Bittersweet0 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 I was with someone for 8 months, prior to the relationship he chased me relentlessly. Then throughout the relationship he would accuse me of being shady that my head was in the clouds that I was controlling! I started believing him, maybe it was all me. Then when he ended it initially saying he needed space I was heartbroken. I broke every rule and tried to contact him by this time he was then deployed with the military. I tried to keep it light just check how he was. Most of the time I was ignored. Sometimes I'd get a reply normally sexual stuff). So it reached a point when I decided to delete number everything and let go. Only to come across an old message he sent to me where he screenshot our texts and he had saved my number under a guys name! I called him out on it, his response was I'm engaged I'm not interested (this is a lie we still have mutual friends and he is single and playing the field) then how horrible I am, I don't exist to him anymore. To move on but he expects I will probably try and contact him. Firstly I know I made a mistake in the initial nc period but this hate has knocked me! I don't want to pursue him and I have only been kind to him. (He forgets that in fact I have helped him financially bought him gifts and let numerous tales of other girls slide) I tried to show him I cared the whole time he was away but obviously I now no that didn't matter to him. My question is this, I don't want him back anymore but for my own sanity I don't understand why he has taken this to a level where he keeps saying things to hurt me? He could have simply said I'm sorry but I don't want you anymore and I would rather you didn't contact me. I'm late 20s and he in his 30s. Any tips on how to stop thinking about what I did so wrong would be appreciated!
Fleur de cactus Posted September 7, 2015 Posted September 7, 2015 When a relationship ends badly better to move on. The bad thing you did was to contact him. I know it hurts, I am sure you are looking for some answer. But he does not want you, he does no longer like you, You deleted his contacts and then later you wanted to confront him? Think twice, of course he was mad. You were niece to him, you tried hard maybe to make it work, I am sorry it did not work. Lying about being engaged is a message to you that he does not want to hear about you anymore. He wants you for forget about him. From now on. Don't contact him, otherwise he can change the whole situation against you, accusing you of staking him, or obsessed with him. Try to heal and move on.
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