katiegrl Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 (edited) I'm just trying to remind you that you two will need a lot of time to re-build the relationship and you basically have to hit the reset button and kinda date each other again. It may not be a bad thing for you to be in an apartment and on your "own" again. If you two are staying in touch and "dating" each other during this time, this is the time when you will be able to show him how far you've come as a strong, independent, and a woman who is emotionally in control. I can't believe what I am reading here from you RH. Dating each other again? He wants little if nothing to do with her, how would you suggest they "date" each other, when he refuses to communicate with her? His behavior has NOTHING to do with her past actions. He is using her past behavior as an excuse to string her along and not make a decision, leaving her confused, hurt and in limbo. That is not a nice, caring or loving thing to do by any stretch.... lola, whatever kick he's getting by treating you this way (which IMO is a form of emotional abuse which I and others have asserted from the getgo), going on almost THREE MONTHS now, should NOT be your problem. You have tried to show him you are making amends, you are in therapy, he wants NO PART of it -- obviously. These attempts to "appease" him, make nice, show him you've "changed" are getting you absolutely nowhere but in line for more of the same.... I am so sorry this isn't working out, but the longer you hang on, the lower your self-esteem will get, until there's nothing left, making it difficult for you to EVER move on and find a loving, caring, mutually-rewarding respectful RL with a man who loves you.... and CARES about you.... and most importantly, knows how to FORGIVE, and NOT punish you for months on end.... Edited October 22, 2015 by katiegrl
ExpatInItaly Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 It's over. Time to stop beating what is apparently a dead horse. 1
katiegrl Posted October 22, 2015 Posted October 22, 2015 It's over. Time to stop beating what is apparently a dead horse. AMEN. (ten characters)
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