max3732 Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 I went out with this girl I met online and she didn't look anything like her pictures and I just didn't find her physically attractive. Not ugly, but not my type. I asked questions about her family, where she's from, work, what she likes to do, etc and we found some common interests and had an enjoyable conversation. Then there was this moment when we had both finished with the topic that I just drew a complete blank over what else to ask her or what to talk about. We're sitting there at the restaurant and she's looking at me and it makes me uncomfortable so I looked straight down at my food while I'm trying to think of something. Afterwards I realize this is something I do on 1st dates that I never do with family or friends. This wasn't someone I wanted to go on a 2nd date with so it wasn't as big a deal, but what how are you supposed to handle this kind of situation?
marcusdevilliers Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 the thing is. you aready view this person as someone that you dont like, in that way i mean someone who isnt your type. so yourmind immediately draws a line when it comes to her and your probably not feeling it. if this person is someone you enjoy talking to and has good qualities you should maybe give them a chance and see what happens. you never know what can happen..also remember, if your not really feeling it now it may bring distress later on.
jen1447 Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 If all you're worried about is just keeping the conversation going (and not making a lasting good impression), that's easy - get your date to talk about themselves as much as possible, like you did, by asking questions (ppl pretty much always like talking about themselves), and if that fails or runs out, start telling stories about yourself. Everybody's got stories. Then watch for opportunities to bounce your stories back in your date's direction for mutual participation so they're not just listening to your life story. (If there's a genuine spark tho, your life story will suddenly become interesting to your date, so don't be afraid to share if things are going well.) 1
Gaeta Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 Running out of things to say has never happened to me lol, I'm a big chatter. Like Jen said you make them talk and if all fails start telling stories. One thing though, you said you started looking at your food. Were you having dinner as a first date? That's a big no no. Dinners is for when you met the person already and you know you want to see them again. Keep it to coffee, park, or ice cream for first date. If she's not what you're looking for than you're out of there quickly.
Frank2thepoint Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 ppl pretty much always like talking about themselves, especially women FTFY by adding the boldfaced. But Jen gave some good advice, which supplements what you already do. Asking questions, listening to what your date says, and picking out interesting bits to branch off with, to engage your date further. Also paying attention to any similar experiences you may share, which is a gold mine for more discussion and a chance to connect. Share some stories about yourself to further the conversation, and to see if your date is really at all interested in you.
Siquijor Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 That awkward moment has only occurred on one occasion for me although it didn't effect me on future dates. I tend to have a drink to feel more relaxed and the conversation usually flows without a problem.
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