UntitledNotepad Posted August 30, 2015 Posted August 30, 2015 Hey Guys, So I'm a 20 year old guy, and I'm a virgin. In middle school my parents wouldn't let me date, in high school I was too dorky, and in college I am just barely starting to meet girls, but am still very reserved, old-fashioned, and conservative. On a first date I had a while ago, I accidentally revealed my virginity status. I just took a bite of food, she immediately asked me a question, and I sort of choked a bit and said "just a second", finished my bite, and said "sorry, I haven't really done this 'dating' thing before!", to which she replied "oh no, its fine don't worry about it!". At first I felt embarrassed by the fact that I had not been with a girl before, but I am now beginning to question that feeling after reading the promiscuous pasts of posters here. I'm almost starting to be proud of it, proud of the fact that I am clean, pure, and ready to share my heart, soul, and body 100% with the love of my life. What do you guys think? Should a 20 year old college student's virginity be flaunted and readily revealed (i.e. 'you are special because I've never done this with anyone else before'), not discussed ('I've had a few small relationships before, but nothing serious'), or hidden ('I've had girlfriends before, but I'm totally over them now'). How exactly would you go about the relationship history as a virgin? Thanks!
Grumpybutfun Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 Reveal whatever you feel comfortable with and be happy with who you are. There are no wrong answers as long as you accept yourself and behave with confidence and humor. Good luck, Grumps
road Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 I would not broadcast my number even if it is 0 or 100. Though if on a date and a girl asked me my number and was a virgin I would say 0.
Rejected Rosebud Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 It's nothing to be ashamed of for sure! Be yourself! I am not a super big fan of flaunting though. Your "virginity status" is the business of a very few people besides yourself, it's personal! When you find yourself getting close to a girl I'm sure you will feel how to tell her, if you want to.
carhill Posted August 31, 2015 Posted August 31, 2015 How exactly would you go about the relationship history as a virgin? Some examples: 'I've dated a variety of ladies over the years but haven't found a good fit for a marriage' 'I've had a few girlfriends but nothing long-term' 'Why do you ask?' TBH, the subject didn't come up often during my dating years but that's how I handled it, mostly from my mid-20's to 35 when that period ended. I don't think I ever mentioned my virginity at all. The lady in my first long-term relationship who received it probably would have fallen over had she known, since her daughter was almost old enough to be sexually active. Not revealing virginity status was pretty much a non-issue for me. Dates and physical expressions of intimacy not involving genitals still happened and life went on. Way down the road, my exW and I got a bit of a laugh out of it, mainly the absurdity of it all, the idea (misguided) of waiting for marriage in my generation. Epic fail.
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