manmythlegend Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Hi, This is my first post on this website-stumbled across this on Google, and I decided I'd give it a try. Bottom line: I'm starting my sophmore year in college now, and I haven't gotten laid yet (in college). I had a girlfriend in high school previously, but the sex was garbage, and we didn't know what we were doing (did it twice). I'll describe my situation to you, and then maybe you can tell me what's wrong. Physically, I'm not the most built person, although with a tight t-shirt on, I look reasonably muscular. I have blonde hair and blue eyes, and I'd say my face is probably my greatest asset (defined, although I do still have light acne on my cheeks). To give you an idea, I work at an upscale restaurant when I'm home from school, and I've been told on more than one occasion by (for some reason consistently elderly) women and moms that I look like a male model. In my experience, it would appear that when I take a table's order at the place I work at, that I get more attention/eye contact/smiles from a college-aged girl's MOM, than I do from the girl herself. I'm serious-at this stage I've considered just starting to bang old ladies instead of the college pussy I'm really looking for. In terms of personality, I'd say I'm in a pretty good position. I was sort of an ugly-duckling as a kid, so I had to develop diverse interests, because girls back then had no time for me. I am a musician who plays several music instruments (piano, guitar, drums, etc...), I used to spend a lot of time painting and researching art, I have a strong interest in finance/investment, and spend a lot of time/money on this hobby. I'm normally the guy at the party making people laugh-I have a very easy-going personality. If you walked into a pre-drinks before we went out to the clubs at school, you'd probably see me standing on a table with a drink in one hand, leading the whole room in a chant. Before my shifts started for work, my friends and I would go to the local beach and see who could get the hottest girl's number. We weren't-and still aren't douchebags, we just didn't really have anything better to do when we all got together. If you read this post, and it seemed like bull ****, I can assure you it's not. I'm not full of myself-I'm actually reasonable humble most of the time, but the above two paragraphs describe exactly who I am. So that's it pretty much-I can get numbers, I can talk confidently with women (I have little, to zero social anxiety), I just have a very hard time sealing the deal (sex) (I have kissed many girls out at bars and clubs and parties, and have been on many dates). I know that was a very long post, and cheers to the people who got to this sentence haha-you guys are troopers, I probably wouldn't have gotten that far. Anyways-any help and/or feedback would be incredibly welcome. Thanks
Clarence_Boddicker Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 All you gotta do is steal your dad's 928, order a hooker, lip sync in your tighty whities & ride the train. Don't crack the egg...
Vintage79 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Ok - so you get numbers and kisses but no sex - well, you're probably boring, awkward, or have a repulsive personality. Basically- they want to jump you until they get to know you. Either that or you're just totally clueless...stop being a pansy - if they will kiss you in a club, you should be able to get them into the sheets and close the deal 15 minutes later...
Vercetti Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Sale drugs and or find girls on them, like the ones that hang in the strip but don't go to school.
mike_89 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I'd say just fix numbers/kisses while going out, set up a date while asking her number (setting up a date through phone has a way lower success rate), talk for a couple of minutes more after fixing her number (so she won't feel like you just fixed her number and are off to the next girl). If you really want to get laid make sure you date is at your own place (I find that dinner and a movie works really well and girls know what your intentions are if you tell them you want to go watch a movie with them at your place, they'll say no if they don't want to have sex with you). Learn to cook a decent meal, a lot of "professional" Italian recipes are actually very easy to make and taste very good (try "REAL Italian FARFALLE with Marinated Tomatoes from Calabria" from Youtube, that is one of my favourites, it's great as a first course). I guess you are a decent kisser? For most girls it is a real turnoff if the guy is a bad kisser (because to them, bad kissers are also bad in bed). If you think this might be the reason girls don't want to go further you might want to improve your technique. And learn how to arouse a girl properly. While watching the movie just pull her in close in a comfortable position, with her back towards you so you can easily reach her neck/ears with your mouth. I have yet to meet a girl who isn't incredibly sensitive in those areas. If she is over for dinner and a movie she will definitely be turned off if you don't make the moves to sleep with her. Now, don't expect sex if she is coming over for dinner and a movie, but be sure to make the moves. To a girl a guy who won't make the move on such a date is either not interested in her or too insecure to try.
nyah Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I damn well hope you do not start your conversations leading with your physicality and personality when you're meeting a chick for the first time, like you have on here. If that is what you're honestly looking for, try a different approach and be less about yourself and more about the woman..... 1
d0nnivain Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 the way dogs can smell fear, most women can innately sense when I guy only wants sex. If you are giving off that vibe, you are your own worst enemy. So my Q to you is do you want to get laid or do you want a GF? If it's the former just go to a party & pick up the drunkest girl in the room who still has the ability to consent. If she's too drunk to speak coherently or walk, she no longer has the legal capacity to say yes, so don't go home with her.
Jj66 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 the way dogs can smell fear, most women can innately sense when a guy only wants sex. I wonder. It seems too many women get pumped and dumped for this to actually be the case.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I had a girlfriend in high school previously, but the sex was garbage, and we didn't know what we were doing (did it twice). And how has that changed? If you haven't taken the time to learn anything (and not from ignorant porn for the love of god) then it's still going to be garbage. I'd be using this time to educate myself about how a woman's body actually WORKS so you have more confidence in what you're doing.
Jj66 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Now, don't expect sex if she is coming over for dinner and a movie, but be sure to make the moves. To a girl a guy who won't make the move on such a date is either not interested in her or too insecure to try. This. At least by college age, if there is mutual physical attraction they don't come over to your place alone or invite you over to theirs without expecting you will make a move and there will likely be at least be a heavy make out session. By agreeing to be alone with you they have shown they trust you. Don't abuse that trust by trying to force things but you absolutely should try to make a move. If you don't she will wonder what your intentions toward her are. It's so expected that you will try to make a move you almost owe her an explantation if you don't in order to protect her ego.
HereNorThere Posted September 1, 2015 Posted September 1, 2015 We all have our sticking points and it sounds like yours is physical escalation. It's an art form, man. One step forward, two steps back. If you do enough to build comfort and attraction in the right amounts, put out a seductive but not creepy sexual vibe, the girls will rip YOUR clothes off. Google The Game - Physical escalation, kino, asd, lmr, things like that. Ask other guys that are good with girls. The right amount of comfort, the right amount of touch, etc. Be sensual, not sexual. You gotta make sure the oven is preheated, ya know. She needs to be so riled up that she can't help but want YOU, not the other way around. Btw- do you have condoms and lube? If you don't, you aren't even serious about getting laid. You gotta have that mindset, be prepared, etc.
giblesp Posted September 1, 2015 Posted September 1, 2015 You refer to the girls as 'college pussy,' and wonder why they don't want to be intimate with you.
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