Lobinx19 Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 (edited) It all began at 2 in the morning a few weeks back. I was bored out my brain and fed up of having no guys to talk to. One of my friends always went on about tinder but id hate having an account on that, I'd see sooo many people i knew and that's just a weird concept to me. Nevertheless I thought 'online dating is the way' and proceeded to make an account on okcupid. To be honest I wasn't looking for anything, I just wanted to talk to someone completely disconnected to my life because I was bored. After making the account I was on it for hours, literally. I viewed profile after profile and they were just SO mundane or a creepy 30 year old dude with a cringey chat up line (I'm 17 btw). Anyway I must have viewed this guys profile at one point, I wouldn't say he was outrageously attractive but I didn't look at his profile for nothing. He lived in America (I'm from the UK) but I didn't care about that at the time because it was going to be a one night thing, right? Anyway, a while later I got a message off him, making a joke along the lines of 'I could love you across the sea', it wasn't boring like most of the messages I received so I replied. To cut a long story short we started talking at about 4am and didn't stop until 10am. After that I didn't hear from him for a few days which I was way more upset about than I thought I would be, even though we did have an amazing connection even through that short conversation. Anyway I couldn't take it so I messaged him like 'hey I liked talking to you, my number is ***** if you want to contact me on whatsapp' and so on. He didn't reply again. It bothered me so much that I just had to know why so I messaged him again saying 'hey, I can't take it much longer did I do something wrong? I just want to know'. He replied very apologetically saying that he hadn't been on the site in a few days due to something that had gone on in his family and he liked talking to me too and we started having a conversation again. We became friends on Facebook and have been talking since. I've talked to him on FaceTime/the phone one time when I had been drinking (I wasn't drunk, just a lot more confident) and we talked for hours aimlessly and it was just amazing. Anyway, after talking to him for a few weeks and I really like him. I saw this post once that completely related to how I feel saying something a long the lines of 'you know when you don't love someone yet but you know that feeling could develop? One of my friends calls that potential love'. It sounds so dumb about a guy I only just met but he is a dream and I do have potential love for him. The trouble is because I've never met him in person, would long distance work? He has had a troubled past as well, is my like for him clouding my judgement? He is older than me, 6 years older. At this point in our lives, 17 to 23 seems like a huge age gap but my parents have friends where the age gap is much bigger. Like the guy says 'it's not weird unless we make it weird'. I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this on here. Advice I guess? I can't quit it now, I'm too attached and too curious to see where it could go but I really don't want to get my heart broken. I probably wouldn't even listen to advice anyway because I just want everything to work out so I'll just continue and hope for the best. But anyway, tell me your experiences, your advice, your opinions, anything, I just want to talk about it and hear and outsider perspective. Thank you for reading Edited August 30, 2015 by Lobinx19
emi Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I think this goes better in Long distance relationship forum but ehm, i will give you my advice. The first thing you need to do is discussing meeting up. See if hes willing to go to you or you need to get your butt there. If hes unwilling to travel or unwilling to meet you if you go there or you cant travel then there is nothing to see about this
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