SmackDaAce Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 So me and this girl were dating for 4 months and things were going well until some guy came around. Everytime we hung out he seemed to snapchat her, i didnt think anything of it. Then one day he texted her while we were hanging out and she was like hiding the phone from me as she opened it. Im like why are you doing that? She says because he's never texted her before and he use to ask her for sex over snapchat. The text ended up just being a casual text, wasn't anything bad. So I was like if you can't stop talking to a guy that just wants sex then im not sure if we will work out. She then said she was done talking to him and blocked him. We then went to a baseball game a few weeks later and I had her phone to i could post selfies on her snapchat story (lol). I then saw that she was on a 5 day snapchat streak with this guy, however i didnt say anything because i didnt want to ruin the night, as we were going to hang for like 8 hours. Then the next day i just couldn't hold it in anymore as i was lied to, so i texted her and asked her why she didnt block him? She then started apologizing, and i didn't respond right away because i wasn't sure what to think. She then begged to talk to me after I got off work, and even said "I can't lose you seriously please im begging". I then told her we could talk tomorrow (Saturday). Saturday comes and I say we need to talk. She then says "Are you breaking up with me?" I wasn't sure at the time so I was like I'm not sure...probably not because i love being with you. She then said "Break up with me now so you don't see me cry". Later that night, we end up meeting up and talking, my mindset was we were gonna talk about whats going on with that guy, and move on from there. Instead she insists that we break up because she will be really busy with sports and school. I asked her if we could try to make it work, she says she doesn't know because it wouldn't be fair to me, because she wouldn't have time for me. She says that she only dates guys in the summer and it was her fault for rushing into a relationship (which i think is true because i asked people that go to her school about it and they were like she hasn't dated anyone?" She also mentioned that the guy that use to ask her for sex, apologized and they just talk about his baseball and stuff like that. I then accepted it and wasn't going to beg for someone to be with me if they don't want to (even though she said "thats not what i said" when i say "you dont wanna be with me?"). We break off from there, go a week with no contact. I then contacted her and said "hows things?". I know that was stupid of me to contact after only a week of no contact. Her first message was "hi i miss you." I was like hmmm maybe she regrets her decision? We continue talking for about a week, just casual conversations, although she did say she missed me multiple times, and said that she hopes i know she didnt break up with me because she doesnt like me. All of a sudden she begins no contact and stops replying to my text. I didnt blow up her phone, i accepted it and went no contact. Right now its been about 3 weeks of no contact and I still miss her. Im gonna wait until my feelings for her are mostly gone before I even try to contact her. I doubt we would ever end up back together even though our relationship was pretty good and we didn't really ever fight. Where do you guys think things go from here? Did I mess everything up by contacting her after a week of breaking up? I just have a lot of mixed signals right now.
Qboro90 Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 I'm assuming you're both young so hang in there. This girl is playing games and lying to you. The message you sent "how's things" wasn't the best idea but it also wasn't a terrible thing to do and you didn't say anything that made you come off as desperate or hung up on her. Listen when I say this because you're going to want to make every excuse in the book for her and the part of you that likes her is gonna make you want to hold out hope that what she's telling you is the truth no matter how unlikely and illogical it sounds....... She's talking/hooking up with/hooked up with/or has a crush on that other guy. No doubt about it. She only talks to him about baseball? Lmfao, cmon, that's not even a good lie. She admitted he snapchats her sexual things and hits on her. Of course she's gonna say she's not into him like that and she'll tell him to stop. She didn't tell him to stop and it continued because she doesn't care enough about you to stop allowing other guys the ability to hit on her and disrespect your relationship and you. The summer dating excuse is such ridiculous move by her too. That's bs. This other guy came around and she probably has a crush or likes him and wants to pursue it, yet she also wants to keep you on the back burner in case things don't work out so she can just have you back and not feel bad about it. Don't fall for it. Don't contact her again. If she texts you or tells you she misses you again then you can reply once with "thanks but don't think it's a good idea we talk going forward, not trying to drag this out any longer than it already has" Or "did you miss me when you were snap chatting and flirting with that other guy? Or is he busy now and you're bored? Byeeeeeeeee" and just embarrass her
Author SmackDaAce Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 Yeah I guess you're right. Easier said than done especially when i have so many mixed thoughts on the situation! I will just continue with NC
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