Ruby Slippers Posted September 1, 2015 Posted September 1, 2015 ...my current company I started is in marketing. It's no less trite...but the only way I use my gifts anymore is helping people make marketing decision with the greatest ROI. But, as most people know, us entrepreneurs don't make a lot of money. On paper we are millionaires. In practicality we are living paycheck to paycheck just like everyone else. That's how we practice philanthropy. By giving up our own wealth (short-term) to provide people with careers, benefits, and great cultures. Thanks for the clarification. I started my own company that does something similar. And while I'm not pulling in revenue in the millions yet, it's more than I used to imagine I was capable of earning. Similar to you, I keep a small percentage of that for my salary, and my contractors get the rest. I'm pushing more buttons than most, but I'm still working within the machine.
todreaminblue Posted September 1, 2015 Posted September 1, 2015 there are different kinds of smarts...kindness and a genuine and loving heart is actually a form of smartness....emotional intelligence.....theres street smart ...where having done it hard has given you an edge........theres book smarts...which as my son says makes me often retarded......i cant serve in a check out i am too slow...i vague out.........but put me in a room full of law books or town planning and see me excel..... if of all the intelligences i would want to have and have been told i do have....it is emotional intelligence......its where i know if someone needs help or a smile to go on with their day........your friend you speak of might not be able to balance a cheque book or do algorithms in her head or discuss the philosophies of life....there many beautiful mannerisms to be said however to the person who possesses a kind spirit..they see the world in completely different light.......that kind spirit has a beauty that cannot be compared...deb 2
PrettyEmily77 Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 I do know her. In what way is she not smart, in your opinion?
vanillacupcakes Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 it's all about how you prioritize the qualities you look for in a person. Would you rather be with someone as intelligent as Albert Einstein who was a crappy person? Someone can always learn new material and become "smarter", but having a good heart is something that can not be learned. 1
Els Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Intellect is my #1 non-personality related priority in a partner. That being said, you do you. If you really don't care about it, then why do you need others to give you permission? 1
Versacehottie Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 If you can understand that people have different types of smart, and appreciate her for the one she has. She sounds like she is maybe socially smart. There are a lot of people like that who do not have the intelligence that other people commonly think of as smart but they get along just fine or better in this world because like it or not that's a very valuable life skill. If she has that one AND you can wrap your head around it to see that it's just as valuable as other types of smarts, then I would give it a shot. But as you've started the thread now and with what you have said obviously at the moment there is some internal conflict for you about her intelligence. If you can't get into the thinking I mentioned above, I wouldn't recommend going for it because you already think you are superior and seem to value that as a trait in who you are dating (in the conventional sense). Nothing wrong with that. She just wouldn't be the right person for you. 1
casey.lives Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 albeit too smart is can be extremely annoying too..so.. 1
kilgore Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 albeit too smart is can be extremely annoying too..so.. I am really annoying that way...lol
edgygirl Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 @ OP: Apparently... as 99% of the world population is dumb and yet they keep reproducing. I guess it's okay then. And someone has to do the jobs smart people won't do so the world keeps moving Actually I envy dumb people. "Ignorance is bliss". They seem to have less existential internal conflicts and in the end prob lead happier lives. 1
kilgore Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 @ OP: Apparently... as 99% of the world population is dumb and yet they keep reproducing. I guess it's okay then. And someone has to do the jobs smart people won't do so the world keeps moving Actually I envy dumb people. "Ignorance is bliss". They seem to have less existential internal conflicts and in the end prob lead happier lives. Maybe they do have conflicts but don't know how to make heads or tails of it
Ruby Slippers Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Actually I envy dumb people. "Ignorance is bliss". They seem to have less existential internal conflicts and in the end prob lead happier lives. I totally noticed this with my last boyfriend. He wasn't dumb, but he wasn't so intelligent that he was constantly overthinking and overanalyzing. He just seemed happy and easy-going, getting done what needed to get done. The only time I ever saw him in a bad mood was when we were breaking up. 1
empresario Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Thanks for the clarification. I started my own company that does something similar. And while I'm not pulling in revenue in the millions yet, it's more than I used to imagine I was capable of earning. Similar to you, I keep a small percentage of that for my salary, and my contractors get the rest. I'm pushing more buttons than most, but I'm still working within the machine. Interesting. It would be fun to swap stories since we seem to be somewhat down the same pipe (although I did over-simplify the problem I was solving to remain anonymous...I'm sure you did as well).
