ExpatInItaly Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Sorry to be very blunt OP, but she never loved you. People who love you don't cheat and then warm up to you when you tell them about your financial status. You're very young and plenty of better women are out there. Don't let someone walk all over you in the future.
karinelove Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 In a relationship with a girl for 1 year and 9 months now. I'm 23 and she's 20. First 2 months was fine... though she kept talking to guys in fb, adding them, and telling me she tells then she has a bf already. We argued about it that time more than once. Worse is, she does not want to put she's in a relationship with me in her profile, her excuse is that she wants to protect us from other people. After those two months was harsh. We kept on arguing, mostly why she is hiding me from everyone. Only two of her former friends know about it. Even now that's all. The relationship went really murky. She gets really angry or annoyed when she does not like what I said or do. Time went on, and relationship went bad to the point she tried to broke up with me saying "There's no more spark anymore." And next tried to broke up with me because I did not followed what she wants me to behave in the relationship, like asking why she still hides me from everyone still for so long. I begged both times for her to stay. And the darkness continues. I noticed she is losing interest on even talking to me on 5th - 6th month I guess. Then out of stupid desperation I finally told her how much I earn and what I really do at work. Well, I have a pharmaceutical business and it generates 76k us dollars every month, I have a 101 hectares of land in a tropical country, I also have an island in the same country, I have 4 houses, 6 cars, and a restaurant, and also studying double degrees in engineering, computer and electronics and going to take law soon. Reason why I have not told her about it is because she is my first gf and I only thought of love. And I am a conservative type. And yes a virgin, by choice. Also it might help that girls find me attractive, I'm tall I guess, 6'0" height. I was approached by girls many times but I was busy with work and school. I am also a singer in a rock band and I play sports a lot like basketball. Anyways after I told her about this all. She was speechless. Then she changed. She was being SO NICE... and now she cries... especially when she feels I'm going to break up with her because I am too busy. And now does everything I ask her to do. But I never took advantage of her and always respected her. And waiting to have sex in marriage only. So guys/girls... does she "loves" me because of... you know... me having all these things? I asked her and she said no. Well that's why I'm still with her. But I want to hear others' opinion. I just don't want to waste my time not knowing the truth of "our" love. Wow ! Amazing! at 23 you have all of that..And on top of that doing all those degrees. I am kind of skeptic , so imagine your girlfriend she would be too. And you hid all of this ..Can I asked you how you came about with all this wealth and how did you manage to hide it all. Anyhow, I personally don't think she is into you because of your possession. With what you said, I think she is annoyed, and at the least not impress.
anika99 Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Here's my take. I think she became attracted to you because of your wealth but that doesn't mean her feelings for you aren't genuine now. The thing is a woman has to feel respect for a man before she can love him and it sounds like at the beginning of your relationship she didn't have much respect for you at all. Seems like she found you rather annoying and needy and this just made her lose more and more respect for you and women don't love men they don't respect. When you told her of your wealth it changed her perception of you and made her look at you in a new way. Suddenly you weren't just a suffocating annoying dweeb, you were a sucessful man with considerable wealth and she realized you were actually quite a catch. This new you was attractive to her and she gained respect for you. Yes it may have been shallow of her to only become attracted you when she discovered your wealth, but from there she may have truly developed genuine feelings for her. So it's complicated because on the one hand it was your riches that initially won her over but on the other hand she might really love you now. Okay I just read your update where you say she cheated. In that case nothing I just wrote matters. She is deceitful and disloyal and you are wise to move on.
SawtoothMars Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 In a relationship with a girl for 1 year and 9 months now. I'm 23 and she's 20. First 2 months was fine... though she kept talking to guys in fb, adding them These are not the actions of a faithful woman. You clearly have faith. Do not try to convert a woman to your way of thinking. I really don't care how pretty you think this woman is. She has no business being in your life. YES you should make great efforts to hide how much money your family has. Women especially in California are extremely materialistic.... and they know that one child with you will set them up for life. This girl clearly changed once she learned you have family money. That is a very, very bad sign. Should there be a reason why? I'll be honest... I don't have a reason. Just everytime I see her it makes me happiest. And when she's sad... it burns me. And I want to always make her happy. Well... I can't think straight when I'm with her, I feel really happy, that's all. And in our first months... she really did an effort, even more than me, to make me happy too. I really don't know... I'm confused. Oh and she is my first so. That might help. If you can't control your emotions around her then you should go No Contact. Cut her out of your life completely. If you do not, then you will likely regret it forever.
