TheBathWater Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 I've been seeing someone for over a month now and I thought things were starting to go well, but I have a few concerns. She generally does not act as interested in me as I in her (e.g. I make the first move physically, when we do get sexy she is distant/closed) but then through text, not in person, she will express to me how into me she is. She says she is not seeing anyone else but recently posted a photo of herself on Twitter roaming outdoors with some shirtless hunk and thanked him for being a gentleman. She waits hours to respond to my texts, but when we're out, her phone is always by her side and she will text her friends. She told me she was going to pick me up today and we would go to the beach, but she hasn't showed up or called. She also has ADHD. I like her, but my gut keeps telling me something is off and that she is bad news! I worry she is the manipulative type who gets off on playing with people's feelings. Thoughts?
casey.lives Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 This is not your gut anymore.. it's your logic.. having a gut feeling is not something that can be measured whereas in your situation it has. You know your answer 1
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Always listen to your gut. If something tells you she's not for real... there's a reason.
Redhead14 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 I've been seeing someone for over a month now and I thought things were starting to go well, but I have a few concerns. She generally does not act as interested in me as I in her (e.g. I make the first move physically, when we do get sexy she is distant/closed) but then through text, not in person, she will express to me how into me she is. She says she is not seeing anyone else but recently posted a photo of herself on Twitter roaming outdoors with some shirtless hunk and thanked him for being a gentleman. She waits hours to respond to my texts, but when we're out, her phone is always by her side and she will text her friends. She told me she was going to pick me up today and we would go to the beach, but she hasn't showed up or called. She also has ADHD. I like her, but my gut keeps telling me something is off and that she is bad news! I worry she is the manipulative type who gets off on playing with people's feelings. Thoughts? There isn't one single thing you've said that gives any reason for confusion here. Your gut is right, because she hasn't done one single thing to demonstrate she is seriously interested in you. You don't have ADHD at least . 2
Author TheBathWater Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 Hey, guess what everyone? The ho bag was cheating on me with the guy in the Twitter pic...only two days after she said we were exclusive. Ah, love...
mystikmind2005 Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Hey, guess what everyone? The ho bag was cheating on me with the guy in the Twitter pic...only two days after she said we were exclusive. Ah, love... If she was distant too you sexually, that is kind of weird that she is horny enough to cheat? I guess the other guy is more her type in bed but probably not so much in other areas?
regine_phalange Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 After having some relationships that didn't work I don't have patience when I see patterns being repeated with new people. I feel held back in my gut, as if I have failed an exam and having to try again with the same questions differently worded. Edit: I'm so sorry that she tricked you. Your gut was right after all!
smackie9 Posted September 4, 2015 Posted September 4, 2015 Some are just in love with the IDEA of a relationship, but not the relationship itself. She will be hopping onto someone else after this dude soon enough. 2
hromo Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Don't waste your time otherwise you will miss opportunities with someone special.
Toodaloo Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 When your gut is telling you something is wrong listen to it and walk away. Never ever think you are being silly. Just use your feet and walk away.
scooby-philly Posted September 6, 2015 Posted September 6, 2015 Some are just in love with the IDEA of a relationship, but not the relationship itself. She will be hopping onto someone else after this dude soon enough. I don't ever talk trash about women....but I've had the unfortunate experience with two women who want the "idea" of a relationship for different reasons.... (and yes guys can be douche bags too... ) Look at your friends on FB, look at people you know in real life. Figure what you want and then go out and find it. Yes, easier said than done. But, the person should be into you as much as you are into them.
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