Gary S Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Find someone smarter than you and you'll have less problems.
Author Billybob23 Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 If you can understand that people have different types of smart, and appreciate her for the one she has. She sounds like she is maybe socially smart. There are a lot of people like that who do not have the intelligence that other people commonly think of as smart but they get along just fine or better in this world because like it or not that's a very valuable life skill. If she has that one AND you can wrap your head around it to see that it's just as valuable as other types of smarts, then I would give it a shot. But as you've started the thread now and with what you have said obviously at the moment there is some internal conflict for you about her intelligence. If you can't get into the thinking I mentioned above, I wouldn't recommend going for it because you already think you are superior and seem to value that as a trait in who you are dating (in the conventional sense). Nothing wrong with that. She just wouldn't be the right person for you. So if there is nothing wrong with that, why isn't she?
anduina Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 It depends on what you consider to be important. Someone you can communicate with or someone you talk at. 2
alphamale Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Like say you really care for them but realize they aren't the brightest, though you think they make up for it by being a good person and having a good heart. at least one of the two people in a relationship need to have smarts otherwise things will get ugly 2
Author Billybob23 Posted September 2, 2015 Author Posted September 2, 2015 In what way is she not smart, in your opinion? Well if this helps you at all, she did use to think a dvd could play in a video tape player
Timshel Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 Well if this helps you at all, she did use to think a dvd could play in a video tape player You are over-thinking Billybob. Take off your thinking cap when you are with her. Give your mind a rest. Also, try Netfllx.....that is actually inside the telly. You know that, WOW her.
Timshel Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 If you believe yourself to be intellectually superior to this woman....do not date her. You are no greater value than she is, no matter your supposed intellect. Either you enjoy her company or not. I would tell her to not date you, if she were my daughter. You come off quite arrogant for reasons to yet be explained.
Author Billybob23 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 If you believe yourself to be intellectually superior to this woman....do not date her. You are no greater value than she is, no matter your supposed intellect. Either you enjoy her company or not. I would tell her to not date you, if she were my daughter. You come off quite arrogant for reasons to yet be explained. I assure you I'm not.
Author Billybob23 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 (edited) You are over-thinking Billybob. Take off your thinking cap when you are with her. Give your mind a rest. Also, try Netfllx.....that is actually inside the telly. You know that, WOW her. It's odd how you give me advice and then call me arrogant. Furthermore, I don't see the problem with dating someone who isn't as smart as you. Edited September 3, 2015 by Billybob23
Timshel Posted September 3, 2015 Posted September 3, 2015 It's odd how you give me advice and then call me arrogant. Touch'e...excellent point. I still mean what I said in the second post. You really needed to make a thread about dating someone you deem intellectually challenged? End advice, don't date someone you walk toward looking away from. Best Billybob23
Author Billybob23 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 I've read that couples are most successful when they're at similar levels in terms of attractiveness, intelligence, and socio-economic status, as then they can relate to and understand each other better. I just broke up with someone who was not on my level intellectually, though we broke up for reasons unrelated to intelligence. I was always aware that he was not on my level intellectually, but I excused it because he was very loving, good-hearted, etc. But it always bothered me a little, and the difference became more pronounced as time went on. Off topic, but I find it a great shame when smart/talented/gifted people use their gifts to enrich themselves at the expense of the greater good. Of course, most do. My ex was doing the same thing. I still hope he'll see the light and use his intelligence to find a more beneficial use for his gifts, and I gently made this appeal to him when we were together. I doubt he will, as his current lifestyle is too comfortable, and he's quite the materialist. But oh what a world it could be if people would not allow their gifts to be so easily bought and sold. Sorry for the late reply. Though if I thought a woman I was dating was on a higher level than I intellectually, I personally wouldn't be bothered by it. As long as I liked her.
Author Billybob23 Posted September 3, 2015 Author Posted September 3, 2015 Touch'e...excellent point. I still mean what I said in the second post. You really needed to make a thread about dating someone you deem intellectually challenged? End advice, don't date someone you walk toward looking away from. Best Billybob23 This was more for curiosity's sake actually.
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