Althomas3082 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I have been on a few dating sites, I chat with a few guys and then I'll exchange numbers and if the conversation is really good, I'll meet. The problem comes after we meet, we hit it off and I get attached bc I invested time and opened up. A few friends have said that I shouldn't open up so fast but how else do you get to know someone? I've also been told that I should date more than just one so I don't fixate on 1, but I think it's wrong. I get heartbroken when they leave after a few weeks or months because I have loyalty to them and have opened up. I'm to the point where I want to stop trying at all to avoid the hurt and disappointment. I'm going crazy and need advice. 2
Jj66 Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Welcome to the joys of dating. It's been this way since dating began.
Stage5Clinger Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I have been on a few dating sites, I chat with a few guys and then I'll exchange numbers and if the conversation is really good, I'll meet. The problem comes after we meet, we hit it off and I get attached bc I invested time and opened up. A few friends have said that I shouldn't open up so fast but how else do you get to know someone? I've also been told that I should date more than just one so I don't fixate on 1, but I think it's wrong. I get heartbroken when they leave after a few weeks or months because I have loyalty to them and have opened up. I'm to the point where I want to stop trying at all to avoid the hurt and disappointment. I'm going crazy and need advice. We should get together I'm the same exact way. It always feels so good and right to open up like that to someone and when they don't reciprocate it's like being hit by a semi. People are just messed up these days I still believe in love.
edgygirl Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Agreed. But you probably mean online dating. When I dated before online existed, things were not this mess Welcome to the joys of dating. It's been this way since dating began.
edgygirl Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 To the two clingers in this thread, smarten up. To protect your heart, multi-dating until there is commitment, and not getting too attached is the only way to go to protect your heart. Sorry.
JewelD Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I'm having the same issue. Some people like dating multiple people at once. But it's not for everybody. Personally, I like to focus on one person. I mean, if you know what you want, you're going to like 1 person best out of say 5 different dates, so why continue juggling all these people if you already know one person has captured your attention. You're going to spend most of your time thinking about them anyway. The girl I'm talking to is dating multiple people, and it's very hard to get in touch with her or really get to know her because she's so preoccupied. And it makes me not want to invest as much in her because I know she's not investing much in me. I'm trying to treat people the way they treat me. It's hard to not get attached, so I try to make sure I do other things throughout the day, like going about my regular routine, leaving my phone off for awhile, not looking at their pictures and daydreaming. Value yourself more than you value them and if they decide to end it, you'll just look at them like "wow, your loss".
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