SawtoothMars Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 Here's my take. I think she became attracted to you because of your wealth but that doesn't mean her feelings for you aren't genuine now. The thing is a woman has to feel respect for a man before she can love him and it sounds like at the beginning of your relationship she didn't have much respect for you at all. How exactly does this work? If a woman falls in love with you because she respects your money... that isn't very different from her falling in love with his money.
empresario Posted September 2, 2015 Posted September 2, 2015 So, you're a 23 year old full time student that has all of these things...or your FAMILY has all these things? I'm 28 and have spent a lot of time building my empire....and self-made men do not make that happen overnight. I still have a LONG ways to go. It's only easy if you're FaceBook. Are you FaceBook? Are you the Wolf of Wall Street? Yet while you built this empire you also decided you had an interest in computer tech and law and decided you had the time to do it? Did you actually LIE to this woman and it changed her opinion and now you're pissed off about it? My point is, and I've never accused anyone of this before this moment, your story sounds wayyyyy too fictitious to give any real, solid advice. What is it you want? Someone to view you without status? Then live humbly. Go Warren B. It sounds like, if true, you want to have signs of all of this wealth without people noticing them. I am truly confused by all of this.
Author californiabro Posted September 5, 2015 Author Posted September 5, 2015 So, you're a 23 year old full time student that has all of these things...or your FAMILY has all these things? I'm 28 and have spent a lot of time building my empire....and self-made men do not make that happen overnight. I still have a LONG ways to go. It's only easy if you're FaceBook. Are you FaceBook? Are you the Wolf of Wall Street? Yet while you built this empire you also decided you had an interest in computer tech and law and decided you had the time to do it? Did you actually LIE to this woman and it changed her opinion and now you're pissed off about it? My point is, and I've never accused anyone of this before this moment, your story sounds wayyyyy too fictitious to give any real, solid advice. What is it you want? Someone to view you without status? Then live humbly. Go Warren B. It sounds like, if true, you want to have signs of all of this wealth without people noticing them. I am truly confused by all of this. I would not reply to this thread again if not for the people who would read it. This is not a business forum so I will not discuss anything concerning it and I don't need to explain myself. Everything I said are true, you can believe it or not, but it is true. There are a lot of things you do not know in this world and don't be surprised if there are things that confuses you or makes it hard for you to understand or believe. Every reply here that is about not believing that such exists only made me sad. Because I see that there are limitations to even the act of believing. How can you have something more if you don't even believe there is more? To anyone who reads this, don't limit your understanding and before you assume, keep an open mind first. Lots of people like me exist. And for the record, yes it's family business, but if the meaning of self-made man is helping one's parents from nothing from the age of 12... then I consider myself one. If it's harder to believe... then it's your problem. Thank you... Thread CLOSED.
preraph Posted September 5, 2015 Posted September 5, 2015 Now that you know she's only into you for your stuff, you need to dump her. She wasn't in at all until she found out you had money. Now, I do realize some guys are perfectly fine buying the best looking woman they can afford but hoping you're not that guy. But if you are, you will get what you pay for.
Author californiabro Posted September 5, 2015 Author Posted September 5, 2015 Now that you know she's only into you for your stuff, you need to dump her. She wasn't in at all until she found out you had money. Now, I do realize some guys are perfectly fine buying the best looking woman they can afford but hoping you're not that guy. But if you are, you will get what you pay for. My last reply, not be here anymore. No, I loved her for her, never for her looks. Looks fade fast. She even thinks she is ugly, while in my eyes she was the most beautiful woman in the world. I may not said all here for everyone to know, but she was an amazing person despite everything. I loved her for her soul. And it was and still will be beautiful. Never did I use anything other than myself and my love in a relationship, that is all. I learned and I'm thankful.
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