Greekboy Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Hi guys, I've been the reading the forum for a long while but I just only found the courage to post about my recent break-up since I need to get this out of me. I was in a short-term relationship with a girl for 5 months until we mutually decided to take a break about a month ago. She broke the silence by sending me cute pictures, inside jokes and telling me that she will miss me. I thought everything was going to be ok and after our summer break we would work things out. However, after 3 weeks of no contact she wished me happy birthday and I engaged in a conversation with her. She was talking to me as if I was a complete stranger and told me that she had no feelings for me anymore and all that time helped her realise that she wanted to be alone. I was taken by surprise so I lost it, did all the begging and pleading for a couple of days with no results what so ever. She didnt show remorse or a hint of caring about me and my well being, absolutely nothing at all. Now she wasnt really looking for a relationship when we first met since she had an ex boyfriend that was treating her like crap for 3 years but the feelings were so intense that we both jumped right into it. We both felt like crazy for each other and didnt think twice about it. Finally the rough part, after 3 weeks of no contact since I did all the begging and pleading I texted her about getting my stuff back. Nothing changed, she was bitter towards me, distant and cold. I was so pissed off so I initiated an argument in which she admitted that she wanted to believe that it was love at first but in fact she was never in love with me. She said I have issues, that I treat people like crap, I am an elitist etc. Also she said that she realised I'm not the person she expected to me and it is all over for her now/she's got nothing else to say to me. I was deeply hurt hearing all this from the person I love so I replied with insults and I was being really aggressive(I know I shouldnt have really). Yesterday night I let my emotions cool off and decided to send her one last e-mail. Just letting her know that what I said the day before was mainly out of anger and a bad reaction on my part. Reminded her of the good times and told her that I only acted the way I did out of love. I truly care for her and I want her to be happy no matter if she's with me or not. Of course she never replied to me but it was a confession that I wanted to make to myself more than anything(even though I'd rather do it in person). I feel better now but still the feeling that I've lost the love of my life and that it was one-sided is still there. Thanks for listening guys, I would like to hear what you think about this. Admitting all this was so hard
Christos Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Wow, this reminds me a lot of my situation. although my relationship was for 6 years, she reacted in pretty much the same way to me. Do you mind if i ask how old are you and your ex? I am curious if age has a role in this.
Author Greekboy Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 Wow, this reminds me a lot of my situation. although my relationship was for 6 years, she reacted in pretty much the same way to me. Do you mind if i ask how old are you and your ex? I am curious if age has a role in this. We are both 26, well the difference is that we had a short term relationship though. I guess it was all too much too fast? Any insight would be awesome since you've been through the same
Christos Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 We are both 26, well the difference is that we had a short term relationship though. I guess it was all too much too fast? Any insight would be awesome since you've been through the same Well, i am not in a position to give solid insight, because i still haven't fully resolved my situation, BUT, i think you should try to move on. In general, aside from my own situation, when a woman acts like this, there is generally another man involved. She will never admit it ofcourse. Women never do that. Why would she? 1. There is no way for you to know 2. She doesn't want to seem like the bad person she is and accept responsibility for her actions 3. She likes to keep her bridges intact in case things don't work out, women love their back up plans... Trust me, women can't be alone. The only time a young woman wants to be alone and single, is when she is hurt. And she doesn't seem hurt to me... Women hate being lonely, they love being wanted by men and love sex. So when they act cold all of a sudden and want out, they have another man taking care of them. She will never admit it, unless you catch her on the act... Just move on, she isn't worth it.
drseuss Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 you are way better off to just listen to her , she doesnt want to be with you , you have done alot of damage but begging insulting and being agressive and i would bet there is no chance she would ever take you back , luckily it wasnt a long term r/s and you can take some really valuble lessons from this if you ever have to go through it again chin up and move on with your life a better person , she isnt coming back
Author Greekboy Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 Well, i am not in a position to give solid insight, because i still haven't fully resolved my situation, BUT, i think you should try to move on. In general, aside from my own situation, when a woman acts like this, there is generally another man involved. She will never admit it ofcourse. Women never do that. Why would she? 1. There is no way for you to know 2. She doesn't want to seem like the bad person she is and accept responsibility for her actions 3. She likes to keep her bridges intact in case things don't work out, women love their back up plans... Trust me, women can't be alone. The only time a young woman wants to be alone and single, is when she is hurt. And she doesn't seem hurt to me... Women hate being lonely, they love being wanted by men and love sex. So when they act cold all of a sudden and want out, they have another man taking care of them. She will never admit it, unless you catch her on the act... Just move on, she isn't worth it. I have my suspicions that she is already with someone else, but to be honest I dont even care about that! She is single and free to do whatever she wants. What hurts is that she said she was never in love with me and I cant believe how she will behave to me as if I'm nobody after no longer than a month!
Author Greekboy Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 you are way better off to just listen to her , she doesnt want to be with you , you have done alot of damage but begging insulting and being agressive and i would bet there is no chance she would ever take you back , luckily it wasnt a long term r/s and you can take some really valuble lessons from this if you ever have to go through it again chin up and move on with your life a better person , she isnt coming back I'm not trying to get back with her, I just cant deal with the fact that she told me she was never truly in love with me. And also that even though we started intensely now she wants nothing to do with me, treats me as if I didnt matter at all. Just seeking some form of reassurance to get on with life I suppose.
emotional_particle Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 you shouldn't care about her not ever being in love with you cuz in a few months you wont ever be in love with her either. it's the same thing just at different period of time. don't let it hurt your ego.
drseuss Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Well that a posative thing that your not trying to get her back , you will be absolutely fine , rejection sucks and love hurts so it's normal to feel like you are and in a could of weeks you will feel so much better , your mind has to process these emotion to get over them so just stick it out and let your self feel what you have to feel , it's all part of it
Christos Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Well, if it is any consolation, she didn't fall in love with you because she never gave you a real chance anyway. I bet deep inside she is still thinking about her ex. It is not about you. When we are with someone, we treat them right, and do our best, then if they don't love us it's their problem, not ours.
Author Greekboy Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 Thank you for the advice guys, I really appreciate it. Its just so hard when you thought she was one and as it turns out you meant nothing to her...
emotional_particle Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Thank you for the advice guys, I really appreciate it. Its just so hard when you thought she was one and as it turns out you meant nothing to her... i feel the same as you. we fantasize only good things about our future with our partners and when the reality hits us, we feel all desperate and disappointed. you get what you deserve and believe me you deserve better. 1
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