bones1 Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Wow, where to begin..... Anyways to make a long story short, i had a very intense on and off again relationship finally end, this time, from me... I do feel bad, and wonder if i was too harsh..... please give me some advice... This particular issue had to do with money lent to me from my girlfriend to me... A little backgrund, my ex has much more money than me, and is older than me. I am not lazy or a bumb, I own my own business and work practically day and night...and do pretty well myself.. When we started dating I had an older truck... I really liked the truck, and was perfectly content. My ex, made so many comments that made me feel horrible... "only a loser has a truck like that", etc. So, she kept on offering to help with a down payment, and I kept refusing. One day she wanted to buy a brand new one and just write a check, but i would not let her. Then it got to the point where she says" thats why you will always be where you are, you wont let anyone help, you wont take any risks" etc etc.. So, finally I accepted her money for a truck.. She gave me 4 thousand dollars. She really did not say much at all about repayment, but i told her I would anyways. With all of my other bills, this payment, insurance, etc adds an extra 600 a month to my bills, of which i already have an apartment, etc. SO, i have paid her about 250 a month, which is much higher than the 100 she was asking. Actually, without her downpayment, i only would be paying an extra 100 a month on the monthly payment. . So everytime she is in a mood, for the past couple months, she brings it up... She says she is going to sue me.. Says I ripped her off some how... She got screwed... And she says all this right after i gave her 300 more dollars. One day before my birthday she is telling me that she is mad, and decided to charge me interest. Also, when we were broken up in the past she wanted me to do some work around her house. So i did, and I said i would do it for free. She insisted on paying, and i said "ok take 50 dollars off the loan... Then, just last week, she calls me cheap and petty, as she saw that the money was taken off the list. So after all of thisI just went off. Told her i never wanted to see her again, could not stand her constant badgering, belittling, etc. I said some more mean things. I never accepted a dime from anyone in my life, and made the mistake of accepting money from her. Why does she always insist on paying me? Giving me money? And then make me feel completely guilty for it... If i dont take it I am an unambitious loser... If i take it, I am a bad person, a con man? Then the constant threats to sue me... even though i am paying more than scheduled. Am i completely wrong here? Or is her treatment of me pretty lousy?
magda Posted May 13, 2005 Posted May 13, 2005 Well, you certainly make her sound like a bitch - and make it sound like you didn't take anything from her that she didn't force upon you through emotional manipulation, and all that. You haven't said anything nice about your relationship with her or anything else - haven't given any insight into whatever reasons she cites for wanting to sue you... You are a perfect angel and she is the anti-christ - i hereby validate you.
Author bones1 Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 Well, she talks about suing as she used to practice law... During the early times of our relationship, i hear how she wanted to, or did sue some of her boyfreinds... I chalked it up to bad luck, and that she picked bad men to date... I am not a perfect angel, but cant explain every single fight, or every single time we hurt each other. I have been hurtful as well, no doubt...
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