now things have gotten wierd with her... So stop going out with her.
fundamental Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 ***she forgets that i'm her boyfriend sometimes and gives me some kisses and tells me to have fun.*** Hmmmm.... she sure is one strange girl. Listen, It seems like she is playing mind games with you. If the whole getting back was so special, how can she forget you are her boyfriend? She is doing that on purpose. 1. She is trying to be a bad girlfriend, so that you will dump her. That way she won't feel guilty anymore because this time YOU did the dumping. 2. She just has to get used to the idea of being with you again. Therefore you must take things slow....very slow. She is confused about how things should be. 3. She is just strange. 4. She loves you but you are playing it cool and she is trying to do the same thing but is hiding her feelings too much. Good luck
Author acidrein_08 Posted May 16, 2005 Author Posted May 16, 2005 Wow, well we broke up last night and i'm hurt really bad. She told me she loved me and said I was so perfect but she just didn't want to be in a relationship right now. I told her I wanted her to be happy and didn't want her to be with me if she wasn't. All the work I put into getting her back and now this, she acted more like my girlfriend before we started going out then she did when we were going out. Damn love sucks.
NightsEcho Posted May 16, 2005 Posted May 16, 2005 Acid man, I'm sorry to here about the crazy week you have had man. The best thing for you now is to realize you are not decimated. You have been through the worst this girl could do to you, and you came out on top, bud. Let her go, you seem like a level headed guy, so ya the wounds are a little fresh again, but now is the time to put this girl in the past where she belongs. The wounds will heal again, probably much faster. You now know that you tried for a 2nd chance and it didn't work. Now get out there and start looking for the girl thats not gonna play with your heart.
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