turiax Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 Been dating a girl for 2 months and a few days. Met her parents and brother and what not. Everything was great at first. However all of a sudden about 3 weeks ago she started acting really weird. She works full time and sometimes overtime and she started college again so shes pretty busy. However she keeps telling me how busy she is but on her days off (shes always off on Sundays). She seems to have plans with her friends and avoids me. The past 4 Sundays were like that, this week she went out to dinner with her friends, last night she went out with her friends, and today she was with her friend... That's 3 times in one week however she doesn't seem to have time to see me. I've only seen her 2 times in the last 22 days and on top of that she stopped texting me goodnight and we haven't even snap chatted the last week but before on snap chat we had a streak going of 45 and 66 days cause we use to always communicate. My gut is telling me that she lost interest, however my friend at work said "why wouldn't she dump you if that's the case?" any advice? Example of Friday night, i text her goodnight at 11:59, she posts a snap on her story at 12... and doesn't text me back til the next day at 1 saying sorry I passed out... like really? Any advice would help.
drseuss Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 The only thing you can do really is stop texting her and wait for her to come to you , the more you push to see her and communicate the more you will push her away ,play it cool and if she gets hold of you give it an hour or so before you reply This could be the start of a slippery slope and you could fund a girl that wants to see you and talk to you as much as you do , I knew my ex was going to break up with me after she acted just like this and I wish I broke it off when I knew things were bad ..... 3
quattrob Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Been dating a girl for 2 months and a few days. Met her parents and brother and what not. Everything was great at first. However all of a sudden about 3 weeks ago she started acting really weird. She works full time and sometimes overtime and she started college again so shes pretty busy. However she keeps telling me how busy she is but on her days off (shes always off on Sundays). She seems to have plans with her friends and avoids me. The past 4 Sundays were like that, this week she went out to dinner with her friends, last night she went out with her friends, and today she was with her friend... That's 3 times in one week however she doesn't seem to have time to see me. I've only seen her 2 times in the last 22 days and on top of that she stopped texting me goodnight and we haven't even snap chatted the last week but before on snap chat we had a streak going of 45 and 66 days cause we use to always communicate. My gut is telling me that she lost interest, however my friend at work said "why wouldn't she dump you if that's the case?" any advice? Example of Friday night, i text her goodnight at 11:59, she posts a snap on her story at 12... and doesn't text me back til the next day at 1 saying sorry I passed out... like really? Any advice would help. Your gut feeling is right, she lost interest and she hasn't broken up with you because there isn't a real obvious reason to but have no doubt that she will dump you once there is a clear one and not just some simple "I lost interest in you sorry". Obviously she doesn't want to look like the bad person so that's how she's going to do it. Time to forget about her TC, it's only been 2 months or so between you 2 so you dodged a bullet. At least it was early and not 2 years after. 2
Author turiax Posted August 31, 2015 Author Posted August 31, 2015 What would be the best way to end this. Don't wanna keep wasting my time here when it's clear as day she doesn't intend on sticking around for long.
coryreply Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Have you thought about cutting contact and seeing how she reacts? I think her reaction would give you a pretty solid idea of where she's at.
mightycpa Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 What would be the best way to end this. Don't wanna keep wasting my time here when it's clear as day she doesn't intend on sticking around for long.Snapchat her and tell her you've lost interest, and wish her luck.
Miss_Bee Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Ignore her. Her interest will spring back super fast. You may be texting her too much. If you put out the feel that you are needy it will turn her off.
mightycpa Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Ignore her. Her interest will spring back super fast. You may be texting her too much. If you put out the feel that you are needy it will turn her off.Unless you're super-desperate for sex, trust me, you don't want that kind of manufactured interest. You want the real kind, the kind that can last without having to constantly tease it out of her. 2
Eighty_nine Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Unless you're super-desperate for sex, trust me, you don't want that kind of manufactured interest. You want the real kind, the kind that can last without having to constantly tease it out of her. It's true though. Ignoring her or contacting her wayyyyy less will work. 1
mightycpa Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 It's true though. Ignoring her or contacting her wayyyyy less will work.I agree it might... at least long enough to bang her once or twice more. Then it's back to splitsville, when she remembers why she ghosted in the first place. 1
SoThatHappened Posted September 1, 2015 Posted September 1, 2015 Crazy girls... wanting what you can't have. Before you come down on me for being sexist and chauvinist, please know that there's some jest in my part there. "I have him wrapped around my finger... bleh... I'm not interested." "He's ignoring me! I want him so badly right now!" OP, she's done. Her desires are somewhere else. The absolute best thing you can do is confront her and tell her you want to breakup. At least she'll see you have a backbone, even if you're secretly doing it while wanting her at the same time. Cut ties like a mature gentleman. At the absolute least, she'll see you as a strong confident person for doing that. At the most, she'll want to jump your bones. Either way, she's checked out. Trust me on this. So many of us have been there, especially the males on here. I had a girl screaming from the rooftops that she loved me for 6.75 months. Then a coworker hit on her, and I was an afterthought. I know the feeling and I know the signs. Run with your dignity in place. That's all you have with this one right now. 1
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