Jadey Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 When your ex (who youstill like) gets a new gf. Weve only been split up 2 months and hes with someone. I cant egt over this pain. I didnt know why he dummped me but im guessing its probably cos he liked this girl all alone. Has your exes got new partners and how did you get over this one? Im soo glad she doesnt go to ourschool, seeing that everyday would be even worse. Any support would be brilliant. Thanks..
magda Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 It's never quite comfortable... even when someone YOU broke up with gets someone new. That is... if you're single. When you're single and don't have any prospects it makes you analyze things way too much. Best advice but the least descriptive is to move on, find someone new. Easier said then done, but there's no better cure. Best thing to do is quit talking about it. The more you talk about it, or post on message boards about it, the more you think about it. The less you think about it, the better.
Author Jadey Posted May 13, 2005 Author Posted May 13, 2005 You are probably right, thank you. Im trying to move on the best i can..
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 Yeah I could be in the same situation. My ex has been hanging out with this girl he used to talk about when we were dating. (Note: he broke up with me over a big fight because of alcohol). He says they're friends but my instincts tell me something different. Oh well. Hence me starting NC.
Author Jadey Posted May 14, 2005 Author Posted May 14, 2005 Im sorry to hear AngelEyez We WILL be ok tho! If they want someone else that isnt as good as us thats there problem
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 yeah we will. I even know what she looks like, and honestly I am a lot prettier then she is. Oh well. I am the prettiest girl he could ever get and ever will get. I wish his kids have two heads or one testicle or something, lol.
outdated Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 I am in the same situation- broken up for two months and recently found out that she's seeing someone else. My friends tell me she's making him up or blowing him out of proportion, but it doesn't matter. There's a whole backstory as to why they think that and I'm not going to get into that, but it doesn't matter one way or the other. You'll find that once the initial pain wears off that they're with someone new that you be more relieved because you can finally be through trying. You'll go through the same sh*t I did- same frame of thought I imagine- thinking about how the time you spent together didn't mean what you thought- how they're extremely happy with this new person (don't worry, unless they were sent from heaven as "the one" that'll fade)- how you'll never find someone else as great as them- how they blew something that was really great blah, blah, blah. Think these thoughts then BANISH THEM FROM YOUR HEAD AND GO STRICT NC. They are gone and that's the way they want it, so there's nothing you can do about it. It does hurt, and maybe (unlikely) they'll realize what a mistake they made and come back, but DO NOT HOPE FOR THIS. You have a life to live and you can't miss it being sad about someone that is banging someone else. Go out and get banged yourself. Show someone else what they can have with you. Work on your confidence and keep strict NC unless they are on fire or about to get run over by something (even then, use your discretion ). Much love to all at the shack. My life is coming back around, and it's coming Super Sized!
Author Jadey Posted May 14, 2005 Author Posted May 14, 2005 Outdated, Sorry about your situation. But could you tell me how am i supposed to do NC when i have to see him every week day? Hes is in 4 of my lessons a week and he also hangs out with my friends at break and lunch. I cant get away from him. Id have to not go to science and not hang out with anyone, which i cant do. I see no way of doing NC untill i leave school in 4 weeks. Wot do i do for now when i HAVE to see him?
outdated Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 Ignore him and act happy like you said you were. Plain and simple. He doesn't exist to you now. If he comes up and tries to talk to you. Walk away and smile. F*ck him. Plain and simple. Do not sit with him at lunch. Do not initiate any eye contact. Trust me, it seems impossible, but it's not. I don't believe that your friends are bound to him. So if you explain to them that you want to hang around them when he's not with them- and only then- they will agree to that. If they are friends, they will not want to cause you any pain. Unlike him.
Angeleyez2583 Posted May 14, 2005 Posted May 14, 2005 Haha.. it was impossible for me because he was a jerk and flirted with me. He even told me how proud he was of getting help for my problem. He would call me nick names like we were dating, and we even studied together for finals. Who cares though right? There are times I miss him and other times I'm glad we broke up because I can go out and meet new guys and make new friends. I think that pissed him off. I kept telling him stories of all these people he has never heard about, and he's like... o.. u met all these new people... wtf... I'm like.. well yeah He prob thought I was going to sit around and miss him every waking moment of every day. I am stronger than him. I am smarter than him. He told me that everytime he broke up with a girl they'd always want him back. So I will not play into his ego. His parents even bought me a graduation present. And the @$$ decides he's going to take this CPR class with me when he has a year to get certified. And he has to work at 6 am every day. I'm starting to seriously hate him. Hence that is whyI am on my 3rd day of NC. Go me!
Author Jadey Posted May 15, 2005 Author Posted May 15, 2005 I just rememberd that ive got to see him tomorrow, almost everyday for 1 more month now. I feel sick I feel so much better when i dotn see him. Wish i could do NC properly He probably loves all these mind games
chris1063 Posted May 17, 2005 Posted May 17, 2005 Originally posted by outdated I am in the same situation- broken up for two months and recently found out that she's seeing someone else. My friends tell me she's making him up or blowing him out of proportion, but it doesn't matter. There's a whole backstory as to why they think that and I'm not going to get into that, but it doesn't matter one way or the other. You'll find that once the initial pain wears off that they're with someone new that you be more relieved because you can finally be through trying. You'll go through the same sh*t I did- same frame of thought I imagine- thinking about how the time you spent together didn't mean what you thought- how they're extremely happy with this new person (don't worry, unless they were sent from heaven as "the one" that'll fade)- how you'll never find someone else as great as them- how they blew something that was really great blah, blah, blah. Think these thoughts then BANISH THEM FROM YOUR HEAD AND GO STRICT NC. They are gone and that's the way they want it, so there's nothing you can do about it. It does hurt, and maybe (unlikely) they'll realize what a mistake they made and come back, but DO NOT HOPE FOR THIS. You have a life to live and you can't miss it being sad about someone that is banging someone else. Go out and get banged yourself. Show someone else what they can have with you. Work on your confidence and keep strict NC unless they are on fire or about to get run over by something (even then, use your discretion ). Much love to all at the shack. My life is coming back around, and it's coming Super Sized! Great post Dude. I'm in the same situation as anybody who has seen any of my posts knows but Nc has been a real help to me and is helping me get back on track. It does get a little easier every day. I'm in the gym at my apartment every night and i've gained back the stone or so I lost at the start of the breakup. The nights and weekends are still hard but at least i'm concentrating on me now and i'm determined to be the best that I can possibly be ! If she ever sees me again she'll see what she's given up, i'll make sure of that !! As you said, much love to everybody on here. It's a great community.
Author Jadey Posted May 17, 2005 Author Posted May 17, 2005 ((hugs chris)) This would all be easier if it wosnt the anniversity of my twin brothers death comming up So much drama.
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