guild11 Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Hello, I feel really unpleasant writing this... I have serious trust issues with my girlfriend, we work together and whenever she talks to my collegues I get jealous, sometime I think to myself "If she had a chance with that guys she probably would go for it". She might say stuff like my guy friend coming back to the country, and I start asking her who is that guy, she laughs about it and asks me if I'm serious. We work with big clients including celebs, so sometimes we go to premiers and meet them in person. Once she went there with collegues but I couldn't, a thought of her having sex with one of them run in my head. She never done anything that I had to question her loyalty, how do I overcome this ? Why its hard for me to trust her? ?
d0nnivain Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 You don't have trust issues so much as self esteem issues. When you start to remember what a good catch you are, you will be less upset when she has a professional conversation with a colleague. 1
Siquijor Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Do you feel like this with every girlfriend you've had? If you do, you probably have major insecurity issues. If not, get a girlfriend who doesn't make you feel this way.
Author guild11 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 Do you feel like this with every girlfriend you've had? If you do, you probably have major insecurity issues. If not, get a girlfriend who doesn't make you feel this way. I never was in a serious relationship before so I didnt care much. Few stuff that annoyed is the fact that she havent removed her ex photos from the facebook and uploaded only her photos when we took a weekend trip a while ago. Other time we went to friend's wedding, she didnt went there with me, she went there alone and we met afterwards. Later on we took pictures but she avoided taking photos of us together, makes me feel like she keeps me hidden.
Siquijor Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Sounds like she's ashamed of you for some reason but that begs the question - why is she your girlfriend? Is she using you for something? I'd 100% ditch her if I was you.
Frank2thepoint Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Few stuff that annoyed is the fact that she havent removed her ex photos from the facebook and uploaded only her photos when we took a weekend trip a while ago. Other time we went to friend's wedding, she didnt went there with me, she went there alone and we met afterwards. Later on we took pictures but she avoided taking photos of us together, makes me feel like she keeps me hidden. No you don't have trust issues. Your instincts are telling you something's off about your "girlfriend's" behavior toward you. I suggest talking to her about this topic, which is a big one. But I get a feeling she will go on the defensive, and outright accuse you of being jealous or controlling, deflecting the topic. 1
Author guild11 Posted September 4, 2015 Author Posted September 4, 2015 No you don't have trust issues. Your instincts are telling you something's off about your "girlfriend's" behavior toward you. I suggest talking to her about this topic, which is a big one. But I get a feeling she will go on the defensive, and outright accuse you of being jealous or controlling, deflecting the topic. I asked her once why she uploaded her photos only and keeps the photos of her ex, she took out her phone and showed me that she tries to delete em but she was getting an error message, I saw the error message "unable to delete" or somethin like that, she never bothered to delete them after. She is all words no action person, she says she loves me yet barely shows that, says that misses me/wants to sleep together but when I call her over she makes all kind of excuses. I shared this with my older sister, she said to stop acting like I'm in love, start acting more like a friend show her I'm doing fine without her. because it seems that she takes me for granted, said she will either be afraid to lose me and actually show her "love" or will get distant, either way I will know her true intentions.
Frank2thepoint Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 She is all words no action person, she says she loves me yet barely shows that, says that misses me/wants to sleep together but when I call her over she makes all kind of excuses. With these examples you already know her true intentions. You don't have to resort to a game of treating her like a friend. That's the "playing hot and cold" tactic. That builds resentment. I still recommend for you to attempt a serious discussion with her. But don't force it if she doesn't want to. If she doesn't put effort into discussing it, then seriously consider making an exit from the relationship.
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