Deano1991 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Hey guys, I've been dealing with a bad breakup where I was left after 5 years (1 month engaged) for another guy.. it's been 6 months now and it's still torture. I am just starting to worry that it will always be this way, to any of you who have maybe had similar experiences.. do you ever actually move on completely? Thanks
Oregon_Dude Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 You'll move on if you're making the right steps to move on. These include personal therapy, exercise, working on projects that are meaningful to you... and DATING. You will always kind of miss the ex. Sucks, but it's life. That said, the missing will take up a smaller portion of your heart with every passing month.
organizedchaos Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Hey guys, I've been dealing with a bad breakup where I was left after 5 years (1 month engaged) for another guy.. it's been 6 months now and it's still torture. I am just starting to worry that it will always be this way, to any of you who have maybe had similar experiences.. do you ever actually move on completely? Thanks Yes. But Dude, 5 years. It's going to take you at least a year. If you stick to nc.
Author Deano1991 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 Well I really hope so.. I mean, I know with what she did, with leaving me for someone else, I should already have all the reasons to put it behind and just feel happy without her, but it's just not working that way.. So I really do hope it's a matter of time, and not something that will stick with you long term.
Qboro90 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 You'll eventually move on and get past it. Gonna take some time because 5 years and an engagement ending Bc she left for another guy is absolute ****ing ****ty to deal with. When you start seeing or noticing other girls and their attractiveness, or meet a girl that challenges you that's when you know you're good. But you're gonna doubt it and think it'll never end up until that day or that next girl comes along. That's fine. Just don't expect the next love of your life to show up next month or in the next 6 months. **** takes time. It's nothing that you're doing wrong or poorly.
Author Deano1991 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 And by saying eventually you'll move on, does that mean you'll stop caring about her? stop feeling so electrocuted everytime you think of her and her new fiancé? All these little things that are just so terrible to deal with..
Qboro90 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 You can't erase her from your memory, so the awareness that she broke your heart and did this to you will always exist. But as time passes and you go through other things the intensity of the pain and mind warp will start to regress and not be as crippling and as constant. Then eventually it just becomes another thing that happened to you in your life and just a crappy memory to have. But everybody has some kind of crappy event or relationship that's happened to them so just know it fades. And this is all assuming you do the normal things and allow yourself to move on as well. If you're checking her Facebook page or social media every day for the next 6 months then you're deliberately torturing yourself. People who have the "why did this happen to me, life isn't fair" mentality will do things like that instead of forcin themselves to come to the reality that "she didn't love me as much as i loved her, and she's never coming back". And that's ****ty to tell yourself but denying it is gonna make a awful breakup turn into a crippling event that you never recovered from. Don't let that happen. 1
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