mullins Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Hi, hope im in the right forum, i just wanted to share my experience. I guess i am a little addicted to SWG, though my interest is fading fast and i dont want to try and find a substitute. A year ago my wife and i discuvored Star Wars Galaxies, it was awsome, we were soon playing every spare minute even though we have two girls. Well my wife met a guy from the states and couldnt get enough of him, i had no problem with this as i would get the rewards in bed if you know what i mean. Well as time went on i could not get her to come to bed anymore, if he came online she would stay up and play with him, this became more and more frustrating, and i lay in bed getting mad that he was getting all the attention, and could hear her giggling away. At times it became too much, we would row and i would cut the power to her pc or smash the modem up! Our marriage already had its problems, but it was not long before i could see her feelings for him were stronger than the one for me. It moved onto chatting on IM, me getting in from work, seeing nothing had been done and a burnt dinner in the oven because she was sat chatting instead of watching the kitchen. I was making every effort i could to love and care for her, i could see the end of my marriage not too far away. I would mail him in game and in rl, sometimes hate mail, sometimes pleading for him to leave her alone, telling him it was breaking our marriage. The madder i got at him, the madder she got at me, telling me it was her escape, her only bit of happiness. He was a known womaniser, and left a few of them hurt, she knew this but could not give him up, they would change characters and move to another game to stop me interfering, along the way he would still play and cyber with other women, but my wife was happy to have her bit of time with him. It got to the point that i put up with it, or we seperate..i tried to put up with it, but knowing where her feelings lay that didnt last long, i loved this woman soo much. I kept being told that they were just friends, she would say he lives 6000 miles away, so they will never be an item. Well just after xmas she left, taking my two girls, i was heart broken, i had never felt such a loss, never regretted so much how i sometimes use to treat her, i had lost my best friend, family and children. I hated him now more than ever, i let him know how much too, everyone i confided in thought she was mad, she could not see what he was doing, but to her he was misunderstood, a kind caring loving person who was there for her. Eventually they fell out, they stopped playing together and she told me they just swap the occasional mail, but she still never came back to me, when he upset her i would hold her in my arms and comfort her. We have been apart for 3 months now, she booked a short break to Spain to recharge her batteries, i looked after the girls. When she got back we met up in a pub, what she told me has destroyed me, she didnt go to Spain, and she told me that the girls had just been told that she went to see him, they wined and dined, took in the sites and slept with each other, he is all she hoped he would be in rl, and it has left me a broken man, i cant move on while i have so much love for her. Well thats about the most of it there, thanks for reading.
Owl Posted May 12, 2005 Posted May 12, 2005 Well, very sorry to hear this my friend. You should go over to the infidelity section, and look at both my thread, and one belonging to Sysyphus. You'll be amazed at how similar our situations are. Not much advice I can offer you, other than to take care of yourself. You may take a look at the marriagebuilders.com website for more help in dealing with things too. Here is the link to my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t49539/
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