Avocadoes Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 My (f 22) fwb (m 31) ended things with me. I completely understand that he's doing the right thing. He realized at his age he should be doing more for his life. He's been wasting his life away at a job he hates. He reconciled with an ex from 3 years ago and they decided to move across the country together where he has tons of career opportunities and they can settle down. He doesn't know I feel this way. He thinks I'm crazy, deeply, in love with him. I reacted badly to the news by crying (not sobbing, but still) on the phone when he told me. I asked if I could see him before he left and he said ok. He bailed and I sent him a text saying "Really all I ask of you is honesty". Then another the next day saying "Please let me know what day works for you. Really... it's important to me". Since I figured he wasn't going to see me I posted a status update saying "One of the sanest, surest, joys in life is being happy for other's good fortune". Because I wanted him to know that's how I feel (stupid of me. I know). Looking back I regret it all. We were hooking up together for a year, which is a long time, but it's my fault for getting attached. He didn't owe it to me at all to say bye in person. Am I just going to be remembered as the crazy girl who got way too attached?
carhill Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 IME, though it might seem harsh at the time, if your recount is accurate, the adjectives you use, like 'crazy, emotional' won't be a feature of any thoughts because he won't have any thoughts. He'll be focused on his career, his ex, now apparently reconciled, and his current life. You'll be the past and largely forgotten. This is unremarkable. Why? Because that's how life works. By the time you get to his age, 31, you'll see this more clearly. Right now, everything is vivid and important and seemingly will go on forever. Looking back, that period was kinda fun, like a rollercoaster ride. Life goes on. 1
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